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Dumped one of my best friends....because he's so dumb

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Originally posted by: alkemyst
Originally posted by: lavagirl669
any advice?

am I being a Biaaach?
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Is there some emotional tie you have with him outside the friendship?

Fact is a serious g/f is a little higher level than just a friend, she can be a potential wife. The fact two cars got repo'd is not that important...it's just the process of her falling behind. Him taking control is probably the smart thing to do.

We have no idea why she really was late, or even if she realized. Things happen in life.

The thing is you not being his friend due to this is selfish, it has no bearing on you and only affects him and her. You should like your friends for your relationship with them not their relationship with others (this is over simplified though).

Anyways good luck with it all, if he was a good friend those are hard to find.
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No serious emotional tie other than I care about him a lot and have always thought his gf was no good.
Our relationship goes way back.
Knowing he had or has NO love for her and what I mentioned in my previous posts about him.
I disrespect him for those things too.....
I think it's wrong, not "Noble" to stay for the kids when:
a) You are unfaithful constantly
b) You fight 24/7
c) She lies to him all the time....and I'm sure he does too
d) It is a "Loveless" relationship...I think he just feels sorry for her because she is very
high drama, weak, irresponsible, and lacks common sense.
on a final note*
She has screwed up on his CC before, cell phone, and other stuff, and lied about it or not told him.
Which IMO makes him look like a BIG Fool for putting the car as collateral in the first place and helping her.

Hope that changes the perspective a little....
 
Originally posted by: lavagirl669
Hope that changes the perspective a little....
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Well a little, but still not deserting him....probably needs friends the most now.

I was in a relationship like that (I think most are at some point, it's just a matter of how damaging).

Let's say I'd have been happy losing just a car or two. My circumstance was she changed after breaking her neck, looked and was physically fine, but mentally not. Since I was married I felt it my duty to work it out.

You can only ask your wife not to do things, you are not the boss (now this is my opinion lest anyone brings up patriarchial religons, etc). You can only decide what you can accept and not accept.

It sucks and hopefully it either works out for them both or they see the errors they are making.

It's just like telling a kid not to climb a tree, everyone thinks they can do it....many can but a few break that proverbial arm or leg.
 
What does any of this have to do with friendship? I can see that if he did a bunch of stupid financial stuff as your BOYFRIEND, but he's not your boyfriend.

Were you hoping this was your chance and are now upset that you've learned he's sticking with her, or am I way off here? 😛
 
Originally posted by: Fingolfin269
What does any of this have to do with friendship? I can see that if he did a bunch of stupid financial stuff as your BOYFRIEND, but he's not your boyfriend.

Were you hoping this was your chance and are now upset that you've learned he's sticking with her, or am I way off here? 😛
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nah...way off....
I just think friends that keep playing the same broken record over and over get
old after a while.
But I still care about him as a friend...it's just that this has changed our friendship.
 
I take it this isn't the friend that was going to give you a free car?

Edit: on second thought, can you ask the guy that wants to give you a free car if he can give your now ex-friend a car? 😀
 
Originally posted by: ThisIsMatt
I take it this isn't the friend that was going to give you a free car?
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LOL....
No, not the same friend....the car thing? Doubt that will ever happen.....not
holding my breath on that one.
 
Originally posted by: lavagirl669
Remember this thread?
Friends' Car repo

Well....turns out the guy is still trying to get the cars....[notice I said CARS] back and is sticking with his dumb gf after all.

What a dumb f**k!

He didn't listen to my advice or ATOT advice.....and is going with the
"I'm going to take control of the bills" tactic now, and see what happens.

He's a totally stupid, pathetic moron and he and his gf deserve each other and all the s**t that
happens now. Doh!

Anyway, I dumped him as a friend.....told him I lost all respect for him and that he was a fool and why
was he helping his dumb gf after she did that to him? Dam, I remember asking him for help many times and he wouldn't help me....I don't need friends like that.

So was I being heartless?
Can I get some support or advice here? He was a really close friend and it was long term so it kinda sucks.

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Thats one of the worst things a friend could do - dump you just because he didnt take your advice.

Your a control freak alright...He needs your support not your instructions!
 
OMFG I cant believe this thread - some really ***** friends here ..... do you people understand the model of a friend?

Instead a lot of you too busy judging.....!
 
hey txxx

Not a control freak...and not trying to tell him what to do.....
I was really pissed when I wrote the first post and am so tired of
hearing his broken record. This is not the first time he has come to me all pissed about
something she did, believe me.

But I hear you on the "friends" thing and agree.

I've called him since, and told him I'll always be his friend, just that it
won't be quite the same as before, thats all.

Call me weak, call me a fool, but I'm still his friend through and through.
 
Hmm..sorry about the whole friend thing. Id say just do what you feel is in your best interests.
My suggestion, get away from the situation, drive to mikis, have a plate lunch there and relax. LOL At least thats what helps when im stressed.
 
Originally posted by: ThisIsMatt
I take it this isn't the friend that was going to give you a free car?

Edit: on second thought, can you ask the guy that wants to give you a free car if he can give your now ex-friend a car? 😀
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LMAO

thanks for the laugh
 
Well considering mikis is in oahu and its about 8min away from where I live in aiea, not far at all. Unless you live in hawaii kai, then it would be far. LOL
 
Originally posted by: lavagirl669
hey txxx

Not a control freak...and not trying to tell him what to do.....
I was really pissed when I wrote the first post and am so tired of
hearing his broken record. This is not the first time he has come to me all pissed about
something she did, believe me.

But I hear you on the "friends" thing and agree.

I've called him since, and told him I'll always be his friend, just that it
won't be quite the same as before, thats all.

Call me weak, call me a fool, but I'm still his friend through and through.
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THEN COMMUNICATE - ask him not to bitch so much about the same thing like a broken record, surely its not THAT difficult?

Your weak alright, im so glad I dont have friends like you!
 
Originally posted by: txxxx
Originally posted by: lavagirl669
hey txxx

Not a control freak...and not trying to tell him what to do.....
I was really pissed when I wrote the first post and am so tired of
hearing his broken record. This is not the first time he has come to me all pissed about
something she did, believe me.

But I hear you on the "friends" thing and agree.

I've called him since, and told him I'll always be his friend, just that it
won't be quite the same as before, thats all.

Call me weak, call me a fool, but I'm still his friend through and through.
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THEN COMMUNICATE - ask him not to bitch so much about the same thing like a broken record, surely its not THAT difficult?

Your weak alright, im so glad I dont have friends like you!
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Maybe weak in your eyes, but I call it soft hearted.
At least I don't attack people for no reason.

and btw, I HAVE told him I really am tired of hearing it....but I guess because I KEEP hearing it
and taking it....I am supposed to hear it some more?

*edit*
why all the viciousness? Do your friends like that?
 
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