Don't feel that I fit in my community

[MrDudeMan]

OP is definitely having a superiority trip or has a complex. People don't usually shun other people for no reason. Based on this post and your attitude, it is obvious that you have given then sufficient reason to think you are pompous and arrogant, which seems to be true.

 

[soonerproud]

Also when I talk to them there isn't much I can talk to with them. It's like their conversations lack substance. They can't discuss political matters, ethical matters or have a high level conversation about issues in this country right now. It's like I?m talking to the uninformed. I'm also the youngest homeowner on that street (23) and I feel people treat me different for that and my status.

This is precisely why they don't have much to do with you. These people are very informed of the issues but they do not need a 23 year old pushing politics and ethics down their throat. Use the internet to fill that need.

Try talking to these people about issues they really care about. Talk about sports, fishing, cars or even about a good television show. These conversations have just as much substance as politics and religion and are not as divisive. A lot can be learned about each other from casual conversation and it is also down right enjoyable.

Hold a barbecue and supply all the food and beer. Invite all the neighbors and just get to know them. Do not be condescending or conceited simply because you have a Bachelors degree and they don't. You will find they are much more educated than you previously realized.

Your attitude towards these people is what is causing the rift. This is a problem you and your wife need to fix.

 

[Accipiter22]

Have a picnic and invite them. Everyone likes picnics

 

[eLiu]

Originally posted by: soonerproud

Also when I talk to them there isn't much I can talk to with them. It's like their conversations lack substance. They can't discuss political matters, ethical matters or have a high level conversation about issues in this country right now. It's like I?m talking to the uninformed. I'm also the youngest homeowner on that street (23) and I feel people treat me different for that and my status.

This is precisely why they don't have much to do with you. These people are very informed of the issues but they do not need a 23 year old pushing politics and ethics down their throat. Use the internet to fill that need.

Try talking to these people about issues they really care about. Talk about sports, fishing, cars or even about a good television show. These conversations have just as much substance as politics and religion and are not as divisive. A lot can be learned about each other from casual conversation and it is also down right enjoyable.

Hold a barbecue and supply all the food and beer. Invite all the neighbors and just get to know them. Do not be condescending or conceited simply because you have a Bachelors degree and they don't. You will find they are much more educated than you previously realized.

Your attitude towards these people is what is causing the rift. This is a problem you and your wife need to fix.

Now that kind of depends. I mean his neighbors may be the quality of person that asks the police to help with her fake cocaine... Somehow I doubt people like that have any useful substance to offer ><

 

[soonerproud]

Originally posted by: eLiu
Now that kind of depends. I mean his neighbors may be the quality of person that asks the police to help with her fake cocaine... Somehow I doubt people like that have any useful substance to offer ><

I seriously doubt this is the case for most of his neighbors. I have lived in all kinds of neighborhoods and I find most people are generally good people.

 

[Greenman]

You could try not being such a pompous ass. Those people that you feel so superior to are every bit as good as you are. Perhaps they just don't want to listen to some snot nosed child tell them how the world should be run. Or perhaps after exchanging a few words with you they, realized that you're an elitist bigot and don't want anything to do with you.
You didn't come in here looking for advice about a problem, you came here to tell us how superior you are, how well your life is going. You need to gloat, you need to be told how well you're doing, you want everyone to envy you and wish they were in your position. Instead, you end up looking like an ass and we all understand why your neighbors shun you.

 

[gamepad]

Originally posted by: Greenman
You could try not being such a pompous ass. Those people that you feel so superior to are every bit as good as you are. Perhaps they just don't want to listen to some snot nosed child tell them how the world should be run. Or perhaps after exchanging a few words with you they, realized that you're an elitist bigot and don't want anything to do with you.
You didn't come in here looking for advice about a problem, you came here to tell us how superior you are, how well your life is going. You need to gloat, you need to be told how well you're doing, you want everyone to envy you and wish they were in your position. Instead, you end up looking like an ass and we all understand why your neighbors shun you.

 

[Blieb]

He's just scared they're going to beat him with their tire irons and wrenches. Perfectly natural. Book smart street stupid.

 

[NiteWulf]

Wow, people are really going deep with this one. I was just going to post something like "Welcome to America. We don't talk to our neighbors"

 

[soonerproud]

Originally posted by: NiteWulf
Wow, people are really going deep with this one. I was just going to post something like "Welcome to America. We don't talk to our neighbors"

Speak for yourself. I have a good relationship with most of my neighbors. In fact we get together and cook something dead and drink beer quite frequently.

 

[Homerboy]

Funny I'm white collar and get along WAY better with blue-collar folks.
I generally can't stand white-collar types, and that is generally all that live around me with a few exceptions.

 

[thatguy82]

Originally posted by: NiteWulf
Wow, people are really going deep with this one. I was just going to post something like "Welcome to America. We don't talk to our neighbors"

so true, living in a city is much better than suburbs though regarding this

 

[RKS]

I am an attorney and my wife has a couple Master's degrees and the complexity of conversations with our neighbors (other professionals) doesn't rise above " you wanna a beer" or "you should try this gin and tonic".

