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Skel

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Five years I was with her. There were some problems, and a lot of them were on my end. She left me close to two weeks ago. I never even knew how much I loved her, until she was gone. She came here in the middle of the night on Tuesday in her PJs to "return a pair of sweats". I pointed out that no one returns sweats in the middle of the night, let alone in her PJs. She then told me that she wanted to know how I was doing.
Thursday she called me, and I tried to talk about anything but us. She brought it up by telling me that "this didn't feel right". I talked to her more on it, and told her my faults in it all. She told me that what she wants right now is to be seperated from me. I have no idea what will happen next. I want to give her what she wants, though it is not what everything inside me is screaming to do.
 

pulse8

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Move on.

It's the only thing you can do. If you dwell on it, you're just going to make yourself insane.
 

Skel

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Originally posted by: pulse8
Move on.

It's the only thing you can do. If you dwell on it, you're just going to make yourself insane.

After five years, moving on is a lot more easy said then done...
 

BD231

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Relationships take effort, if you were lazy about letting her know you love her and all that mess then that'll happen. If she dosen't come back to you there's really nothing you can do, cut your loss and move on. It's tough for a few weeks, even months, but you'll start to feel better after a while.

ps: 5 years will take a good year to get back to normal
 

ontoyouAgain

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Wow there seems to be a lot of that in the air lately. My boyfriend lives 500 plus miles from me, I went tosee him last weekend. The day I left things just didn't seem right with the way he was acting. So finally I asked him if things were ok, cause he was totally blowing me off. I got the run around, then he finally told me he didn't know how much he loved me anymore. I haven't felt this lonely in a long time, but I know that things will eventually get better. I guess I can't really say he is much for a boyfriend anymore, since he doesn't even know if he loves me or not. Having someone leave your life like that, is like having someone die, you have to pretty much morn your loss, then you can move on. Me right now, i am in the "I am ticked and don't any man dare think of me as anything other than friend material right now", mood. Although it hurts right now, it will be a point in your life that you can look back on for guidance.
 

joohang

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I sometimes wonder what the hell this "love" thing is all about.

Can anyone who love to use the term "love" explain what "love" is?
 

illusion88

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Originally posted by: joohang
I sometimes wonder what the hell this "love" thing is all about.

Can anyone who love to use the term "love" explain what "love" is?

Who the hell knows?
Useless drama, pointless...
Its a Temptest of emotion that cannot be avoided nor detured. You must submit or face interal danmation.

As for Skels situtation.. danm.
Cant help you much. My advice is about as good as dog sh!t. I havn't been with anyone for five years. I would avoide the drinking. The world can go with one less Acholaholic. But then agin, my adice is a about as good as dog sh!t, so pay no heed to my usless babble.
 

joohang

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Originally posted by: illusion88
Originally posted by: joohang
I sometimes wonder what the hell this "love" thing is all about.

Can anyone who love to use the term "love" explain what "love" is?

Who the hell knows?
Useless drama, pointless...
Its a Temptest of emotion that cannot be avoided nor detured. You must submit or face interal danmation.

As for Skels situtation.. danm.
Cant help you much. My advice is about as good as dog sh!t. I havn't been with anyone for five years. I would avoide the drinking. The world can go with one less Acholaholic. But then agin, my adice is a about as good as dog sh!t, so pay no heed to my usless babble.

Funny how people talk about it as though they know what it is but they actually have no clue what it is, isn't it?
 

illusion88

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Originally posted by: joohang
Originally posted by: illusion88
Originally posted by: joohang
I sometimes wonder what the hell this "love" thing is all about.

Can anyone who love to use the term "love" explain what "love" is?

Who the hell knows?
Useless drama, pointless...
Its a Temptest of emotion that cannot be avoided nor detured. You must submit or face interal danmation.

As for Skels situtation.. danm.
Cant help you much. My advice is about as good as dog sh!t. I havn't been with anyone for five years. I would avoide the drinking. The world can go with one less Acholaholic. But then agin, my adice is a about as good as dog sh!t, so pay no heed to my usless babble.

Funny how people talk about it as though they know what it is but they actually have no clue what it is, isn't it?

again.. My advice is about as good as dog sh!t. Dont listen to me.
haha...
 

