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do you think single people should be able to adopt children?

I say no. It's weird enough for a divorced couple to pick and choose a home for their child(ren) and have them ask where their mommy or daddy is, let alone a child going into a single-parent home.

To me, it just doesn't seem balanced.
 
I'd rather see a single person who is financially stable and able to support a child adopt one than a impoverished couple stuggling to put food on the table.
 
I say no only for the reason that I strongly believe that one parent should be at home with the child. ie: a stay at home mom/dad.
If there is only 1 parent, and assuming they have to work and are not some self-made millionaire, then I don't believe they should be parenting.
Not to say they don't have the "right" but I don't think they should adopt... does that make any sense?

Edit: sorry forgot to say "/me puts on flame suit" and "pulls up lawn chair and cracks open a Coke."
 
Originally posted by: jamesbond007
I say no. It's weird enough for a divorced couple to pick and choose a home for their child(ren) and have them ask where their mommy or daddy is, let alone a child going into a single-parent home.

To me, it just doesn't seem balanced.
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So you'd rather have a child bounce around in orphanages and foster homes then living stably with a single person that loves them? How does that make sense?

 
Originally posted by: DougK62
Originally posted by: jamesbond007
I say no. It's weird enough for a divorced couple to pick and choose a home for their child(ren) and have them ask where their mommy or daddy is, let alone a child going into a single-parent home.

To me, it just doesn't seem balanced.
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So you'd rather have a child bounce around in orphanages and foster homes then living stably with a single person that loves them? How does that make sense?
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Do you think there is a shortage of couples waiting to adopt?

Except is rare cases, two parents are better than one. This should be a factor.
 
Originally posted by: moshquerade
just heard this topic on the news. what are your views?
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You were watching the the morning show on CBS weren't you (forget the name at the moment)?

I remember, because him saying that also struck me as odd, but a good idea if you think about it.

 
YES! There are way too many kids who are in need of adoption. The conditions of foster care in this country are horrible. The child will grow up way more messed up if they go through the government system than living with a single parent who doesn't get PAID to have them around.
 
Originally posted by: DougK62
Originally posted by: jamesbond007
I say no. It's weird enough for a divorced couple to pick and choose a home for their child(ren) and have them ask where their mommy or daddy is, let alone a child going into a single-parent home.

To me, it just doesn't seem balanced.
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So you'd rather have a child bounce around in orphanages and foster homes then living stably with a single person that loves them? How does that make sense?
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My best friend 'bounced around in foster homes' for a good part of his life. He still lives in my city and we're still best friends to this day. Some people can take it. :disgust:

The original poster never stated anything about deciding between a financially-stable single-parent versus two parents that can't put food on the table. Even so, the kid's age also plays a factor. The older they are, the more they can understand. However, I still stick with my original comment and say two parents or no parents. (at least when it comes to adoption...divorcing is another story)

Period.
 
Originally posted by: jamesbond007
Originally posted by: DougK62
Originally posted by: jamesbond007
I say no. It's weird enough for a divorced couple to pick and choose a home for their child(ren) and have them ask where their mommy or daddy is, let alone a child going into a single-parent home.

To me, it just doesn't seem balanced.
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So you'd rather have a child bounce around in orphanages and foster homes then living stably with a single person that loves them? How does that make sense?
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My best friend 'bounced around in foster homes' for a good part of his life. He still lives in my city and we're still best friends to this day. Some people can take it. :disgust:

The original poster never stated anything about deciding between a financially-stable single-parent versus two parents that can't put food on the table. Even so, the kid's age also plays a factor. The older they are, the more they can understand. However, I still stick with my original comment and say two parents or no parents. (at least when it comes to adoption...divorcing is another story)

Period.
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Well good for your friend. I'm glad he turned out fine, but he is NOT the norm. Children need stability, and you aren't going to get that when your parent is the government.

How can you distinguish between divorce and adoption in this situation? So you're basically saying that it's OK to have one parent if you're blood related, but otherwise you need to have two? Can you clarify?

 
Sure I can clarify!

Ok here it goes:
Divorce: Child(ren) go with one parent. There are no ways around this and I think it is just weak to see how many newlywed couples divorce so easy...it's pathetic...one fight and they file divorce. (just a generalization)

Adoption: Government (or some form of superiors) decide what kind of home the child goes into. They have the ability to make sure the child goes into a stable home. They will not let you adopt if you do not meet many criteria, including financial stability and job security.(ie: if you have been bouncing from one job to another) Thus, there is no way a family with insufficient funds can get a child...even if the couple were at the time of adoption financially stable, there are repeated check-ups by agents to ensure stability and love in the home.
 
Originally posted by: jamesbond007
Sure I can clarify!

Ok here it goes:
Divorce: Child(ren) go with one parent. There are no ways around this and I think it is just weak to see how many newlywed couples divorce so easy...it's pathetic...one fight and they file divorce. (just a generalization)

Adoption: Government (or some form of superiors) decide what kind of home the child goes into. They have the ability to make sure the child goes into a stable home. They will not let you adopt if you do not meet many criteria, including financial stability and job security.(ie: if you have been bouncing from one job to another) Thus, there is no way a family with insufficient funds can get a child...even if the couple were at the time of adoption financially stable, there are repeated check-ups by agents to ensure stability and love in the home.
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I understand that, but then what would be the difference between a divorced single parent home and an adopted single parent home? There isn't one. Actually, the adopted single parent home may be the better situation because of all the placement analysis done beforehand that you mentioned.

So my stance is that if the government will consider a single parent home in divorce cases, then why not consider them in adoption cases? The only difference is a blood relation, which really doesn't mean anything.

 
Originally posted by: MisterJackson
Originally posted by: moshquerade
just heard this topic on the news. what are your views?
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You were watching the the morning show on CBS weren't you (forget the name at the moment)?

I remember, because him saying that also struck me as odd, but a good idea if you think about it.
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yes, i heard it there.

and i do think a single person should be able to adopt a child as long as he/she has the right credentials.
if i were a child without any parents i would take one over none any day.

 
The distinction between an adoption and divorce is the fact that there is the ability to get a nice, financially-stable couple to adopt. Yeah, I know there are many single-parent homes that are more than willing and able to adopt, but the fact is two loving parents are better than one. In a divorce situation, you don't really have a choice, but you do in an adoption case.
 
well foster homes and orphanages are just superior...u know they are!

and really, its a myth that there are children left over.. the pro lifers have snapped them all up! don't u know?
 
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