Do you go to funerals?

[zerocool84]

What a bunch of fucking self-fish douchebags. It has nothing to do about you, it's about being there for your family and reflect about the old times and good times.

Sadly, it's always the same douchebags.

Hey, it's you saying it, the typical holier than thou douchbag. Not surprising. Thinking you have the right how to tell people how to live their lives, how to spend their money, how to morn the death of their loved ones. You seriously have no bounds. You don't know what people have gone through.

 

[rudeguy]

The last funeral I went to was my old boss. Well I guess that was technically his viewing...

Either way, no. I don't go to funerals anymore. I don't deal well with death and me being there wouldn't help anyone.

I may go to my dad's when he dies. I hear that might be soon...

 

[ShadowOfMyself]

Went to the funerals of both my grandmothers, and... Dont think Ill go to a funeral again

Seriously, not my thing, Im not the kind of person to cry over what happened, Id just wrap it up and move on as quickly as possible

Dont know how its gonna be when its my parents turn, it feels pretty heartless not to go to their funeral, but really, isnt the most important thing the time I spent with them while they were alive?

Meh...

 

[LumbergTech]

I'm confused. Are there anti-funeral people who refuse to go to funerals?

im not anti-funeral per say , but I don't get anything out of them...if it makes others feel better i think thats great though..i wouldn't try to get in the way of their grieving process

 

[TridenT]

Went to the funerals of both my grandmothers, and... Dont think Ill go to a funeral again

Seriously, not my thing, Im not the kind of person to cry over what happened, Id just wrap it up and move on as quickly as possible

Dont know how its gonna be when its my parents turn, it feels pretty heartless not to go to their funeral, but really, isnt the most important thing the time I spent with them while they were alive?

Meh...

Bolded is my concern now. I'm not sure how that's going to go down. By the time my parents die then most of the people in our family will probably be dead. I don't know who would even show up.

Of course, if there was going to be a funeral then I would probably have to fund it and set it up because I am 100% sure that my half-brother and half-sister would not even be able to comprehend what goes into it.

Ugh I can't even imagine what it's going to be like when they die. Who knows if they're going to have a will or what. I can't imagine my half-brother or half-sister getting everything they own. That would be utterly ridiculous. It's more likely that I will be the one who gets everything if my father dies first then my mother dies. I can't imagine my dad outliving my mom. It's hard to tell though. I don't care for the possessions or anything, but my half-brother and half-sister most certainly do not deserve everything/anything. If anything, I'll just sell whatever my parents have and put all the money into college funds for the children in the family that are worthy. (i.e. not kids who are not getting poor grades)

 

[rudeguy]

Bolded is my concern now. I'm not sure how that's going to go down. By the time my parents die then most of the people in our family will probably be dead. I don't know who would even show up.

Of course, if there was going to be a funeral then I would probably have to fund it and set it up because I am 100% sure that my half-brother and half-sister would not even be able to comprehend what goes into it.

Ugh I can't even imagine what it's going to be like when they die. Who knows if they're going to have a will or what. I can't imagine my half-brother or half-sister getting everything they own. That would be utterly ridiculous. It's more likely that I will be the one who gets everything if my father dies first then my mother dies. I can't imagine my dad outliving my mom. It's hard to tell though. I don't care for the possessions or anything, but my half-brother and half-sister most certainly do not deserve everything/anything. If anything, I'll just sell whatever my parents have and put all the money into college funds for the children in the family that are worthy. (i.e. not kids who are not getting poor grades)

celebrate life with them while you can

Death happens.

 

[Bignate603]

I don't think I've ever been to one. I could have gone to one for my grandma last year (the person who had the biggest positive impact on my life) but I decided not to.

You missed the funeral of the person that made the biggest impact in your life? Wow, that's pretty terrible.

 

[TridenT]

celebrate life with them while you can

Death happens.

Celebrating life with my parents? That's some kind of oxymoron right there.

You missed the funeral of the person that made the biggest impact in your life? Wow, that's pretty terrible.