Skel

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Originally posted by: illusion88
Originally posted by: joohang
I sometimes wonder what the hell this "love" thing is all about.

Can anyone who love to use the term "love" explain what "love" is?

Who the hell knows?
Useless drama, pointless...
Its a Temptest of emotion that cannot be avoided nor detured. You must submit or face interal danmation.

As for Skels situtation.. danm.
Cant help you much. My advice is about as good as dog sh!t. I havn't been with anyone for five years. I would avoide the drinking. The world can go with one less Acholaholic. But then agin, my adice is a about as good as dog sh!t, so pay no heed to my usless babble.

The last thing I'm doing right now is pouring myself in to the bottle... I'm afraid of the time I'll waste doing it, and what I'll miss by doing it..
 

illusion88

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Originally posted by: Skel
Originally posted by: illusion88
Originally posted by: joohang
I sometimes wonder what the hell this "love" thing is all about.

Can anyone who love to use the term "love" explain what "love" is?

Who the hell knows?
Useless drama, pointless...
Its a Temptest of emotion that cannot be avoided nor detured. You must submit or face interal danmation.

As for Skels situtation.. danm.
Cant help you much. My advice is about as good as dog sh!t. I havn't been with anyone for five years. I would avoide the drinking. The world can go with one less Acholaholic. But then agin, my adice is a about as good as dog sh!t, so pay no heed to my usless babble.

The last thing I'm doing right now is pouring myself in to the bottle... I'm afraid of the time I'll waste doing it, and what I'll miss by doing it..

Thats good. The reason I brought it up is because whe my friends dad left his wife he went straight to the bottle and never looked back. Although their relationship was considerably longer then yours...
Still, the possibility is there.

 

pulse8

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May 3, 2000
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Originally posted by: Skel
Originally posted by: pulse8
Move on.

It's the only thing you can do. If you dwell on it, you're just going to make yourself insane.

After five years, moving on is a lot more easy said then done...

That doesn't mean it doesn't need to get done.
 

ontoyouAgain

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Originally posted by: pulse8
Originally posted by: Skel
Originally posted by: pulse8
Move on.

It's the only thing you can do. If you dwell on it, you're just going to make yourself insane.

After five years, moving on is a lot more easy said then done...

That doesn't mean it doesn't need to get done.

That is really true, doing it is the hard part. I am gonna quote another thread that was posted earlier something that stuck in my head... "Is there anything easier done than said?"

 

simms

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Originally posted by: Skel
Originally posted by: pulse8
Move on.

It's the only thing you can do. If you dwell on it, you're just going to make yourself insane.

After five years, moving on is a lot more easy said then done...

It is... but, in the end, what can you do? You can't force someone to like you.. that's one thing money can't buy.. well, HONESTLY like you, anyways. You can buy words, but not emotions.
 

datalink7

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Originally posted by: joohang
Originally posted by: illusion88
Originally posted by: joohang
I sometimes wonder what the hell this "love" thing is all about.

Can anyone who love to use the term "love" explain what "love" is?

Who the hell knows?
Useless drama, pointless...
Its a Temptest of emotion that cannot be avoided nor detured. You must submit or face interal danmation.

As for Skels situtation.. danm.
Cant help you much. My advice is about as good as dog sh!t. I havn't been with anyone for five years. I would avoide the drinking. The world can go with one less Acholaholic. But then agin, my adice is a about as good as dog sh!t, so pay no heed to my usless babble.

Funny how people talk about it as though they know what it is but they actually have no clue what it is, isn't it?

But isn't this so with just about anything?
 

Skel

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Originally posted by: simms
Originally posted by: Skel
Originally posted by: pulse8
Move on.

It's the only thing you can do. If you dwell on it, you're just going to make yourself insane.

After five years, moving on is a lot more easy said then done...

It is... but, in the end, what can you do? You can't force someone to like you.. that's one thing money can't buy.. well, HONESTLY like you, anyways. You can buy words, but not emotions.

She says she still loves me, she just needs to be seperated right now. Which I guess could mean that she's trying to spare my feelings. I've never been good at love...
 

xuanman

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igve it a littlle time...after 5 years, she also needs some time to re-assess everything and clear her thoughts.