do you have groups of friends that you keep separate?

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nageov3t

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inspired by that zomgBirthdayParty thread from last night...

I've got like 3 distinct groups of friends that I actively try to keep separated because, while I like them all, I'm fairly certainly that they wouldn't necessarily like each other.

high school/hometown friends -- the people I hang out with on a regular basis. pretty much all yuppies, both married and singles. alcohol use? low. drug use? none

sophomore/junior year of college friends -- other english majors. probably my best friends in college, but are currently scattered all over the north east/mid-atlantic, so I only see them once or twice/year. alcohol use? heavy. drug use? none

senior year of college friends -- my D&D buddies, mostly. my english major friends were a year ahead of me, so I had to adopt a new group of friends for my senior year. I live in close proximity to 2 of them, so I see them all the time, and I meet up with another one who lives semi-close to go clubbing every couple weeks. alcohol use? heavy. drug use? heavy

it's kind of annoying if like I go to a party and can't tell certain people about it because I don't want to offend them ("sorry, I didn't invite you because you don't drink and I know you'd just be a wet blanket all night") but it's nice to have different outlets for different facets of my personality. <3
 

Kanalua

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High school/Childhood friends

Church friends

Law school friends
 

Platypus

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Definitely. I rarely keep in touch with anyone from pre-college days since I hated my small ass town and wanted to get as far from it as possible. I have friends from school, professional (work) friends, regular/drinking buddy type friends, musician friends and gay friends. I keep them all relatively separate just based on the fact that most times each group have nothing in common with the other.
 

MichaelD

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Friends from work that I go to lunch with, do volunteer work with and maybe, MAAAAYBE have one (1) beer with them. I almost never joke around with them for fear of insulting someone's religion/race/sexual preference/ice cream flavor/favorite color and getting screwed over by work. I'm pretty much stone-faced and emotionally lukewarm around them. We discuss work and work and work and how to make discussing work better.


Friends I play music with, get shitfaced with, joke around with, go away on trips with and generally fun around with. They've seen me laugh, cry and throw things in disgust. We don't talk much about our jobs; we all have that "other" group of friends.

Notice the space b/t the two groups of friends? It's been that way for 12+ years now and I don't see it changing anytime. Ever.

Work+True Friendships = disaster waiting to happen.
 

dguy6789

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Yep, I have a few separate groups of friends who probably wouldn't get along with each other too well.
 

bobdole369

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Like Friend George and Relationship George?

No. But I do keep work folks from getting to know me outside of the workplace.
 

GeekDrew

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Yes, to some degree, and mainly just because of geographic/scheduling differences. I have work friends (two), primarily online and/or geographically distant friends (many), and other assorted personal friends and family IRL (less than a handful). They might not all have the same things in common, but I'd venture to guess that they all have compatible personalities.
 

Kalmah

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I like to keep all of my girlfriend separated.. you now.. so they don't fight over me.
 

lokiju

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I used to but ditched all my old friends for new ones about 6 or so years ago fully and haven't looked back since.

There was a period though for a number of years where I had my work friends that I'd some times do stuff with out side of work, then my old time school friends that I did a LOT of drinking and partying with and then my non-school related friends that all formed a group over the years that didn't drink (much) but just had a good time in general with low drama and laid back personalities, which is the only group I still interact with now days.
 

meltdown75

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um ya.

- friends from work (not co-workers - that's completely different lol)
- IRL buddies
- online acquaintances
- hockey / golf friends
 
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