Do you get tired of people asking "How are you"?

[MrDudeMan]

Originally posted by: rh71

Originally posted by: ndee
It's called being nice.

Exactly. How would you react if someone just said "yo" to acknowledge you ? Kinda means something else, doesn't it ? And just a "hello" leads to a dead silence. Depends on the situation.

this is where you are all wrong. if there is nothing important or of substance to talk about, then why even talk? saying hello is friendly enough. it doesnt require any type of conversation and it shows that you arent being an asswad. but, pointless conversation is retarded. this doesnt necessarily apply to say your parents or your SO, but talking to a stranger or aquantaince (sp?) or sometimes even a friend is just a waste of time if nothing but crap will be exchanged. im not bitter, i have plenty of friends, a girlfriend, and im nice to people, so i dont wanna hear the "you suXor at life!!" or "get a breathe of fresh air." i am just stating my opinion.

 

[MrDudeMan]

Originally posted by: Indolent
I've come to accept the phrase as one used by people that feel the need to talk to everyone they see but have nothing of any substance to say.

perfect

 

[Skyclad1uhm1]

Yes, all the time. I usually say 'sh!tty', 'fvcked up', or something else they don't want to hear.

 

[RagingBITCH]

Do you like "wtf are you looking at douchebag" better?

It's called a common courtesy.

 

[PlatinumGold]

Originally posted by: MrDudeMan

Originally posted by: ndee
It's called being nice.

bullsh!t. you guys are, sorry to say, less than intelligent if you cant see how useless this phrase is. it is a waste of everyones oxygen to ask meaningless questions like this. most of the time, do you think the person asking really gives a crap? not really. so what if its called being nice. i would rather someone not ask me a question that they dont care what the answer is instead of pretending to care. essentially what it comes down to is being fake. might be a long shot, but think about it for a second. you typically talk to people that you arent related to in some way all the time, and usually you dont talk to them just to "be nice"...you want/need something done. why not just skip right to it instead of all the bullcrap at the beginning that wastes time. when people dont say thanks after everything you do, do you get upset? if you do, you need to grow up and realize its not going out of you way to help people sometimes and saying thanks gets annoying if you do it every 10 seconds - not to mention, it also loses some of its affect (effect?). anyways, i understand what syringer is saying because it also gets on my nerves sometimes.

the topic is interesting tho.

in the old small town type communities where everyone knew each other and when there were strangers in town it was a curiosity, this was standard and it was nice.

in todays metropolis's with very little "Human" interaction where people would rather deal with an ATM than a real person, where they see store clerks as no more than vending machines, yes, this can get annoying.

the question is, do you really want to live in such a society?? where everyone views everyone else as nothing more than automatons?

in the work place, it seems to me that it would be a better place to work if the "how are you doing"'s were more than just automated question and responses but more that of real concern.

 

[sygyzy]

No.

 

[pipster]

From a popular radio show...

Caller: "How are you doing?"
Host: "Do you care?"

 

[bradruth]

I only get tired of it when it's the same person asking me a lot, or if a number of people do it consecutively because I try to phrase it differently (good, not too bad, not too shabby, I can't complain, etc.). I don't like to repeat the same response over and over.

 

[ajpa123]

Originally posted by: MrDudeMan

Originally posted by: ndee
It's called being nice.

bullsh!t. you guys are, sorry to say, less than intelligent if you cant see how useless this phrase is. it is a waste of everyones oxygen to ask meaningless questions like this. most of the time, do you think the person asking really gives a crap? not really. so what if its called being nice. i would rather someone not ask me a question that they dont care what the answer is instead of pretending to care. essentially what it comes down to is being fake. might be a long shot, but think about it for a second. you typically talk to people that you arent related to in some way all the time, and usually you dont talk to them just to "be nice"...you want/need something done. why not just skip right to it instead of all the bullcrap at the beginning that wastes time. when people dont say thanks after everything you do, do you get upset? if you do, you need to grow up and realize its not going out of you way to help people sometimes and saying thanks gets annoying if you do it every 10 seconds - not to mention, it also loses some of its affect (effect?). anyways, i understand what syringer is saying because it also gets on my nerves sometimes.

