Do you feel obligated to send flowers on Val. Day?

[49erinnc]

Just curious if anyone (primarily the guys) here is in a position where they feel they simply have to have flowers sent to their SO's workplace?

I honestly enjoy doing it because I know it means a lot to my SO but sometimes I feel like we do it because it's expected. Even though my SO honestly wouldn't care, I still feel like it's a letdown if she doesn't get flowers at work when several of her female coworkers will get them. I think that if she worked at home, I'd definitely be more apt to pick up a $30 arrangement at the grocery store and hand deliver them. But because she works with a bunch of people (lot of women), I cough up close to $100 each February to have an overpriced arrangement delivered.

I just have this mental image of the delivery guy walking in with an arrangement and all the women there getting excited and wondering if it's for them. I just don't want my SO to be the one who never gets them.

Damn commercial holidays! :|

 

[ballmode]

i don't have a valentine 🙁

 

[blackdogdeek]

i don't feel obligated to do anything. my wife has already told me not to get her anything.

but i'm going to surprise her with the label maker she keeps talking about.

 

[slikmunks]

i don't feel obligated, but i do feel that she'd like it if i did...

 

[TallBill]

Hell no. My wife and I don't buy presents for each other on any day of the year.

 

[SSSnail]

I don't send flowers. Passed Valentine's day, I bought a bouquet of star gazers and tulips, arranged it on our living room table while my gf slept, with chocolates, a cuddly teddy, some ribbons I made myself, and a nice card. It was a good reaction. Then we went to dinner 😉.

 

[Leros]

Originally posted by: ballmode
i don't have a valentine 🙁

I'll be your valentine. You can send me some chocolate if it makes you feel better.

 

[DaShen]

Nope, it is a commercial holiday, but try telling your SO that. 😉

I figure if it makes the girl happy though, no harm no foul, but I would tell her that I didn't believe in Valentine's Day. If I want to do something romantic, I will, regardless of what day it is.

 

[Leros]

Originally posted by: DaShen
Nope, it is a commercial holiday, but try telling your SO that. 😉

I don't think girls would care that much if their friends weren't getting special stuff too. They have to keep up with everybody else even if they really don't care.

 

[marulee]

Originally posted by: ballmode
i don't have a valentine 🙁

Perhaps obligated duty.

 

[TUKIN18S]

Nope, I don't, and I'm not. I already told the g/f that I wasn't and she agreed. yah for me not spending at least $50 on flowers next week.

 

[edro]

Yes, I feel obligated and I do not know if I am going to do it this year.

 

[masterxfob]

regardless of who the flowers are for, mother/wife/gf/friend/sister, i think it's just a nice gesture and it makes that person feel special. is it a waste of money? sure it is, but what isn't? why go out to dinner? why watch a movie in the theatres? why do anything if not to bring a little more happiness into what seems to be the daily routine of life?

 

[dainthomas]

Originally posted by: 49erinnc
I cough up close to $100 each February to have an overpriced arrangement delivered.

If I dropped $100 on flowers, I'd be sleeping on the couch.

 

[AreaCode707]

My husband and I don't do the whole Valentines Day thing. I'd be way more thrilled to get flowers on a regular day than I would on Valentines Day - that way you know they're more than an obligation.

 

[hjo3]

We don't do flowers since we're both guys. Last year I got him a Hickory Farms basket and he took me out to dinner at a really nice Chinese place.

 

[lobbyone]

not in the least bit.

 

[GeekDrew]

Originally posted by: hjo3
We don't do flowers since we're both guys.

lol... as though that matters. it's certainly just another commercialized holiday, but <shrug>. i don't think i'll get anything for him, and i doubt i'll get anything from him.

 

[PhlashFoto]

I have noone to send flowers to.

 

[EKKC]

not since year 2. me and the SO both agreed it was a total waste of money and a ridiculous commercialized day.
i'll probably get her some chocolate syrup 😉 for me...

 

[EKKC]

Originally posted by: HotChic
My husband and I don't do the whole Valentines Day thing. I'd be way more thrilled to get flowers on a regular day than I would on Valentines Day - that way you know they're more than an obligation.

more than an obligation, but he did something wrong? just like kobe getting his wife a ridiculous ring? 😉 i kid i kid

 

[thawolfman]

Originally posted by: ballmode
i don't have a valentine 😀😀😀:thumbsup::thumbsup::thumbsup::beer::beer::beer:

Fixed.

 

[hjo3]

Originally posted by: GeekDrew

Originally posted by: hjo3
We don't do flowers since we're both guys.

lol... as though that matters.

I don't know any guys that receive flowers unless they're in the hospital for something serious -- it's part of the social norm that they're something usually just given to girls, like purses and lipstick.

 

[Leros]

Originally posted by: hjo3

Originally posted by: GeekDrew

Originally posted by: hjo3
We don't do flowers since we're both guys.

lol... as though that matters.

I don't know any guys that receive flowers unless they're in the hospital for something serious -- it's part of the social norm that they're something usually just given to girls, like purses and lipstick.

Assuming society was indifferent, would you like to receive flowers?

 

[djheater]

Originally posted by: TallBill
Hell no. My wife and I don't buy presents for each other on any day of the year.

Hey, me too!

I occasionally get her something, and she does me.

I appreciate the occasional 12-pack of something we haven't tried over normal gifts anyway.