Do women not know when they are yapping on and on...

[FoBoT]

Originally posted by: SampSon
My gf calls me up all the time flipping her lid about her job. All she wants me to do is listen.
It's really not that hard, noob.

will you marry my wife? just for a couple months? so i can take a vacation? thanks

 

[daniel49]

tell her to register and post it here so you will give adequate attention to it

 

[biostud]

We've just had some new students in our lab (3 girls) and all day long you hear their loud conversations covering interisting topics as: Is it sandal weather yet, which fish does my uncle have in his fish shop, my boyfriend just said....., have you seen there's sale etc. Even though they've been told to turn down the volume it doesn't really help.

 

[BobDaMenkey]

Originally posted by: PingSpike

Originally posted by: Siddhartha
A woman once told me that women bond through verbal communication. And that it is important that you listen, not interrupt, give advice, or try to solve a problem for them.

Just listen.

I know people, both men and women, who are talkers. I am not a talker so they are great to have in group situations

Yeah, I still have a real problem with this. When men complain about something, its because they want ideas and solutions from the other party. So its our natural response to try and come up with a solution to their problem.

But women usually just want to be heard, vent, sympathy, whatever.

I've heard that a million times, but I still don't really do it. When the GF starts complaining about a problem, I start offering up advice, downplaying the signifigance of the problem, etc. I think I really just need to give her a hug and STFU...but my automatic response is to try and fix the cause instead.

Yep. Women just want to bitch and bitch. It gets tiring really quickly. You need to learn to be pimp, and just leave when she starts to do that, and come back when there is something more meaningful about to happen

 

Originally posted by: FoBoT

Originally posted by: SampSon
My gf calls me up all the time flipping her lid about her job. All she wants me to do is listen.
It's really not that hard, noob.

will you marry my wife? just for a couple months? so i can take a vacation? thanks

Marry, no, temporarly remove you of your burden, sure.

It's not like I actually listen closely. I could probably just give a rough outline of what she bitches about pertaining to her job. Details? Oooookay.

 

[preslove]

Originally posted by: NuclearNed
Its not just females. I had a male coworker corner me in my office a couple of days ago and engage me in the Conversation That Would Not End for about 45 minutes. I hardly got a word in edgewise. Some people can't distinguish between "talking with" and "talking at".

I get this type of treatment a lot. People have told me that I'm a good listener, but really I've just mastered the art of tuning out people while nodding in agreement whenever someone says certain catch-phrases or words. Also, I occassionally re-establish eye contact with the speaker, which makes them think that I give a crap about "little Johnny's ballet practice", "my ordinary, same-as-always, nothing extraordinary happened trip to the hairstylist", or whatever. It also helps to have a few generic sentences in your arsenal in the event the speaker actually decides to shut their mouth (e.g. you can blurt out "So did you like that?", "How is that working for you?", "That's really interesting, I might have to try that.") Finally, you have to resist the urge to fidget. That is a dead giveaway that you are not really listening.

I hope this helps. With a little practice, you too can be a pro non-listener. Just don't try it on your wife because they can always tell. Always.

Yeah, I'm a "good listener" like that. "Um-hm" and eye contact are all that's really needed. I learn a lot about different stupid people by just not talking.


OP, when you want her to stop, squeeze one of her boobs and say "honk-honk." Chicks dig that kind of intimate communication.

 

[FoBoT]

Originally posted by: SampSon

Originally posted by: FoBoT

Originally posted by: SampSon
My gf calls me up all the time flipping her lid about her job. All she wants me to do is listen.
It's really not that hard, noob.

will you marry my wife? just for a couple months? so i can take a vacation? thanks

Marry, no, temporarly remove you of your burden, sure.

It's not like I actually listen closely. I could probably just give a rough outline of what she bitches about pertaining to her job. Details? Oooookay.

maybe you can teach a class. you might can make some big $ teaching cavemen like me how to fake it better. i have only had 16 years of practice

 

[FoBoT]

Originally posted by: preslove

OP, when you want her to stop, squeeze one of her boobs and say "honk-honk." Chicks dig that kind of intimate communication.

:laugh:
i am going to try that, i'll either end up divorced or something :laugh:

 

[loic2003]

What's interesting is that so many people here really hate so many attributes that women have. And they're right. Women are a fvcking pain in the arse.

 

[chiwawa626]

Its not that I don't listen, I know its my job to, and I do. Its just I hate how thats all I am supposed to do: downplaying the problem (to the level it is really at) or offering suggestions just gets me in trouble lol.

 

[Kadarin]

Heh.. Women are all about the whole emotional support system. They don't think, they feel.

As a test, ask her how she thinks about something, and gauge the response you get. Then, later on, ask her how she feels about something similar (or of equal importance). I'll bet you notice a distinct difference in what you get back from her...

 

[Geekbabe]

I think I've figured out what I like about this place.

Every time I read one of these threads my SO just looks better and better and better

 

[BigPoppa]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
I think I've figured out what I like about this place.

Every time I read one of these threads my SO just looks better and better and better

Why do you come here? Everytime a thread like this pops up, ^ that response is the average response: Either people here are below you or you're above them.

 

[bondboy]

Originally posted by: PingSpike

Originally posted by: Siddhartha
A woman once told me that women bond through verbal communication. And that it is important that you listen, not interrupt, give advice, or try to solve a problem for them.

Just listen.

I know people, both men and women, who are talkers. I am not a talker so they are great to have in group situations

Yeah, I still have a real problem with this. When men complain about something, its because they want ideas and solutions from the other party. So its our natural response to try and come up with a solution to their problem.

But women usually just want to be heard, vent, sympathy, whatever.

I've heard that a million times, but I still don't really do it. When the GF starts complaining about a problem, I start offering up advice, downplaying the signifigance of the problem, etc. I think I really just need to give her a hug and STFU...but my automatic response is to try and fix the cause instead.

If this theory is correct, then with all the bitching/venting/ranting that goes on in these forums, we have a lot of women!

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: BigPoppa

Originally posted by: Geekbabe
I think I've figured out what I like about this place.

Every time I read one of these threads my SO just looks better and better and better

Why do you come here? Everytime a thread like this pops up, ^ that response is the average response: Either people here are below you or you're above them.

Because when I first started coming here there was acutal adult conversations going on here and most of the men actually enjoyed having women participate.

Oh and I'm a computing professional,something that sadly is getting rarer and rarer in this forum.

 

[Triumph]

Originally posted by: PingSpike

Originally posted by: Siddhartha
A woman once told me that women bond through verbal communication. And that it is important that you listen, not interrupt, give advice, or try to solve a problem for them.

Just listen.

I know people, both men and women, who are talkers. I am not a talker so they are great to have in group situations

Yeah, I still have a real problem with this. When men complain about something, its because they want ideas and solutions from the other party. So its our natural response to try and come up with a solution to their problem.

But women usually just want to be heard, vent, sympathy, whatever.

I've heard that a million times, but I still don't really do it. When the GF starts complaining about a problem, I start offering up advice, downplaying the signifigance of the problem, etc. I think I really just need to give her a hug and STFU...but my automatic response is to try and fix the cause instead.

And that is why men are better than women.