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Do you see the beauty in life?

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Zysoclaplem

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I don't. Never have. Probably never will. I wish I knew what people were talking about when they rave about sunsets and waterfalls. I don't see the magic.
I read a lot, and I often wonder if I have desensitized myself to the real world by visiting these strange and magical worlds via books. I find myself generally unhappy if I don't have my face buried in a book or a RPG of some type.

Anyone feel like this or have this problem. Is there a drug for it?
 
I truly feel sad for you that you have never felt that simple joy in being alive. I am not sure there is any way to feel otherwise either.
I would suggest trying as hard as you can for one week to wake up and say "thank you" as you get out of bed. Just saying "thank you". Not to any one in particular, but just saying it. trying as hard as you can to feel graditude.

Try smiling when you find your self upset or unhappy. Think of a good memory you have. Appricate what you have every day. That you can breathe fresh(er) air, that you have enough food, that you are simply alive.

I hope this will eventually switch your way of thinking. YOU have to want to change.

Good Luck.
 
Weird, books, movies and video games usually help me appreciate life a lot more. Like when you realize that beautiful vista is only half as good as it would look in real life.

I'm at a strange point in my life where even my drive home from work fascinates me as I pass by an apple orchard and through some woods.
 
I tend to find beauty in simple things, and definitely in nature. Nothing quite like sitting outside on a sunny day in the woods with some friends, next to a waterfall and just listening to the birds and water and joking with your friends.
 
i have no problem finding beauty in natural things.

I think what you are describing is 2 different things. I am generally unhappy unless I'm reading or something that takes my mind away from the everyday crap but that doesn't take away my ability to see the beauty in things you are talking about.

I think ever since I started getting into photography, my awareness of the beauty has increased.
 
Originally posted by: LolaWiz
I truly feel sad for you that you have never felt that simple joy in being alive. I am not sure there is any way to feel otherwise either.
I would suggest trying as hard as you can for one week to wake up and say "thank you" as you get out of bed. Just saying "thank you". Not to any one in particular, but just saying it. trying as hard as you can to feel graditude.

Try smiling when you find your self upset or unhappy. Think of a good memory you have. Appricate what you have every day. That you can breathe fresh(er) air, that you have enough food, that you are simply alive.

I hope this will eventually switch your way of thinking. YOU have to want to change.

Good Luck.
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It's all foreign to me. I just don't know how to see anything any other way.
 
Of course I do.

Perhaps your tendancy towards narcissism is interfering with your ability to appreciate anything objectively.
Find a safe place, mentally, to endeavor to appreciate the universe objectively.
 
Originally posted by: pontifex
i have no problem finding beauty in natural things.

I think what you are describing is 2 different things. I am generally unhappy unless I'm reading or something that takes my mind away from the everyday crap but that doesn't take away my ability to see the beauty in things you are talking about.

I think ever since I started getting into photography, my awareness of the beauty has increased.
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It might be. I might be seeing things wrong. I'm just jealous of people who find themselves in awe when they see things.
 
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: LolaWiz
I truly feel sad for you that you have never felt that simple joy in being alive. I am not sure there is any way to feel otherwise either.
I would suggest trying as hard as you can for one week to wake up and say "thank you" as you get out of bed. Just saying "thank you". Not to any one in particular, but just saying it. trying as hard as you can to feel graditude.

Try smiling when you find your self upset or unhappy. Think of a good memory you have. Appricate what you have every day. That you can breathe fresh(er) air, that you have enough food, that you are simply alive.

I hope this will eventually switch your way of thinking. YOU have to want to change.

Good Luck.
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It's all foreign to me. I just don't know how to see anything any other way.
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MAKE YOURSELF THINK DIFFERENTLY. Start there.
 
Originally posted by: LolaWiz
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: LolaWiz
I truly feel sad for you that you have never felt that simple joy in being alive. I am not sure there is any way to feel otherwise either.
I would suggest trying as hard as you can for one week to wake up and say "thank you" as you get out of bed. Just saying "thank you". Not to any one in particular, but just saying it. trying as hard as you can to feel graditude.

Try smiling when you find your self upset or unhappy. Think of a good memory you have. Appricate what you have every day. That you can breathe fresh(er) air, that you have enough food, that you are simply alive.

I hope this will eventually switch your way of thinking. YOU have to want to change.

Good Luck.
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It's all foreign to me. I just don't know how to see anything any other way.
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MAKE YOURSELF THINK DIFFERENTLY. Start there.
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I guess I could always look at a waterfall and think it's not ugly..heh.
It's a different way of thinking, and I do believe it is not unsightly.
 
Originally posted by: djheater
Of course I do.

Perhaps your tendancy towards narcissism is interfering with your ability to appreciate anything objectively.
Find a safe place, mentally, to endeavor to appreciate the universe objectively.
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But how can I break out of that loop? I constantly worry about my health, smell, and everything else.
 
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: LolaWiz
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: LolaWiz
I truly feel sad for you that you have never felt that simple joy in being alive. I am not sure there is any way to feel otherwise either.
I would suggest trying as hard as you can for one week to wake up and say "thank you" as you get out of bed. Just saying "thank you". Not to any one in particular, but just saying it. trying as hard as you can to feel graditude.

Try smiling when you find your self upset or unhappy. Think of a good memory you have. Appricate what you have every day. That you can breathe fresh(er) air, that you have enough food, that you are simply alive.

I hope this will eventually switch your way of thinking. YOU have to want to change.

