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[dpopiz]

 

[dpopiz]

ok here's my plan... tell me how you think it will work:
next time I see her, I'll get up a whole lot of courage (impossible) and just spit it all out and tell her how I think we're not open/casual enough with each other

 

[Kenny]

Me and my gf used to be like that too. Both of us are reallllly quiet. We went out before but I decided to call it off and become friends. We got back together about two weeks ago and everything's been smooth sailing. If she has nothing to talk about, I just make something up. Talking about her shirt is better than having absolute silence.

I used to be really passive, and wanted her to be the active one in the relationship, but that would never happen. Once that hit me, I realized that I just have to initiate conversation and learn to be more open. Boost her ego, just keep asking her questions, and the conversation should roll.

Yes, it is better to be friends, then go out. It works a lot better this way and this is how most relationships are developed.

 

[Kenny]

Originally posted by: dpopiz
ok here's my plan... tell me how you think it will work:
next time I see her, I'll get up a whole lot of courage (impossible) and just spit it all out and tell her how I think we're not open/casual enough with each other

Winner?

You might not even have to go that route. Just start being open around her and she'll open up. If that doesn't happen, then you can tell her she needs to be more open.

 

[isaacmacdonald]

sounds like n00bs. nothing to be ashamed about. sometimes it's weird how expectations making conversation feel forced and unnatural. Instead of doing the usual, just ask kind of personal questions and share personal thoughts and feelings. In no time, you'll know whether youshare common interests/feelings.

Interestingly, it's far easier to relate to most people when you're young primarily because your method of thinking is far less rigid and you're generally more open to different perspectives-

 

[dpopiz]

yes, we are n00bs, but everybody's got to start somewhere. I need to learn how to get past this phase

 

[Blindman]

Err . . . dude . . .
ok try this before you go out with her hit the gym for 2 hours
work out like there is no tommorow. You will be psyched up when you meet her you should be able to talk to her without feeling so shy. Try that . . .

= P maybe i should do that when i go talk to my ex ahahha. oh well.