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Do women really say that?

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<< GF: &quot;What are you thinking?&quot; >>

Get ready for a discussion of cars, monster trucks or G-strings (not necessarily in that order).
 


<< GF: &quot;What are you thinking?&quot; >>



ARGH! I hate that question! Mainly because I'm always thinking of crap and then OF COURSE as soon as I'm asked that question, anything I was thikning about magically vanishes into thin air. THEN she will always think you're up to something because you don't want to tell her when in reality you were just thinking of crap anyway!
 
ok the responses in this thread have me wondering a new question.

Is there such a thing as a relationship where the two people are open and honest with their thoughts and feelings. Instead of holding things inside until you burst, saying dumb things like &quot;You should know&quot;, &quot;do I look fat&quot;, being to ashamed to tell your GF that you actually were thinking about stupid crap....

Is anyone honest with their spouse?
 
Yes.
I would rather my husband told me if I look like a complete and utter dork BEFORE we leave the house. If I do something that pisses him off, I would rather know. If he does something annoying, I will tell him. I don't mean petty sh*t, but the real stuff that can make or break a relationship.
I expect it and I give it, you can do both while be tactful and respectful of your spouses feelings.

 
Well, I'm never ashamed about thinking of crap. Just sometimes she wouldn't believe me. With my ex I was always very honest with her about how I felt about everything. She, on the other hand, wasn't always as forthcoming with that kind of info and it drove me mad. I believe that honesty in a relationship is very important and if something is bothering you, you should speak up or get out. If it's something small and you'll get over it in 10 minutes, fine. That doesn't really need to be addressed. If it's something big, you should tell the other person about whatever it is. My ex never asked if she was fat, but she'd make comments and I'd rebuke them. I think it made our relationship stronger because she eventually started to be more comfortable with being free to talk about anything. She still held out some of the time, but we always talked about it and got through it. Except for the end of our relationship, which I won't go into right now. 🙂 It's a confusing and strange way that we broke up. Oh well, the past is the past and the future is always one step away.
 


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<< are you still together? >>


Definitely ! >>



*taking notes*

So uh... what kind of facial expression did he have?? 😛
 


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<< Is anyone honest with their spouse? >>



You have not had a long term relationship, have you?

🙂 >>

I thought that was fairly obvious. No of course not. Obviously I'm much to niave and have far to bright and hopeful an outlook for a *real* relationship to ever work for me.

*Is quite glad he's still single*

I think I'll go to bed now.

Good night all, thanks for your input!
 


<< So uh... what kind of facial expression did he have?? >>


A big ole grin on his face and then he winked at me, and I laughed.
It made me realise that it was a stupid pathetic question which was part of a game that wasted a lot of valuable time. Life is too short.
Treat it like the bull that it is and maybe she will get tired of asking.
 


<< Is anyone honest with their spouse? >>


Despite what they say, women do not want honesty. They want attention and praise.

The answer to do I look good in this is YES

The answer to does this make me look fat is NO

If she wants unconditional love, she gets it. If she wants answers to questions like those above she gets bullshit. No good comes from, I hate your new hairdo, you should have kept it long. You will never get past that in 100 years.
 
And you better notice that new haircut, you know, when she has her bangs trimmed by about a millimeter or so...
 


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<< Is anyone honest with their spouse? >>


Despite what they say, women do not want honesty. They want attention and praise.

The answer to do I look good in this is YES

The answer to does this make me look fat is NO

If she wants unconditional love, she gets it. If she wants answers to questions like those above she gets bullshit. No good comes from, I hate your new hairdo, you should have kept it long. You will never get past that in 100 years. >>

I didn't exactly mean that...I don't see anything wrong with giving attention/praise/affection/etc there's nothing wrong with telling your girl how pretty she is...I mean more along the lines of &quot;What's wrong?&quot;,&quot;Nothing!&quot; and &quot;I'm not going to tell you&quot; type stuff.

I meant emtional honesty I suppose.

Anyhow, now I'm really going to bed.

Good night!
 
I don't think it's about honest so much as the fact that men don't notice stuff and women notice everything. Occasionally they want you to notice...

And the what are you thinking? Think of it as an innocent question from someone who thinks you are an alien. She is just curious as to what goes on in your mind. Unfortunately, she would be happy for you to sat, I was remembering our first date and how great it was instead of the truth which is most likely something like, I need an oil change and I am looking forward to football on Sunday...
 