Good Luck.
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It's all foreign to me. I just don't know how to see anything any other way.
Click to expand...

MAKE YOURSELF THINK DIFFERENTLY. Start there.
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I guess I could always look at a waterfall and think it's not ugly..heh.
It's a different way of thinking, and I do believe it is not unsightly.
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First, though, like i said, shift your thoughts to thanks and gratitude. Be grateful for everything you have. Hopefully then, that will bring more positive thoughts to you. Ok, right now, in response to my post... give me 5 things/people/reasons why you should be grateful or happy. They could be things, occuances, people, places, whatever.... See if you can do that.
 
Originally posted by: LolaWiz
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: LolaWiz
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Originally posted by: LolaWiz
I truly feel sad for you that you have never felt that simple joy in being alive. I am not sure there is any way to feel otherwise either.
I would suggest trying as hard as you can for one week to wake up and say "thank you" as you get out of bed. Just saying "thank you". Not to any one in particular, but just saying it. trying as hard as you can to feel graditude.

Try smiling when you find your self upset or unhappy. Think of a good memory you have. Appricate what you have every day. That you can breathe fresh(er) air, that you have enough food, that you are simply alive.

I hope this will eventually switch your way of thinking. YOU have to want to change.

Good Luck.
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It's all foreign to me. I just don't know how to see anything any other way.
Click to expand...

MAKE YOURSELF THINK DIFFERENTLY. Start there.
Click to expand...

I guess I could always look at a waterfall and think it's not ugly..heh.
It's a different way of thinking, and I do believe it is not unsightly.
Click to expand...

First, though, like i said, shift your thoughts to thanks and gratitude. Be grateful for everything you have. Hopefully then, that will bring more positive thoughts to you. Ok, right now, in response to my post... give me 5 things/people/reasons why you should be grateful or happy. They could be things, occuances, people, places, whatever.... See if you can do that.
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1. Colt - He puts up with me

2. That I have all my hair - My brother is losing his and my dads was almost all gone before he died.

3. My ability to work / My job - This helps me pay for things.

4. That I am not mentally or physically deficient in some way

5. Help I have been given along the way
 
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
I don't. Never have. Probably never will. I wish I knew what people were talking about when they rave about sunsets and waterfalls. I don't see the magic.
I read a lot, and I often wonder if I have desensitized myself to the real world by visiting these strange and magical worlds via books. I find myself generally unhappy if I don't have my face buried in a book or a RPG of some type.

Anyone feel like this or have this problem. Is there a drug for it?
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That is truly sad.

Sometimes I stop and just take in the whole world around me and appreciate it, the clouds passing by, the green leaves on the trees, the summer breeze against my face, etc.

Do you think you are depressed?
 
when you thoguht about those 5 things, did you post them without really feeling grateful? Or did you just post them quickly because i asked you to?
You need to feel thanks for those things. Take time in your day to look around you. Is it sunny today? be happy that you are in a place that is warm if it is. Did you have a good lunch? Did it satisfy you or were you just eating it to not be hungry? If you enjoyed the food you ate, stop and realize that. Realize that you are lucky enough that you don't have to rummage through the trash to find food, or that you do not have to eat at a soup kitchen.

This might sound cheesy and dumb, but it has taken me a long time to transition my thoughts from the "so what" attitude to gratitude... and I am so much happier because of the shifting i did.
 
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
I don't. Never have. Probably never will. I wish I knew what people were talking about when they rave about sunsets and waterfalls. I don't see the magic.
I read a lot, and I often wonder if I have desensitized myself to the real world by visiting these strange and magical worlds via books. I find myself generally unhappy if I don't have my face buried in a book or a RPG of some type.

Anyone feel like this or have this problem. Is there a drug for it?
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That is truly sad.

Sometimes I stop and just take in the whole world around me and appreciate it, the clouds passing by, the green leaves on the trees, the summer breeze against my face, etc.

Do you think you are depressed?
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I dunno. It's not a huge sense of sadness. Just a very dull feeling all the time. The opposite of excited all the time. Not sad just not happy.
 
Originally posted by: LolaWiz
when you thoguht about those 5 things, did you post them without really feeling grateful? Or did you just post them quickly because i asked you to?
You need to feel thanks for those things. Take time in your day to look around you. Is it sunny today? be happy that you are in a place that is warm if it is. Did you have a good lunch? Did it satisfy you or were you just eating it to not be hungry? If you enjoyed the food you ate, stop and realize that. Realize that you are lucky enough that you don't have to rummage through the trash to find food, or that you do not have to eat at a soup kitchen.

This might sound cheesy and dumb, but it has taken me a long time to transition my thoughts from the "so what" attitude to gratitude... and I am so much happier because of the shifting i did.
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Well I ate lean pocket ultras for breakfast. Not because I like the taste, because I am trying to lose weight. The sun is out and I am glad as it will make it easier to go running when I get off work.
And I posted those things because I do appreciate them.
I dunno. Perhaps I need to see a counselor or something. I always feel better when I get things off my chest to someone in person.
We all have problems, but I am not complaining about problems. I would just like to see things sunny side up for a little while. Perhaps I have a chemical imbalance of some type.
 
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: meltdown75
I bet you would find some amazement in this really tiny violin I have here...

:music:
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tiny? 🙁


way to shatter my fantasy. 😉
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It's not the size that matters, it's how you play it? 😛


Just kidding it is the size.
 
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