I hadn't seen them in over 2 years and never even interacted with them. They were dead to me for quite a long time before they actually died.

 

[Kirby]

I've been to:

great grandmother - pallbearer
great uncle
grandfather - pallbearer
grandmother
uncle - pallbearer
uncle - pallbearer
uncle
unrelated family friend
unrelated family friend

I'm sure I'm forgetting some that wasn't particularly close with. 23 years old btw.

I hate funerals, but when it's someone close to you it's nice of people to come by and let you know how much the deceased meant to them. So I try to extend the same courtesy when I can.

 

[bobeedee]

What a bunch of fucking self-fish douchebags. It has nothing to do about you, it's about being there for your family and reflect about the old times and good times.

Sadly, it's always the same douchebags.

You hit the nail on the head Capt.

 

[mcurphy]

Yes, I go to every funeral for everyone that has been a significant part of my life.

It's called paying your respects. If you can't do this for someone you know and love, then you are disrespectful.

 

[Lifted]

Another successful Trident troll thread.

Amazing that some people here actually believe this, especially considering who it's coming from.

 

[jlee]

I played taps at my grandfather's funeral.

 

[Born2bwire]

The fuck kind of poll is this?

"Jimmy, your grandma died. Do you want to go to the funeral to pay your last respects?"

"Naw, that's cool. You go ahead"

The Fuck?

EDIT: Jesus Fucking Christ. I still can't wrap my head around this bullshit. Fuck it. I'm going to lunch.

 

[PeeluckyDuckee]

I tend to agree that other than for your own closure (if need be) it's also to lend a shoulder to those who may need it and to support/comfort each other. If I was gone I sure would hope my kids have the decency to be there not for me but to be there for my SO. It's the last thing I would ever ask for really.

 

[HamburgerBoy]

I've gone to funerals for both great-grandparents it was possible to see.

 

[MotionMan]

I go to funerals of family members.

I generally go to the funerals of people I knew and to support my family and friends if it does not interfere too much with work.

I actually went to a funeral on my birthday two years in three!

MotionMan

 

[james1701]

I had three in less than a year, my mom, my wifes mom, and her grandmother. I don't like it, but I will pay my respects.

 

[mcurphy]

Who is in charge of the TridenT (scroll) list of pathetic things?

This needs to be added and an updated list needs to be posted in this thread!

 

[PowerEngineer]

The reason you go to a funeral is to help comfort the immediate family of the person who passed away.

If they want to have an open casket funeral...fine!

If they want to have a "celebration of life"...fine!

If they want to have an Irish wake...fine!

If they want to scatter ashes from a mountain top...fine!

Whatever kind of memorial they want...fine!

It's all about what helps them accept their loss and move on.

If you're invited to attend, you ought to be able to put their feelings ahead of your own. Suck it up and go!

 

[zerocool84]

Yes, I go to every funeral for everyone that has been a significant part of my life.

It's called paying your respects. If you can't do this for someone you know and love, then you are disrespectful.

I didn't know you couldn't pay your respects in your own way, especially if it's a family member. No one has to go to a funeral. I have not gone to any of my grandparents funerals or my friends funerals as I couldn't handle it and I certainly won't be going to any other of my family's funerals.

 

[BoomerD]

Not if I can fucking help it...

I hate funerals. Better IMO, to show the person a bit of respect and visit them (when possible) before they die than to wait until they're gone...and go to the funeral. I will attend funerals for some people who were important to me, but just for those I know? Not likely.

 

[grrl]

I don't think I've ever been to one. I could have gone to one for my grandma last year (the person who had the biggest positive impact on my life) but I decided not to.

Do you make threads just to demonstrate what a complete fucking loser you are?

 

[Dr. Zaus]

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QFT

Also, He's clearly got emotional problems (see posts) and can not, as they say in Buffy, deal.

Also, I hope for everyone here, that if you have not been to a funeral you some day still do attend one... otherwise, I'd wager, you're life was rather empty.