Do people change? Have you changed? [Serious]

[purbeast0]

Haha I'm the opposite. I'm definitely a material girl in a material world...not so much to chase assets, as much as to have really nice tools to use in life (like my kitchen cooking gear). I can look at a place on Google Earth using Streetview & meh, that's good enough for me...but a big TV will still be there the next week, and the next week, and the next week lol. Which is funny because that's the polar opposite of my wife.

To each their own for sure.

All of the older people I talk to always ask me how we travel so much and literally every one of them (aside from my mom who is terrified of flying) tells me they wish they had traveled more. This is a lot of family as well as people that my wife and I have both worked with, neighbors, etc.

I can't really any one of them ever saying "I really wish I had purchased that car" or "I really wish I had bought that expensive TV when I was younger".

Sure that TV will be there next week, and the week after, and the week after, etc, but the memories from my trips 15+ years ago are still with me. I can pretty much walk through my first trip ever to Aruba in 2005 in my head and remember what it was like. Same with many of my trips to various places. I still talk to my buddies about this group trip we took to Aruba in 2013 and rented a huge villa. Same with this trip we took to Barbados in 2009 and got to stay in a 9BR $45k villa that had a private chef for the week, all for free. Memories last a life time.

Sure you can look at pics of a places on google maps and get street view with google earth, but if you think that is the "same" as going there, then clearly you haven't traveled much.

They also don't got google earth underwater and SCUBA diving is the coolest thing in the world to me. You also can't ATV across the entire north coast of a continent on google earth stopping to explore along the way.

I will say too one of my regrets in life was not traveling when I was younger. As mentioned my mom is terrified of flying and my dad never flew anywhere. Our trips were driving once a year to the beach. I didn't fly out of the country until that Aruba trip. In hindsight I really wished I had backpacked with buddies through Europe or did spring break in college.

 

[s0me0nesmind1]

In a nutshell, this is the first layer to learn:

1. Food controls your weight & your energy. If you want to personally want to take control of those two things, and if you're willing to buy into the idea that food controls them, move on to Step 2!

2. There are some methods for controlling food in a very easy way - specifically, without sacrificing what you love to eat and without having to do large amounts of hard work, which are two of the biggest barriers to adopting a change in your diet. So just go ahead & blow those barriers away, because it's both easy & delicious!

3. Adopting new methods to control your food gives you precision control over your body & how you feel.

This is coming from me, being a very low-energy person growing up & having been overweight twice in my life....I literally simply didn't know how those controls worked, and because they seemed really hard, I never really had any lasting change! It was a very long journey for me to get where I'm at knowledge & experience-wise, but I can tell you that the methods I use are likely easier than what you're doing now, and will give you better results! These days, I eat like a king, I stress out less about providing food & cooking for myself than I did in the past, my energy is great, and I look great! (as good as a Bill Gates look-alike can look, lol!).

The first step is just buying into the idea above. Food controls how you feel & how you look, for the most part. Second is sleep, third is exercise, and fourth is stress management, but it's like 90% food tbh. The second step is being willing to not only learn the syste, but actually do it. Again - I have an approach that is very very easy, but you have to be willing to do easy things, and do them consistently. Not everyone wants to buy into the idea that food controls the majority of how you feel (not just energy, but emotionally too) & how you look (weight-wise), so that's why you have to decide to adopt the idea before moving onto the next step, which again, has very low barriers to entry!

This is why I get so excited about my kitchen appliances like the Instant Pot...food = happy, food = chore, good tools = makes chores easier, easier chores = I do it more, I do it more = I get to feel good all the time! Growing up as a fairly low-energy person, this is still quite novel to me, that I can feel good emotionally, energy-wise, and physically every day all day long! So it's all about baby steps...based on the information above, do you want to proceed?

Truf.

After trying keto a few times - not that I'm advocating for keto I can safely say this - fucking food is mind-bending. Carbs in particular are drug-like in nature.

While a steak sounds delicious, when I have some drinks and am craving food - it isn't for a steak.... It's for chips, sweet candy, etc...

This is a reason why keto has taken off so much lately - carbs are some fucking evil shit that manipulates the shit out of your brain.

