Do you associate sex and love?

[jimbob200521]

I know people who can go out and have sex with anyone and not have a second thought about it. However, I also know people (present company included) who won't have sex with anyone unless there are feelings involved...not necessarily love, but some kind of caring. I've been thinking about this a lot lately, and am basically running in circles with the idea. So what are some of ATOT's thoughts on the subject? Are you the kind of person who can have a care free night with someone or do you have to get to know them first?

And lets please keep this on topic, folks...

 

[Ryan]

Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't.

 

[deerslayer]

Sex != Love.

 

[Aikouka]

Well, this is a hard thing to answer...

Because I don't think you should just go around sexing up anyone, but I also don't think having sex should be a requirement to "show your love" like some people make it out to be.

So it's weird because the first remark kind of says "sex = love" and the last kind of says "but not really...."

 

[ch33zw1z]

Sex and Love are two separate things, but can be combined together for a very fun time 🙂

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: Ryan
Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't.

this is going to be the answer for the majority here.

 

[Raduque]

Originally posted by: deerslayer
Sex != Love.

Yep. You don't have to love somebody to have sex with them, and you don't have to have sex to be able to love somebody.

 

[ValkyrieofHouston]

No, sex does not equate to love. You can have sex with anyone and not feel love. Love is so much deeper than that. Sex does not make the relationship either it is only a very small part of something as intricate as a working relationship with someone.

 

[krunchykrome]

I'm not the type to just sleep with anybody, but I have never associated love with sex.

 

[Roguestar]

Sex is something fun to do with someone, but it's even better if it's with someone you love. Then it crosses the line from "fvck1ng" to "making love".

 

[Lola]

No, they are two seperate things/feelings.
As others have said, you can have sex without love and love without sex.
And, as much as i truly love having sex with someone i love, i have never called it "making love".

 

[crisscross]

Originally posted by: ch33zw1z
Sex and Love are two separate things, but can be combined together for a very fun time 🙂

QFT

 

[overst33r]

There's ******, sex, and love making...only the last one requires looooove

 

[JulesMaximus]

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
No, they are two seperate things/feelings.
As others have said, you can have sex without love and love without sex.
And, as much as i truly love having sex with someone i love, i have never called it "making love".

Niether have I.

I could easily have sex with someone I was just attracted to and thoroughly enjoy it. I am married though so I only have sex with my wife...and I thoroughly enjoy it. 😀

 

[blackdogdeek]

2 separate things. great apart, great together.

but unmistakably different.

 

[daveshel]

I've always thought the connection was overstated.

 

[Hammerhead]

When it's with the wife, it's "making love"
When it's with the ho, it's "fvckin"

 

[ShadowOfMyself]

To me sex requires love, but love doesnt require sex

 

[nakedfrog]

I think it's pretty well been covered here.

 

[iRONic]

Originally posted by: ch33zw1z
Sex and Love are two separate things, but can be combined together for a very fun time 🙂

Exactly!

We have great sex with our girlfriend but we aren't in love with her. We have great sex with each other and we're deeply in love.

 

[Roguestar]

Originally posted by: iRONic

Originally posted by: ch33zw1z
Sex and Love are two separate things, but can be combined together for a very fun time 🙂

Exactly!

We have great sex with our girlfriend but we aren't in love with her. We have great sex with each other and we're deeply in love.

Need story behind this undoubtably great potential thread.

 

[SViper]

I used to think that they were the same, but my track record shows otherwise. I've never had sex with anyone in a meaningful relationship. All of my sexual encounters involve one night stands.

Obviously, I believe that sex =! love. I think it would be better if you did it with someone you cared about, but I have yet to experience that.

 

[Electric Amish]

Very, very separate.

 

[iRONic]

Originally posted by: Roguestar

Originally posted by: iRONic

Originally posted by: ch33zw1z
Sex and Love are two separate things, but can be combined together for a very fun time 🙂

Exactly!

We have great sex with our girlfriend but we aren't in love with her. We have great sex with each other and we're deeply in love.

Need story behind this undoubtably great potential thread.

There will be no "great" thread about it. As far as a "story" it's pretty benign. My wife and I have had a girlfriend for almost three years. We all spend the weekend at the casino every few months and have a great time.

Sorry to disappoint you...

 

[Roguestar]

Originally posted by: iRONic

Originally posted by: Roguestar

Originally posted by: iRONic

Originally posted by: ch33zw1z
Sex and Love are two separate things, but can be combined together for a very fun time 🙂

Exactly!

We have great sex with our girlfriend but we aren't in love with her. We have great sex with each other and we're deeply in love.

Need story behind this undoubtably great potential thread.

There will be no "great" thread about it. As far as a "story" it's pretty benign. My wife and I have had a girlfriend for almost three years. We all spend the weekend at the casino every few months and have a great time.

Sorry to disappoint you...

~shrug~

Fair enough. Different strokes for different folks. Good to see that you're one of the few couples who are strong enough to do that and stay together. Too often you hear of the ruined relationships coming out of situations like that. :thumbsup: