Does my brother fail @ life?

[MetalMat]

Does he get laid? If yes then he does not fail at life.

 

[ichy]

Ugh, I can't imagine living with my parents after college. I lived in some crappy, cheap houses where I rented rooms, but those were all MUCH better than moving back home (and this is coming from someone who gets along very well with his parents.)

 

[spidey07]

Christ, I generally respect your opinion, but I just don't understand this way of thinking at all.

I'm a hard ass. It came from tough love from my parents and them forcing me to be an adult. That meant supporting myself. I am very glad they were like that, made me a much better person.

 

[TridenT]

Christ, I generally respect your opinion, but I just don't understand this way of thinking at all.

You're kidding me right? You generally respect his opinion?

I never thought I'd hear that one...

Anywaay... Spidey is a troll. Fact is, as long as the parents are fine with the person living with them living with them then there is no problem. He just likes to make a problem out of nothing. He also has a distorted view on reality and how things actually work in society. It makes me wonder how someone gets that fucked up in the head.

The above post just shows how wrong he is... He's hardly a better person. He would love to have all of those who do not make 7 figures or more to die. He's elitist scum. (Also hates gays, atheists, anyone who disagrees with him, and basically anyone who is not him)

 

[GeekDrew]

You're kidding me right? You generally respect his opinion?

I never thought I'd hear that one...

When I notice posts, they're usually tech topics, not OT. *shrug*

 

[GeekDrew]

I'm a hard ass. It came from tough love from my parents and them forcing me to be an adult. That meant supporting myself. I am very glad they were like that, made me a much better person.

I support myself, and I don't see how I could ever live with my parents ever again, but your opinion baffles me. I'm generally kind/caring and that pretty much seems the antithesis of that. Oh well, each to their own.

 

[spidey07]

You're kidding me right? You generally respect his opinion?

I never thought I'd hear that one...

Anywaay... Spidey is a troll. Fact is, as long as the parents are fine with the person living with them living with them then there is no problem. He just likes to make a problem out of nothing. He also has a distorted view on reality and how things actually work in society. It makes me wonder how someone gets that fucked up in the head.

The above post just shows how wrong he is... He's hardly a better person. He would love to have all of those who do not make 7 figures or more to die. He's elitist scum. (Also hates gays, atheists, anyone who disagrees with him, and basically anyone who is not him)

You still live with your parents, don't you?

 

[JS80]

Are you shitting me? Age of Empires is awesome...

Mind you, I've kinda gotten tired of it now, but it got me hundreds of hours of enjoyment.

Hence, you are also Fail.

 

[zinfamous]

hmm.. hard to say. If it weren't for the full time IT job I would say he is indeed a failure.

With the IT job I would say he is just more of a loser.

2nd (I mean 6th+..)

 

[TridenT]

Hence, you are also Fail.

Because I got enjoyment out of something I am fail?

Sounds like you're fail.

Your idea of having to uphold such ridiculous social norms are what is wrong with this world... It's what leads to stupid bigotry like yours.

:hmm:

 

[zinfamous]

No, he's essentially stealing from his parents. Stealing their shelter, their food, their comfort/utilities. Only losers and complete and utter failures use the "but I'm saving for a house!" excuse.

Get off your ass and move out and put a roof over your head. Until then you are still a child. In OP's brother's case, a 31 year old child.

OP never mentioned whether or not his brother was paying rent, utliities, etc.

 

[Azraele]

He's got a full time job. That's a plus.

 

[zinfamous]

I'm a hard ass. It came from tough love from my parents and them forcing me to be an adult. That meant supporting myself. I am very glad they were like that, made me a very myopic and judgmental person.

fixed for more accuracy.

 

[spidey07]

fixed for more accuracy.

That didn't come until much later when I was exposed to the insane views of internet basement dwellers mooching off their parents shelter and their entitlement mentality.

 

[TridenT]

That didn't come until much later when I was exposed to the insane views of internet basement dwellers mooching off their parents shelter and their entitlement mentality.

It's pathetic you don't even know how you got to where you are, because that isn't even close.

 

[zinfamous]

Anywaay... Spidey is a troll. Fact is, as long as the parents are fine with the person living with them living with them then there is no problem. He just likes to make a problem out of nothing. He also has a distorted view on reality and how things actually work in society. It makes me wonder how someone gets that fucked up in the head.

The above post just shows how wrong he is... He's hardly a better person. He would love to have all of those who do not make 7 figures or more to die. He's elitist scum. (Also hates gays, atheists, anyone who disagrees with him, and basically anyone who is not him)

eh? spidey is not a troll. He simply has a very narrow view of reality. If something doesn't square with his world-view, then it is simply wrong. His posts rarely, if ever, deviate from such themes, and he never tosses those opinions around just for shits. If anything, he's quite honest about his views.