 

[purbeast0]

Truf.

After trying keto a few times - not that I'm advocating for keto I can safely say this - fucking food is mind-bending. Carbs in particular are drug-like in nature.

While a steak sounds delicious, when I have some drinks and am craving food - it isn't for a steak.... It's for chips, sweet candy, etc...

This is a reason why keto has taken off so much lately - carbs are some fucking evil shit that manipulates the shit out of your brain.

Keto has taken off because it works.

 

[s0me0nesmind1]

Keto has taken off because it works.

Keto is essentially this year's version of Atkins diet. It's nothing new - but we do have more research on the subject.

All diets "work" if you have the mental-ability to religiously follow them.

Keto is undoubtedly interesting because it actually can effect how your brain reacts to things instead of always starving yourself and counting points.

 

[purbeast0]

Keto is essentially this year's version of Atkins diet. It's nothing new - but we do have more research on the subject.

All diets "work" if you have the mental-ability to religiously follow them.

Keto is undoubtedly interesting because it actually can effect how your brain reacts to things instead of always starving yourself and counting points.

LOLWUT?

You think keto has only been around since 2020?

I've known about Keto since like a year after I started lifting weights in 2000.

 

[nakedfrog]

In a nutshell, this is the first layer to learn:

1. Food controls your weight & your energy. If you want to personally want to take control of those two things, and if you're willing to buy into the idea that food controls them, move on to Step 2!

2. There are some methods for controlling food in a very easy way - specifically, without sacrificing what you love to eat and without having to do large amounts of hard work, which are two of the biggest barriers to adopting a change in your diet. So just go ahead & blow those barriers away, because it's both easy & delicious!

3. Adopting new methods to control your food gives you precision control over your body & how you feel.

This is coming from me, being a very low-energy person growing up & having been overweight twice in my life....I literally simply didn't know how those controls worked, and because they seemed really hard, I never really had any lasting change! It was a very long journey for me to get where I'm at knowledge & experience-wise, but I can tell you that the methods I use are likely easier than what you're doing now, and will give you better results! These days, I eat like a king, I stress out less about providing food & cooking for myself than I did in the past, my energy is great, and I look great! (as good as a Bill Gates look-alike can look, lol!).

The first step is just buying into the idea above. Food controls how you feel & how you look, for the most part. Second is sleep, third is exercise, and fourth is stress management, but it's like 90% food tbh. The second step is being willing to not only learn the syste, but actually do it. Again - I have an approach that is very very easy, but you have to be willing to do easy things, and do them consistently. Not everyone wants to buy into the idea that food controls the majority of how you feel (not just energy, but emotionally too) & how you look (weight-wise), so that's why you have to decide to adopt the idea before moving onto the next step, which again, has very low barriers to entry!

This is why I get so excited about my kitchen appliances like the Instant Pot...food = happy, food = chore, good tools = makes chores easier, easier chores = I do it more, I do it more = I get to feel good all the time! Growing up as a fairly low-energy person, this is still quite novel to me, that I can feel good emotionally, energy-wise, and physically every day all day long! So it's all about baby steps...based on the information above, do you want to proceed?

I guess that's part of why you and I differ, I've never minded cooking.

 

[s0me0nesmind1]

LOLWUT?

You think keto has only been around since 2020?

I've known about Keto since like a year after I started lifting weights in 2000.

Did you miss the part where I said "It's nothing new"?

Why yes.... yes you did!

 

[purbeast0]

Did you miss the part where I said "It's nothing new"?

Why yes.... yes you did!

Sounded like you were referring to atkins with that.

 

[ponyo]

My priorities in life have changed. Money is no longer the main motivator. I care lot more about my happiness and health than anything else. I crave new experiences. Material things don't really excite me too much.

 

[trungma]

I haven't really changed. However, I do understand myself a lot better at 43 than 25.

 

[Kaido]

To each their own for sure.

All of the older people I talk to always ask me how we travel so much and literally every one of them (aside from my mom who is terrified of flying) tells me they wish they had traveled more. This is a lot of family as well as people that my wife and I have both worked with, neighbors, etc.

I can't really any one of them ever saying "I really wish I had purchased that car" or "I really wish I had bought that expensive TV when I was younger".