<< Do women actually say that crap? >>



If you don't know I'm not going to tell you.



And, the correct answer to do I look fat is to blame the clothes. &quot;Oh sweetums, you're not fat but that dress makes you look fat.&quot;

Of course, she'll go out and buy more clothes.....but you're not in trouble.
 

She Said/He Said
Women are from Mars; Men from Penis. Need proof? A Chicago friend sent along this insightful bit of doublespeak on the differences between what men and women say and what they mean. She put her ear to the ground and got it from the Internet.

Women?s English
Yes = No.
No = Yes.
Maybe = No.
I?m sorry = You?ll be sorry...
We need = I want.
It?s your decision = The correct decision should be obvious by now.
Do whatever you want = You?ll pay for this later.
We need to talk = I need to complain.
Sure go ahead = I don?t want you to.
I?m not upset = Of course I?m upset, you moron!
You?re so manly = You need a shave, and you sweat a lot.
Be romantic, turn out the lights = I have flabby thighs.
This kitchen is so inconvenient =
I want a new house.
I want new curtains = and carpeting, and furniture, and wallpaper.
I heard a noise = I noticed you were almost asleep.
Do you love me? = I?m going to ask for something expensive.
How much do you love me? = I did something today you?re going to hate.
I?ll be ready in a minute = Kick off your shoes and find a good game on TV.
You have to learn to communicate = Just agree with me.
Are you listening to me!? = Too late, you?re dead.

Men?s English
I?m hungry = I?m hungry.
I?m sleepy = I?m sleepy.
I?m tired = I?m tired.
Do you want to go to a movie? = I?d eventually like to have sex with you.
Can I take you out to dinner? = I?d eventually like to have sex with you.
Can I call you sometime? = I?d eventually like to have sex with you.
May I have this dance? = I?d eventually like to have sex with you.
Nice dress! = Nice cleavage!
You look tense, let me give you a massage = I want to fondle you.
What?s wrong? = What stupid self-inflicted psychological trauma is it now?
What?s wrong? = I guess sex tonight is out of the question?
I?m bored = Do you want to have sex?
I love you = Let?s have sex now!
I love you, too = Okay, I said it. Now can we have sex?
Yes, I like the way you cut your hair = I liked it better before.
Let?s talk = I?ll impress you by showing you I am a deep guy; then maybe sex.

 
Bottom line is, women communicate in a different way. Last night is a perfect example. Finished dinner an hour before, and I am whipping up a dessert in the kitchen. The gf says, &quot;I really want to watch this show, but the kitchen is so dirty.&quot;

If a guy said this, you would think that he is conflicted: &quot;do I watch this show, or do I clean the kitchen?&quot;

But what she really meant was: &quot;I have been on my feet all day, chasing the kids around, I am tired of having to cook and clean all the time, YOU never pay enough attention to me, and I am pissed off at life. If you are NOT going to worship the ground I walk on the least you could do is PUT THE FSCKING DISHES IN THE DISHWASHER!!!!!&quot;

I said, &quot;I know how you feel. I worked 11 hours at my 9 to 5 job today, then I went on two service calls. I walked out the door at 6:15 this morning and did not get home until 8 this evening. I will see what I can do.&quot;

What I meant was: &quot;I know how you feel. I worked 11 hours at my 9 to 5 job today, then I went on two service calls. I walked out the door at 6:15 this morning and did not get home until 8 this evening. I will see what I can do.&quot;

And so I washed the dishes. Afterwards, she let me touch her, so it all evened out.
 
idgaf13: Yeah I've read that before. While from one perspective it's funny as hell, it also makes me kind of want to be sick.

I think I'll just become a man-whore and stop talking to women, just f*ck.
 
I get this one a lot from my girlfriend:
&quot;Ever thought of getting penile reduction surgery? I don't know if I can take anymore of this.&quot;

ALWAYS complaining...
 


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<< How about this one?

Man: What's wrong?
Woman: Nothing
Man: OK

meanwhile there is something seriously wrong 99% of the time. 😀 >>



That one DOES sound familiar. >>



And then they get mad when we just say &quot;ok&quot; and blow it off.

later they say
Woman: &quot;I was upset and I Wanted to talk&quot;
Man: &quot;But you said nothing was wrong&quot;
Woman: &quot;You don't have to get upset with me about it&quot;
man: &quot;I'm not upset. I'm confused&quot;
 
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