You sir, are a fucking troll. And you know it.

 

[DrunkenSano]

No, he's essentially stealing from his parents. Stealing their shelter, their food, their comfort/utilities. Only losers and complete and utter failures use the "but I'm saving for a house!" excuse.

Get off your ass and move out and put a roof over your head. Until then you are still a child. In OP's brother's case, a 31 year old child.

I would have to respectfully disagree. I think buying a house just to move out, completely ignoring economic trends and status, is a bigger fail and a bigger "childish" move. Anyone who buys a house, willing to lose thousands if not tens of thousands of dollars, just to move out, isn't grown up at all.

 

[brainhulk]

he does not pay rent but he does give my parents money (no where near close to what rent would be).

I just don't know if I should intervene, or just leave it be. I don't even know if he values my opinion. He told me I am too manipulative and hard to trust (our relationship as kids), although we get along now.

He used to have a girlfriend in college that didn't work out, and thats it. All his friends are in the same position as him, working and living with mommy and daddy.

I dont know, my parents will never kick him out, it's not in our culture. But sometimes I think that doing so would have been better for him.

 

[spidey07]

I would have to respectfully disagree. I think buying a house just to move out, completely ignoring economic trends and status, is a bigger fail and a bigger "childish" move. Anyone who buys a house, willing to lose thousands if not tens of thousands of dollars, just to move out, isn't grown up at all.

In that case there has never been a better time to buy a house than right now. You'll never see an opportunity like this in your life time. Better jump on it.

 

[TridenT]

he does not pay rent but he does give my parents money (no where near close to what rent would be).

I just don't know if I should intervene, or just leave it be. I don't even know if he values my opinion. He told me I am too manipulative and hard to trust (our relationship as kids), although we get along now.

He used to have a girlfriend in college that didn't work out, and thats it. All his friends are in the same position as him, working and living with mommy and daddy.

I dont know, my parents will never kick him out, it's not in our culture. But sometimes I think that doing so would have been better for him.

Does his IT job pay well? What does he do with all his money if it does pay well?

 

[spidey07]

he does not pay rent but he does give my parents money (no where near close to what rent would be).

I just don't know if I should intervene, or just leave it be. I don't even know if he values my opinion. He told me I am too manipulative and hard to trust (our relationship as kids), although we get along now.

He used to have a girlfriend in college that didn't work out, and thats it. All his friends are in the same position as him, working and living with mommy and daddy.

I dont know, my parents will never kick him out, it's not in our culture. But sometimes I think that doing so would have been better for him.

That's the biggest part of the problem. The losers he associates with. In his mind that makes his behavior OK and is actively reinforced by these bad influences.

Can you maybe introduce him to people that don't fail at life to maybe show him how awesome it is to be a winner?

 

[TridenT]

That's the biggest part of the problem. The losers he associates with. In his mind that makes his behavior OK and is actively reinforced by these bad influences.

Can you maybe introduce him to people that don't fail at life to maybe show him how awesome it is to be a winner?

What's wrong with it? He pays his taxes. Ain't that enough for you?

Not everyone is born to be a winner. Flawed American ideology for the loss...

 

[brainhulk]

Does his IT job pay well? What does he do with all his money if it does pay well?

I don't think it pays great (he got full time from part time a couple months ago), but definitely enough were he can get an apartment and support himself. He's hording his money so he can buy a fuckin gt500.

 

[TridenT]

I don't think it pays great (he got full time from part time a couple months ago), but definitely enough were he can get an apartment and support himself. He's hording his money so he can buy a fuckin gt500.

Mm.. apartment is a waste of money though. There's really no reason for him to live on his own besides social norms (Which I doubt he cares about). It's a complete waste of money unless the people you live with don't like you living with them. That's some financial stupidity really... You move into a shittier place with no stuff, have to pay bills that you wouldn't otherwise pay(or pay as much of), and for what? "To be on your own..." What a joke.

I'd move into an apartment if it wasn't too prohibitively expensive, there was a job/school I wanted there, and was in a location I'd like. Otherwise... why bother if you can live somewhere else that's just as nice, if not better, for much cheaper? Financially... it's irresponsible to go renting an apartment. Money into the shitter. That doesn't get you any return in investment at all.

 

[Mr. Pedantic]

I personally think he should move out. But if his parents don't mind, and he's paying rent etc, I don't see anything wrong.