Sure that TV will be there next week, and the week after, and the week after, etc, but the memories from my trips 15+ years ago are still with me. I can pretty much walk through my first trip ever to Aruba in 2005 in my head and remember what it was like. Same with many of my trips to various places. I still talk to my buddies about this group trip we took to Aruba in 2013 and rented a huge villa. Same with this trip we took to Barbados in 2009 and got to stay in a 9BR $45k villa that had a private chef for the week, all for free. Memories last a life time.

Sure you can look at pics of a places on google maps and get street view with google earth, but if you think that is the "same" as going there, then clearly you haven't traveled much.

They also don't got google earth underwater and SCUBA diving is the coolest thing in the world to me. You also can't ATV across the entire north coast of a continent on google earth stopping to explore along the way.

I will say too one of my regrets in life was not traveling when I was younger. As mentioned my mom is terrified of flying and my dad never flew anywhere. Our trips were driving once a year to the beach. I didn't fly out of the country until that Aruba trip. In hindsight I really wished I had backpacked with buddies through Europe or did spring break in college.

That's where it gets tricky - not everyone has the same values or same personal experiences, sometimes due to inner circumstances beyond their control. For example, I've traveled & lived all over America & have been fortunate to have done lots of cool things along the way, but I have ADHD & a terrible memory, so for me, using stuff in the moment is really important to me because most of my living experience is in the "right now". I suspect I have some degree of SDAM, which is basically have trouble with visualizing memories. I'm on the low end of the mental visualization scale as well, not quite full-on aphantasia, but I just respond better to stuff in the moment. I can go through scrapbooks of my photos & remember stuff when I see it, but because I don't visualize well, thinking about those memories outside of photos is more of the idea of it than the mental photo or video of the event.

This is all stuff I've learned over the past year or so as well...I didn't even know people thought differently than other people (some people see pictures, some people see full color & full sound movies, some people think in logic, some people have an inner narrator, some people think in colors, etc.). But it's helped me figure out how to enjoy things more...I've tuned my environment to let me easily slip into directly connecting to whatever experiencing I'm doing, whether it's cooking or neffing or working or doing a hobby or whatever. I'm very sensitive to the vibe of "right now" & have worked to tailor my ongoing regular experiences to be pretty awesome as opposed to boring or mediocre, which I find a lot more fulfilling, which is why I like more material things like my home theater, my kitchen gadgets, etc. - it makes the "now" situation a lot more bearable & enjoyable on a consistent basis! Being bored is literally painful to me. Worst thing I can think of is swinging in a hammock on the beach somewhere, no way lol. Which is vastly different than most people, I've come to realize! I have no plans on retiring because of this...I love to stay plugged into stuff all 16 waking hours a day haha.

 

[Scarpozzi]

I have a list of hobbies and a bunch of stuff I want to do. Unlike ponyo, I'm still motivated by money, but virtually helpless to earn money faster than I currently am without taking on undue risks or simply packing up and moving to a new city. At the end of the day, the work and risks wouldn't be worth it for me.

Pertaining to me changing, of course I've changed...life experience and a family changes you. The one thing I've always considered myself to be, however, is a consistently good decision maker. (maybe not with what I say out loud) I believe that's what's made me as successful as I am for whatever that's worth and those life experiences always influence my decisions and make me even better at everything I've learned about. The more stuff you learn and are exposed to at a young age, perhaps, the more failures you have...the better you get at making decisions later. If you see failures, you'll know what traps not to fall into. I'm really hoping I'm passing enough knowledge onto my kids so they know what pitfalls to avoid when it comes to relationships, money, career, Gary Coleman, etc...

 

[Muse]

"The measure of intelligence is the ability to change." — Albert Einstein

 

[snoopy7548]

Yep. I change my clothes every day!

 

[highland145]

Yes. Was a time in my youth when I'd kill you without thinking twice. Nowadays, I give it a bit of thought first.

Cause hauling 180lbs is a bit much to expect from the wife. Good of you.

 

[Zeze]

Yes. Was a time in my youth when I'd kill you without thinking twice. Nowadays, I give it a bit of thought first.

okboomer.

