Do what your heart tells you to do...

[Pastore]

Do you agree/disagree, and give an example of a situation supporting your opinion...

This isnt a school assignment, just trying to figure some stuff out in my life right now...

Ok, let me add this...

Say that you want to get to a point, but to get to this point you must hurt someone that you care for very very much...

 

[Bomberboy]

Maybe it would be best if you told us your situation and gave you feedback on it.

 

[jhu]

my heart tells me to beat and beat and beat...

 

[Pastore]

I dont really want specific feedback on my situation... I just wanted to hear what you thought about it in general and make some of my own (unhindered) conclusions...



<< my heart tells me to beat and beat and beat... >>



actually thats what your brain tells your heart...

 

[Viper0329]

Never allow the heart or mind to have complete control. Use both.

I try and allow my heart to tell me what I want, and then use my mind to tell me if I should and how to get there.

 

[jhu]

actually, the heart can beat on its own. just rip it out and it'll still beat. you won't get any autonomic control though

 

[jlee75]

<< my heart tells me to beat and beat and beat... >>


don't hurt yourself

in some instances this seems like the right thing, but what your heart is telling you to do is also what your mind is telling you. and your mind may become clouded with other things that make it difficult to make a decision.

i'm assuming this has something to do with a girl. if you love her stay with. if your heart is telling you that she's not the one... then yeah go with it.

 

[Mikelh]

The heart is deceitful and wicked! Don't trust it.

 

[gotsmack]

Don't listen to either your heart or you head. Use your instinct, instinct is never wrong.

 

[jhu]

just listen to the voices in your head. they usually know what's right for you.

 

[Pastore]

anything else?

 

[TallBill]

Yes, do what your heart tells you... but let your brain percieve what you truly feel, and not what it "should" feel...

 

[jhu]

you may want to elaborate on your situation. you want to break up with someone? you boiled her pet bunny? what?

 

[Pastore]

ok here goes...

i am 18, i have been dating my current gf for three years... i am in love with her and care for her as much as anyone in the world... the last thing i would ever want to do is hurt her... i have had a "crush" on another girl for a while now (year or so) and now have found out that she has feelings for me also... now, i dont necessarily want to date my "crush", but i feel held back in my current relationship, and with her going away to college in 2 years, and i in another year, i just dont know...

that better?

 

[jjones]

dood, it sounds like you may love your gf but you're definately having thoughts about going astray. life is too short, go for it. if you're having these thoughts now when she's around, what do you think it's going to be like when your away from her and at school?

 

[Pastore]

thats the thing, i am definitely having thoughts... and if she said that she felt the same way, i would feel great... but i know she doesnt feel the same way, and i hate to hurt her...

 

[EricNKrout]

Stop following your p3n15 like every other guy and stand by your girl.

 

[Pastore]

eric, that comment just pissed me off...

i am not thinking with my penis, i am thinking about what the best interest is for myself at this time...

my penis is getting plenty wet right now with my girl, so that is not the issue...

 

[Dee67]

"i am 18, i have been dating my current gf for three years... i am in love with her and care for her as much as anyone in the world... the last thing i would ever want to do is hurt her... i have had a "crush" on another girl for a while now (year or so) and now have found out that she has feelings for me also... now, i dont necessarily want to date my "crush", but i feel held back in my current relationship, and with her going away to college in 2 years, and i in another year, i just dont know..."

If you don't see anything happening with the crush, (and I do mean ANYTHING, even as slight as a peck on the lips) then I personally wouldn't say a thing to your GF.. No point in hurting her feelings for something that was never acted on. Once feelings become action is where things go bad.

I'm a very happily married guy, and I love my wife more than anything or anyone including myself... I'd give or do anything for her...

...and at times, I am painfully aware of how many amazing, funny, smart and beautiful women there are in the world - a few are very intriguing to say the least... But nothing can replace the connection and happiness I have with my wife, so I force myself to never act (in any way) towards the few evil thoughts that might pop into my mind from time to time... In such a case, you don't wanna say - "hey, I love you babe - but that girl Barbara at the gym is really amazing, she's so smart and pretty, I really like her and we have such a great rapport".... That'd be horrible, if you're not gonna act on it, swallow it deep down inside and focus back on your life..

If you're certain you're gonna act on it, tell her BEFORE anything happens... She won't be thrilled (or anything even close) BUT, at LEAST you spare her the pain, humiliation, and rage that she'd rightfully have by cheating.

my 2 cents at least.

 

[huanaku]

I agree with Dee67, nice post

 

[Azraele]

Since this is a generalization, this naturally doesn't apply to all cases, but generally speaking, you should use the two in tandem. Listen to each and evaluate from there.

Listen to dee, and you may also want to do some hard thinking. If you choose to pursue this other interest, then talk to your current one about it first. Also, ask yourself a few questions. How serious is this "crush?" Just a phase or more than a passing interest? You said you feel "held back" in your current relationship. This sounds like something you should talk to your gf about. A huge part in any relationship is communication. You may be lagging a bit on that end. You need to have a couple of serious heart to hearts. One with yourself. One with your gf.

 

[Pastore]

Dee, i agree with everything you say, and the only thing that my gf and i are missing is that connection you are talking about... sure i love her and she means the world to me, but i dont feel connected like we have before... also, i could never see myself marrying her for a slew of reasons...

 

[MrCraphead]

use your heart all the way.....sometimes your brain will tend to over look things, or over analyze things. I've found that my heart can be quite truthful yet get me in a bit of trouble. :\ I wouldn't have it any other way though.....

 

[dirtboy]

Very well said Dee, I agree completely.

 

[Pastore]

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