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Do you know people who regret having kids?

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heynow85

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Basically, do you know any Casey Anthony type parents, where they seem to just not care for their kids?

It's one of the most taboo things for parents to say, that they wish they never had kids, but obviously there is definitely a percentage of people who feel that way. Sometimes people have a romanticized view of children before they have them, and then later discover it doesn't quite live up to how they imagined it.

The fact remains, kids are not like consumer products where you can just buy it, and if you're dissatisfied, then you can return them back.

And just like we all can't make perfect product purchases in life, not everyone will correctly guess whether or not children are appropriate in their lives either.
 
VAST MAJORITY OF READERS WOULD HAVE CHILDREN AGAIN

10/06/2011

Share: DEAR ABBY: In response to your poll (Aug. 24), "If you had it to do over again, would you have children?" my answer is, "I sure would!" Being a parent made me a better, more tolerant, more patient person and more willing to take risks.

It wasn't always easy. My son's father left me when I was four months pregnant. With the help of my dear mother, I returned to work, completed my college degree and became a schoolteacher. I have so many wonderful memories. My son is grown now and works with special needs children, and I am proud of the man he has become. -- MOM IN SAN DIEGO


DEAR MOM: Your feelings reflect the opinions of 78 percent of my readers, who voted yes to that question. The mail I received was profoundly touching. My newspaper readers comment:


DEAR ABBY: I'm sitting in my oncologist's office, waiting to be seen. Tomorrow is one year since I finished chemotherapy.


Would I have children again? Absolutely. My husband and three amazing sons have brought so much love, joy and happiness to my life. It would have been hard living through two bouts of cancer 10 years apart, a mastectomy, chemo, radiation, surgery and hopelessness without these wonderful men in my life. They encouraged and supported me all along the way.


Childbirth was painful, but if I was told I had to go through it again every month to have my children, I'd do it. Knowing I helped to create them makes me feel incredibly blessed. -- JEANNE IN BONITA SPRINGS, FLA.


DEAR ABBY: I'm a 44-year-old black woman. I feel a deep gratitude and am privileged to be a mother to my two daughters. I get to help shape and mold them and see how they bloom.

My journey to my girls was through adoption. God gave me a wonderful gift when we were placed together. Parenting is challenging and hard. Anyone who thinks differently is mistaken. But it's something I'm proud of and love wholeheartedly. My sister has asked me on two separate occasions if I regret my decision. Never! -- EVA IN PHOENIX


DEAR ABBY: If I could go back, I would not do it again. My children are beautiful, smart, caring and funny. I loved doting on them when they were little. However, I never realized what was coming -- that as teenagers they'd be needy, selfish, costly and ungrateful. Nothing is ever good enough. I get the brunt of the bad moods, the hateful words and the cold shoulders.


Had I known how hard this was going to be and the sacrifices I'd have to make, I would have said no. If I had any idea that I'd love them so much that their pain is my pain, I would have said no. -- ANONYMOUS IN TEXAS


DEAR ABBY: My answer is an emphatic no! I love my son and care for my stepchildren, but for the few joys that I have received it wasn't worth the heartaches.


I have spoken to many parents about this. They all seem to feel the same. These adult children have a sense of entitlement and no respect. Frankly, I should have raised dogs!!! -- NO NAME IN GEORGIA
DEAR ABBY: Would I have children again? Absolutely, every one of them from my first, who is a special needs child who may never be able to live independently, to the youngest, who was only 4 when his dad left. The only change I'd make is I would have them with someone other than their dad, who just wasn't up to the job of being a parent. -- WISER NOW IN MINNESOTA
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JulesMaximus said:
Wait, you mean there is someone less manly than you in this world? 😛
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I think the trick to not regretting having had children is to raise them to be good people you can be proud of. People naturally regret doing something they failed at, and being a parent would be no different.
 
Regret is worthless. Suck it up and find a way to make shit work. Yeah, no guarantees your kids will turn out as you want, so you either take them or leave them, but fuck regret.
 
I am very glad I had kids. I wanted to be a dad for as long as I can remember and I never "regret" it, though it can be frustrating at times.

However, I do NOT regret only having two, though I always thought I would have 4, and my wife wanted at least 3. Every father I know with 3 or more kids has said out loud to me that they regret going past 2.

MotionMan (<---- Ironically, a 3rd child)
 
MotionMan said:
I am very glad I had kids. I wanted to be a dad for as long as I can remember and I never "regret" it, though it can be frustrating at times.

However, I do NOT regret only having two, though I always thought I would have 4, and my wife wanted at least 3. Every father I know with 3 or more kids has said out loud to me that they regret going past 2.

MotionMan (<---- Ironically, a 3rd child)
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<---- #5. not sure how my parents put up with all of us 😉
 
I think kids do strange things to most people. I would bet a great many don't want kids before they have them, but couldn't imagine life without them after they have them. I don't have kids, but I have a brother and sister who are 17 and 13 years younger than me respectively. I didn't want siblings before I had them, but now I wouldn't have it any other way. I would imagine that the effect is similar with children of your own. What I'm saying is that while there are almost certainly outliers who regret having children, they are probably in a very small minority.
 
DEAR ABBY: If I could go back, I would not do it again. My children are beautiful, smart, caring and funny. I loved doting on them when they were little. However, I never realized what was coming -- that as teenagers they'd be needy, selfish, costly and ungrateful. Nothing is ever good enough. I get the brunt of the bad moods, the hateful words and the cold shoulders.


Had I known how hard this was going to be and the sacrifices I'd have to make, I would have said no. If I had any idea that I'd love them so much that their pain is my pain, I would have said no. -- ANONYMOUS IN TEXAS
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People like this who regret children have no clue that the entitlement mentality comes from a child's upbringing. And no their public school teacher is not going to do your job... they will put your kid in a corner and ignore them.
 
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