 

[jameny5]

I have almost lost my damn mind after dealing with the chaos King Trumpy in office. I don't know when I'll collect my self and gain my sanity again. Maybe I should just "knock" the hell out of myself to fix me. What y'all think?

 

[brianmanahan]

I haven't changed at all. but my body is changing and letting me down on a daily basis

how are the eyes doing nowadays?

 

[brianmanahan]

Yes. Was a time in my youth when I'd kill you without thinking twice. Nowadays, I give it a bit of thought first.

okboomer.

https://imgur.com/Yv2YhYn

 

[brianmanahan]

i was way more optimistic about life 15 years ago

nowadays? meh. i suck at it.

the nieces and nephews give me a reason to keep going though

those kids are everything to me

 

[BoomerD]

https://imgur.com/Yv2YhYn

You...wouldn't require any thought. i had to experience one of your pomes...that was enough.

 

[Muse]

I have almost lost my damn mind after dealing with the chaos King Trumpy in office. I don't know when I'll collect my self and gain my sanity again. Maybe I should just "knock" the hell out of myself to fix me. What y'all think?

I'd hang on, hopefully it will be easier to mellow yourself out after this election crap plays out. TDS, Trump derangement syndrome, I think it affects his followers as well as those who detest him. Honestly, I'm looking forward to the day when I'll do a jig after hearing that he's dead. Meantime, hey, dig yourself, dig life, carry on...

 

[nakedfrog]

That's where it gets tricky - not everyone has the same values or same personal experiences, sometimes due to inner circumstances beyond their control. For example, I've traveled & lived all over America & have been fortunate to have done lots of cool things along the way, but I have ADHD & a terrible memory, so for me, using stuff in the moment is really important to me because most of my living experience is in the "right now". I suspect I have some degree of SDAM, which is basically have trouble with visualizing memories. I'm on the low end of the mental visualization scale as well, not quite full-on aphantasia, but I just respond better to stuff in the moment. I can go through scrapbooks of my photos & remember stuff when I see it, but because I don't visualize well, thinking about those memories outside of photos is more of the idea of it than the mental photo or video of the event.

This is all stuff I've learned over the past year or so as well...I didn't even know people thought differently than other people (some people see pictures, some people see full color & full sound movies, some people think in logic, some people have an inner narrator, some people think in colors, etc.). But it's helped me figure out how to enjoy things more...I've tuned my environment to let me easily slip into directly connecting to whatever experiencing I'm doing, whether it's cooking or neffing or working or doing a hobby or whatever. I'm very sensitive to the vibe of "right now" & have worked to tailor my ongoing regular experiences to be pretty awesome as opposed to boring or mediocre, which I find a lot more fulfilling, which is why I like more material things like my home theater, my kitchen gadgets, etc. - it makes the "now" situation a lot more bearable & enjoyable on a consistent basis! Being bored is literally painful to me. Worst thing I can think of is swinging in a hammock on the beach somewhere, no way lol. Which is vastly different than most people, I've come to realize! I have no plans on retiring because of this...I love to stay plugged into stuff all 16 waking hours a day haha.

And now I know that the term for what I have is SDAM (in addition to aphantasia, which I learned there was a word for last year...)
I realized the SDAM thing back when I was a teenager, and couldn't really remember anything about elementary school/middle school, just a handful of scattered memories.

 

[GrumpyMan]

Yes, I think the whole point of being human is learning so you can change and apply what you have learned to be a better version of yourself. The more you learn the better you will become if you decide to do that. A lot of people do the exact same thing and expect different results, I don't consider that learning other than realizing that the behavior has failed once again. The event that changed me the most in this life is having children, I have 2 daughters. This one event made me a better human over all.

I would imagine that having negative events, like having to go to war to kill humans or being abused at a young age, may have the opposite effect on a person.

 

[Muse]

And now I know that the term for what I have is SDAM (in addition to aphantasia, which I learned there was a word for last year...)
I realized the SDAM thing back when I was a teenager, and couldn't really remember anything about elementary school/middle school, just a handful of scattered memories.

Memories can return, almost like when you remember a dream. Something to be aware of. In fact dreams themselves can invite you to remember your past.