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So I talked to my girl's 15 year old sis, and she said that she's just messing with me to see what the sweetest thing I can possibly do for her to "win her back" (Even though I haven't lost her and she just thinks I think I have, hehe...). So, anyways, I have two options. I can:
a) Do something totally creative and romantic, and win her once and for all, or
b) I can play hard to get right back at her
I think I know I should do a, but b seems like a whole lot of fun...
I figured I'd stop by unexpected sunday night and take her to a cliff overlooking a beautiful lake by her house where I would have one of my buddies have a candlelit dinner set up. I could soooo pull this off and look like the best guy on earth here, but I feel like I should mess with her head right back, hehe, now that I know she still likes me a whole lot!
Any more creative ideas for either a or b?
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Alright, just to give a little background on the situation. I've known this girl for about a year and a half. I met her at a mutual friend get together back then, and with her living an hour and a half away, we've gotten to be very good friends through AIM but very little in person contact.
About a month and a half ago I started dating this girl, and making the 1 1/2 hour drive 1-2 times weekly. now, neither of us had had a serious significant other for the past 8 months or so, so we both agreed to take everything slow on the sexual end of things, and I told her that I completely respected her on that, and that if she wanted to move on, that she should initiate so that she wouldn't feel pressured to do anything.
Anyways, things progressed, and Tuesday night we had intercourse... afterwards I stayed around for another 3-4 hours with her, talking and cuddling and what not, and she busted out the "You know, I really think I love you" line (With her being 18, my being 19 this is some pretty big stuff). Having known her for as long as I have, and having liked her for a good deal of that time, I replied that I thought I did too. So finally the time came when I had to leave, and she tried to stop me from going, lol, which didn't really do her much good, but made me know that she cared... she told me again that she loved me, and that she hoped she'd see me again soon.
We now skip to the next day, where she gets online and I talk to her, and she is very cold towards me, but assures me nothing is wrong, she's just tired. I know this obviously isn't true, but decide for the moment I'll respect her not telling me what is wrong. I call her the next day, and she is very happy/herself again. That is, until the end of the conversation when she tells me that she is starting to think that maybe being friends is a better idea then being significant others... I ask her if she meant what she had said when she said she loved me, and I could hear her start crying and trying to convince myself (and herself too I think...) that she only said what she did because she got caught up in the moment. On the other hand, she made it very clear that she doesn't want to break up yet, that she just wanted to let me know how she was starting to feel, and that it might just be a fluke feeling or what not.
Anyways, I'm VERY confused right now. I've knon the girl long enough to know that she doesn't do stuff with just anyone, and that she doesn't say stuff like that to just anyone, implying that there is another problem. I know her family loves me, so that isn't it. The only thing I can think of is that we moved to fast for her liking and now she is freaked out, although she was the one who pushed for it, not me... is this customary for females, or what? This girl means a whole lot to me, she's awesome, and I don't want to overblow the issue, but I think that I need to do SOMETHING... Any advice guys?
So I talked to my girl's 15 year old sis, and she said that she's just messing with me to see what the sweetest thing I can possibly do for her to "win her back" (Even though I haven't lost her and she just thinks I think I have, hehe...). So, anyways, I have two options. I can:
a) Do something totally creative and romantic, and win her once and for all, or
b) I can play hard to get right back at her
I think I know I should do a, but b seems like a whole lot of fun...
I figured I'd stop by unexpected sunday night and take her to a cliff overlooking a beautiful lake by her house where I would have one of my buddies have a candlelit dinner set up. I could soooo pull this off and look like the best guy on earth here, but I feel like I should mess with her head right back, hehe, now that I know she still likes me a whole lot!
Any more creative ideas for either a or b?
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Alright, just to give a little background on the situation. I've known this girl for about a year and a half. I met her at a mutual friend get together back then, and with her living an hour and a half away, we've gotten to be very good friends through AIM but very little in person contact.
About a month and a half ago I started dating this girl, and making the 1 1/2 hour drive 1-2 times weekly. now, neither of us had had a serious significant other for the past 8 months or so, so we both agreed to take everything slow on the sexual end of things, and I told her that I completely respected her on that, and that if she wanted to move on, that she should initiate so that she wouldn't feel pressured to do anything.
Anyways, things progressed, and Tuesday night we had intercourse... afterwards I stayed around for another 3-4 hours with her, talking and cuddling and what not, and she busted out the "You know, I really think I love you" line (With her being 18, my being 19 this is some pretty big stuff). Having known her for as long as I have, and having liked her for a good deal of that time, I replied that I thought I did too. So finally the time came when I had to leave, and she tried to stop me from going, lol, which didn't really do her much good, but made me know that she cared... she told me again that she loved me, and that she hoped she'd see me again soon.
We now skip to the next day, where she gets online and I talk to her, and she is very cold towards me, but assures me nothing is wrong, she's just tired. I know this obviously isn't true, but decide for the moment I'll respect her not telling me what is wrong. I call her the next day, and she is very happy/herself again. That is, until the end of the conversation when she tells me that she is starting to think that maybe being friends is a better idea then being significant others... I ask her if she meant what she had said when she said she loved me, and I could hear her start crying and trying to convince myself (and herself too I think...) that she only said what she did because she got caught up in the moment. On the other hand, she made it very clear that she doesn't want to break up yet, that she just wanted to let me know how she was starting to feel, and that it might just be a fluke feeling or what not.
Anyways, I'm VERY confused right now. I've knon the girl long enough to know that she doesn't do stuff with just anyone, and that she doesn't say stuff like that to just anyone, implying that there is another problem. I know her family loves me, so that isn't it. The only thing I can think of is that we moved to fast for her liking and now she is freaked out, although she was the one who pushed for it, not me... is this customary for females, or what? This girl means a whole lot to me, she's awesome, and I don't want to overblow the issue, but I think that I need to do SOMETHING... Any advice guys?
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