Do you expect a firm handshake from both men and women?

[JulesMaximus]

I heard a radio host discussing this the other day with his co-hosts and it got really heated. The host expects a firm handshake from a man and would think less of a man, or at least notice it, for giving a weak handshake but he said he didn't hold the same expectation for women. Holy crap, his co-host was livid (a woman) as were some other people who called in but I kind of agree with the host on this one.

I don't really expect a firm handshake from a woman. How does ATOT feel about this issue?

 

[schneiderguy]

No, that's why I give them a boob shake.

 

[JulesMaximus]

No, that's why I give them a boob shake.

In your dreams manlet.

 

[Newell Steamer]

Weak handshakes indicate indifference and lack of interest - no matter what the sex is.

On the flip, an overpowering, or reactive hand shake (i.e. you give a firm shake, the ape on the other end starts squeezing as if his hand is a vice grip) is a sign the person is anxious and overbearing.

 

[smackababy]

What exactly were they upset about? That women were viewed as "weak" or that they weren't being held to an arbitrary standard that men were?

I expect a firm handshake from everyone, as that is how I was taught. I won't necessarily look down on someone that doesn't, but I will take notice. If there are other signs of them being timid or weak, along with the hand shake, I will judge them. But, a single factor? Not really.

*I should also point out that I didn't read the options all the way and voted the first one.

 

[Capt Caveman]

I expect it from a man and don't from a woman but I'm quite impressed when a woman does give a firm handshake.

 

[chimaxi83]

In my line of work, I come across a lot of people, and a lot of hands. In my experience, men from Mexico, Philippines, and India give the limpest hand shakes known to man.

On the flip side, their hands are always velvety soft. :wub:

 

[wabbitslayer]

What I hate more than a "weak" handshake is the "i'm trying to break bones in your hand and dislocate your shoulder" jackassery you get from some guys that I guess are trying to be all alpha...b/c my reaction at least mentally is "shit, dude, didn't know you wanted to fight, let's go"

 

[SKORPI0]

 

[JulesMaximus]

What exactly were they upset about? That women were viewed as "weak" or that they weren't being held to an arbitrary standard that men were?

I expect a firm handshake from everyone, as that is how I was taught. I won't necessarily look down on someone that doesn't, but I will take notice. If there are other signs of them being timid or weak, along with the hand shake, I will judge them. But, a single factor? Not really.

*I should also point out that I didn't read the options all the way and voted the first one.

Most definitely this. I expect a firm handshake too but, like I said, I kind of expect that some women will not give a firm handshake and it doesn't really even register with me if they don't. A man hands me a cold clammy limp noodle though and I will notice it.

 

[surfsatwerk]

Is "firm handshake" code for something?

 

[Aharami]

i expect a firm handshake with eye contact from a man. dont have such expectations from women, but am pleasantly surprised when I do get one, and think highly of any woman who can give a proper firm handshake

 

[JulesMaximus]

Is "firm handshake" code for something?

Not that I'm aware of. You might check with schneiderguy on this though as he seems to be up on all the latest sexual lingo and deviant behavior. 😀

 

[KeithTalent]

Curtsy or GTFO!

KT

 

[alzan]

I expect nothing from either a man or woman in terms of handshake "strength"; the type of handshake I get does not lower or raise my opinion of them.

However I have high standards for handshakes I get from dogs...

 

[Platypus]

I expect a firm handshake from anyone shaking my hand, but I don't really find a poll option I agree with. I don't hold it against them long term, but I do see it as a sign of indifference and therefore lack of respect towards the purpose of the handshake.

On the flip side, the guys who try to crush your hand as a sign of dominance are equally annoying.

 

[rh71]

what i hate more than a "weak" handshake is the "i'm trying to break bones in your hand and dislocate your shoulder" jackassery you get from some guys that i guess are trying to be all alpha...b/c my reaction at least mentally is "shit, dude, didn't know you wanted to fight, let's go"

so much this.

I expect a limp handshake from women and I don't give a hard one to them either.

 

[Platypus]

What I hate more than a "weak" handshake is the "i'm trying to break bones in your hand and dislocate your shoulder" jackassery you get from some guys that I guess are trying to be all alpha...b/c my reaction at least mentally is "shit, dude, didn't know you wanted to fight, let's go"

lol

 

[HamburgerBoy]

I expect nothing from either a man or woman in terms of handshake "strength"; the type of handshake I get does not lower or raise my opinion of them.

However I have high standards for handshakes I get from dogs...

I was going to say something like this, but then I remembered this one instance where I shook hands with a male. Initially I was disappointed with his limpness, but realizing that he must have been more embarrassed than I was, I just took pity on him.

 

[schneiderguy]

I was going to say something like this, but then I remembered this one instance where I shook hands with a male. Initially I was disappointed with his limpness, but realizing that he must have been more embarrassed than I was, I just took pity on him.

How could a red blooded man be limp around you :|

 

[Ruptga]

No firm handshake? I bet they aren't wearing a suit either. GTFO is what I'd say.



Actually I don't have a strong opinion on it, and it's just one social cue out of many many others.

 

[mizzou]

I hate it when people grab my hand too early. I hate that worse then the limp noodle.