Maybe the OP is reminiscing about dorm room days and staying in on weekends and discussing politics.

 

[akshatp]

This thread should definitely get consideration for ownage of the year... Its obviously not the winner, but should definitely be on the list...

OP came in looking for sympathy or maybe people to agree with him and post "Yea same with me, I am smarter and better than everyone I live around too!" and got nothing but owned...

 

[desy]

You get in deep conversations with family or close freinds and that way when the enevitable shows up of somebody getting p1ssed off , you don't have to stare at them awkwardly over the fence for the next 30 yrs.

 

[pyonir]

Originally posted by: oldsmoboat

Originally posted by: steppinthrax
Ok this is the deal. My wife and I moved into a community (townhouse). When we moved there I just got my B.S. degree in Comp Science and my wife got her Masters (she wasn?t working) and started looking for a better job. Our income in other words before wasn?t real high. After a year of staying in the community I don't feel like I fit in. Most of the people of that community I found do mainly blue collar jobs (i.e. cashier, waiter, and stocker).

When they find what I do they treat me different for it. I almost feel alienated. Also when I talk to them there isn't much I can talk to with them. It's like their conversations lack substance. They can't discuss political matters, ethical matters or have a high level conversation about issues in this country right now. It's like I?m talking to the uninformed. I'm also the youngest homeowner on that street (23) and I feel people treat me different for that and my status.

At least you are humble.

LMFAO

 

[Eos]

I live surrounded by retirees except for about 5 people on my block. Very tough to relate when I'm 35 years old.

 

[daveymark]

Originally posted by: steppinthrax
Ok this is the deal. My wife and I moved into a community (townhouse). When we moved there I just got my B.S. degree in Comp Science and my wife got her Masters (she wasn?t working) and started looking for a better job. Our income in other words before wasn?t real high. After a year of staying in the community I don't feel like I fit in. Most of the people of that community I found do mainly blue collar jobs (i.e. cashier, waiter, and stocker).

When they find what I do they treat me different for it. I almost feel alienated. Also when I talk to them there isn't much I can talk to with them. It's like their conversations lack substance. They can't discuss political matters, ethical matters or have a high level conversation about issues in this country right now. It's like I?m talking to the uninformed. I'm also the youngest homeowner on that street (23) and I feel people treat me different for that and my status.

ironic then, that they probably get more satisfaction out of living then you

this is going to be the first of many lessons to you that money/education != happiness

 

[dainthomas]

Originally posted by: GenHoth
OP: Try talking about something THEY can relate to, like a local sports team!

"The Giants of New York took on the Packers of Green Bay. And in the end, the Giants triumphed by kicking an oblong ball made of pigskin through a big "H". It was a most ripping victory!"

Yes, I watch too many movies.

 

[dmcowen674]

Originally posted by: steppinthrax
Ok this is the deal. My wife and I moved into a community (townhouse). When we moved there I just got my B.S. degree in Comp Science and my wife got her Masters (she wasn?t working) and started looking for a better job. Our income in other words before wasn?t real high. After a year of staying in the community I don't feel like I fit in. Most of the people of that community I found do mainly blue collar jobs (i.e. cashier, waiter, and stocker).

When they find what I do they treat me different for it. I almost feel alienated. Also when I talk to them there isn't much I can talk to with them. It's like their conversations lack substance. They can't discuss political matters, ethical matters or have a high level conversation about issues in this country right now. It's like I?m talking to the uninformed. I'm also the youngest homeowner on that street (23) and I feel people treat me different for that and my status.

Move to Georgia or Alabama stat.

 

[krunchykrome]

bwahahaha, OP feels superior to others because he has a bachelors.

 

[nakedfrog]

Originally posted by: RKS
I am an attorney and my wife has a couple Master's degrees and the complexity of conversations with our neighbors (other professionals) doesn't rise above " you wanna a beer" or "you should try this gin and tonic".

Maybe the OP is reminiscing about dorm room days and staying in on weekends and discussing politics.

Maybe he should try Starbucks?

 

[Blieb]

I think instead of complaing you'd get more satisfaction if you just teach your neighbors how to read and write. Then they could get read the paper instead of wiping their ass and heating their homes with it (economy ++), clip coupons to save on groceries (personal finance ++), learn about cultural and social happenings in the area, etc.

You could be responsible for changing their lives and giving them purpose!!!

As phase II, I'd strongly suggest building a school or something ...

 

[Nik]

Stop caring what other people think and live your life for YOU, not for them. Who cares about other people? Fuck'em. If someone doesn't like me, tough. The more you worry about what other people think or care about how other people treat you, the more you're goign to spend your life living it for them instead of living it for yourself.

 

[xSauronx]

Originally posted by: TallBill
Eh, I never even talked to my neighbors at my last place.

me, either. my parents have plenty of friends but for the most part dont know most of their neighbors either, unless they grew up with them.