Dude, think again...(interacting with new people brings meaning to my life) When i greet people, it's 80% body language and 20% spoken language. It's not what you say, it's how you package it. 'How are you' or 'How are ya?' or 'sup?' all mean the same thing. Whether it be at work, home or play.. You get more out of life when you experience more interaction with people. If you only talk to people that you have to.. you need to get out more. Also, realize that people are a result of their environments (surroundings and parents). Sometimes you have to be nice to people and look past their rudeness becuase sometime they don't know any better. You need to be a better person by accepting it and trying to make the best out of the situation. If not, society would be a piece of dog sh!t.

Your paragraph is your opinion and i respect it. The above paragraph is my opinion.

 

[Syringer]

Okay, it's not a question of interacting with people or not, but the actual quality of the conversations. Simply having someone ask me "how are you" does not suggest to me that they care at all how I'm doing, but rather they feel obligated to do so.

When I run into someone I know, if I do ask something I usually come up with a more personalized greeting..like "how's your computer running" if I had recently fixed their comp..or "how was that midterm", etc..which I personally think shows a much more genuine interest in that person than a "how's it going" approach.

 

[CraigRT]

I don't really like it either, but ya gotta say something.

 

[Encryptic]

I don't mind when it's from a friend or family member. However, when I answer the phone at work and a stranger does this, it annoys the crap out of me. I'm tempted to give them a pissy answer everytime they pull that line on me....

 

[amnesiac]

Originally posted by: CChaos
It's just an expression. Are you feeling depressed lately? Trouble sleeping?

Seriously. What is it with the antisocial weirdos over here? If I had to deal with people who don't understand the use simple expressions like this on a constant basis I would go insane. This is probably why the nerds are never allowed outside in most companies. If I had to deal with dumpy, whiny, emo retards instead of proper CSRs when I make calls the company would easily lose my business.

 

[JulesMaximus]

Originally posted by: Syringer
Okay, it's not a question of interacting with people or not, but the actual quality of the conversations. Simply having someone ask me "how are you" does not suggest to me that they care at all how I'm doing, but rather they feel obligated to do so.

When I run into someone I know, if I do ask something I usually come up with a more personalized greeting..like "how's your computer running" if I had recently fixed their comp..or "how was that midterm", etc..which I personally think shows a much more genuine interest in that person than a "how's it going" approach.

They obviously cared enough to bother to acknowledge you. Regardless of how much the person cares about how you actually are doing, they are simply trying to be pleasant and I have no problem the phrase.

You have friends? I'm glad I'm not one of them. With friends like you who needs acquaintances?

 

[Electric Amish]

Bother's me too. That's why I rarely say it. I just say hi.

1) they really don't care "How you are"

2) nobody would tell you anyway.

 

[waggy]

Originally posted by: Syringer
I mean, what is the point? People are just going to expect you to say "good" or "fine" or one of those generic type responses, they don't expect any sort of real answer out of you..and my view of them is that they're simply asking out of pure obligation, not because they care how I'm doing.

Do you ever come up with a non-generic response to that question, or come up with a less generic type of greeting?

when im in a bad mood or i get tired of it i just tell people i have explosive diarrhea. that usually makes them remember they have something important to do.

When I'm busy at work and don't have time to chitchat sometimes it takes being rude to get the work done.

 

[FoBoT]

have a nice day!

 

[CTrain]

If you have nothing in life that bothers you more than people asking "How are you?", thats pretty sad.
There are definately more things in life to worry about than people asking "How are you?"
I don't think at any point in my 32yrs that I gave a second thought to if "How are you?" bugs me or not.

 

[MrDudeMan]

Originally posted by: CTrain
If you have nothing in life that bothers you more than people asking "How are you?", thats pretty sad.
There are definately more things in life to worry about than people asking "How are you?"
I don't think at any point in my 32yrs that I gave a second thought to if "How are you?" bugs me or not.

so im sure you have never complained about anything which is less potent than a heart attack or cancer, right? things annoy people, and where else do we discuss if not on a discussion forum? shesh.

 

[Savarak]

I think its more annoying when people say "what are you doing?" instead of "how are you?", on instant messengers

 

[MrDudeMan]

Originally posted by: ajpa123

Originally posted by: MrDudeMan

Originally posted by: ndee
It's called being nice.

bullsh!t. you guys are, sorry to say, less than intelligent if you cant see how useless this phrase is. it is a waste of everyones oxygen to ask meaningless questions like this. most of the time, do you think the person asking really gives a crap? not really. so what if its called being nice. i would rather someone not ask me a question that they dont care what the answer is instead of pretending to care. essentially what it comes down to is being fake. might be a long shot, but think about it for a second. you typically talk to people that you arent related to in some way all the time, and usually you dont talk to them just to "be nice"...you want/need something done. why not just skip right to it instead of all the bullcrap at the beginning that wastes time. when people dont say thanks after everything you do, do you get upset? if you do, you need to grow up and realize its not going out of you way to help people sometimes and saying thanks gets annoying if you do it every 10 seconds - not to mention, it also loses some of its affect (effect?). anyways, i understand what syringer is saying because it also gets on my nerves sometimes.

Dude, think again...(interacting with new people brings meaning to my life) When i greet people, it's 80% body language and 20% spoken language. It's not what you say, it's how you package it. 'How are you' or 'How are ya?' or 'sup?' all mean the same thing. Whether it be at work, home or play.. You get more out of life when you experience more interaction with people. If you only talk to people that you have to.. you need to get out more. Also, realize that people are a result of their environments (surroundings and parents). Sometimes you have to be nice to people and look past their rudeness becuase sometime they don't know any better. You need to be a better person by accepting it and trying to make the best out of the situation. If not, society would be a piece of dog sh!t.

Your paragraph is your opinion and i respect it. The above paragraph is my opinion.

first of all, i love meeting new people and becoming friends with them. i dont mind that phrase when it comes from someone who genuinely cares for the answer. i agree that being more open minded is a good idea and i do it whenever possible, but i draw the line sometimes. its like sometimes im on the fence, but most of the time its clear cut that it annoys me...hard to explain. but, i agree that society would be a piece of dog poo if everyone ignored everyone else. i dont think skipping this phrase would cause that though i am glad you were able to state your opinion in a civil manner while respecting mine. that is hard to come by on this forum lol.

 

[MrDudeMan]

Originally posted by: JulesMaximus

Originally posted by: Syringer
Okay, it's not a question of interacting with people or not, but the actual quality of the conversations. Simply having someone ask me "how are you" does not suggest to me that they care at all how I'm doing, but rather they feel obligated to do so.

When I run into someone I know, if I do ask something I usually come up with a more personalized greeting..like "how's your computer running" if I had recently fixed their comp..or "how was that midterm", etc..which I personally think shows a much more genuine interest in that person than a "how's it going" approach.

They obviously cared enough to bother to acknowledge you. Regardless of how much the person cares about how you actually are doing, they are simply trying to be pleasant and I have no problem the phrase.

You have friends? I'm glad I'm not one of them. With friends like you who needs acquaintances?

how can you even say that about his post? he is talking about making it more personalized so it means something, and you find major fault with that? you need to rethink your stance on this because it is obviously not coherent. if my girlfriend asked me "how are you" i would be like wtf?

 

[SackOfAllTrades]

MrDudeman,

How are you?

 

[MangoTBG]

The problem isn't the phrase, it's the people like Sryinger and MrDudeMan who feel that the question has no meaning to it. Or rather, they put no meaning into it. When I talk to someone, I DO care. No matter who I talk to ask them "how are things?" but most of all I wish them good or better days. Social-beings are those that want to talk to everyone, and I'm one of them. Just like AJ said, interacting with people is where you become a better person. You can learn so much from others.


Does it bother me? Not the slightest.

 

[MangoTBG]

DBL post.