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Do I need to take legal action to get my stuff back from an ex?
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Suing for $1K worth of cash & stuff is not worth the time, trouble, or personal risk. Even if you win (and you'll likely spend hundreds, at least, trying to do that), do you expect these losers to pay up? You'll spend more money trying to enforce the ruling to get back money and property that they probably don't have anymore. And if you piss em off to much ... beyond "disrespecting" your ex, they might just come looking for you ... like you said, they have nothing to lose.
As far as the threats and telephone harassment are concerned ... start documenting. At the very least, note the time, phone, and general direction of the conversation. I would change your cell number if possible, and your work number as well. At home, I'd consider recording the calls. Note that in California it is illegal to record private conversation without the consent of all parties. So, as soon as the loser calls, ask him if it's alright to record. He'll probably hang up. If he says no, you hang up. If he says yes, start the recorder, then ask the question again. I bet he'll be a bit more civil at that point.
Once you have some evidence of harassment, you can try to get a restraining order.
Walk away, and pick your friends more carefully in the future.
As far as the threats and telephone harassment are concerned ... start documenting. At the very least, note the time, phone, and general direction of the conversation. I would change your cell number if possible, and your work number as well. At home, I'd consider recording the calls. Note that in California it is illegal to record private conversation without the consent of all parties. So, as soon as the loser calls, ask him if it's alright to record. He'll probably hang up. If he says no, you hang up. If he says yes, start the recorder, then ask the question again. I bet he'll be a bit more civil at that point.
Once you have some evidence of harassment, you can try to get a restraining order.
Walk away, and pick your friends more carefully in the future.
JEDI
Lifer
sounds like u need a vacation...Vegas..December..Venetian... 😀
Seriously, just walk away. Taking them to court will be even more emotionally draining, not to mention take up alot of your time.
and these drug addicts probably would just ignore it anyway. The best that would happen is their wages be garnished. But that assumes they get a paycheck.
Vegas..December..Venetian...Come here little girl and let daddy take care of all your problems 😉 😛
What a sleaze. The first thing you should do is get a restraining order. 10 ? 20 calls a day is insane. That?s abuse. It?s a tough call with the money. I had a falling out with my EX and she ended up keeping some of my stuff probably totaled about $500. In the end I said fvck it and but at least I had the piece of mind that she was out of my life. You sound like you are well off and can recuperate that money quickly enough.
Looks like you got lots of advice, but nevertheless, you have my sympathies for all the trouble you have been through. I dated a guy who I felt I had to take care of and ended up losing alot of confidence, faith, and money. What can you do but walk away and hope that you learned something....
Thegonagle
Diamond Member
First: I recommend an Order for Protection (restraining order). Just call the police, they will tell you exactly how to procede. That should be free and easy to get. If he acts in any threatening way while you're under an OFP, the police will work fast to put his ass in the slammer.
Second: Change your phone number(s). (Under an OFP, you shouldn't need to, but you might want to anyway.)
Third: I thought small claims filing was supposed to be free (or very nominal fees at most), and it's supposed to be easy to represent yourself in a small claims case. If you have all your receipts and phone bills in order, you should have no problem getting a ruling in your favor. You can try that, but you still might never get your stuff, let alone money if they don't have any.
So you can walk away and releive yourself of the stress; or you can carry through on a small claims case, stand your ground for just a little while longer (are you strong? it seems like you always bounce back 🙂 ), knowing that you are in the right, and further ruining this jerk's credit file if he doesn't pay up.
Good luck.
Second: Change your phone number(s). (Under an OFP, you shouldn't need to, but you might want to anyway.)
Third: I thought small claims filing was supposed to be free (or very nominal fees at most), and it's supposed to be easy to represent yourself in a small claims case. If you have all your receipts and phone bills in order, you should have no problem getting a ruling in your favor. You can try that, but you still might never get your stuff, let alone money if they don't have any.
So you can walk away and releive yourself of the stress; or you can carry through on a small claims case, stand your ground for just a little while longer (are you strong? it seems like you always bounce back 🙂 ), knowing that you are in the right, and further ruining this jerk's credit file if he doesn't pay up.
Good luck.
i would take legal action because of how much money there is involved, and if that harrassement has been affecting your work and stuff, i would talk to you boss, and ask the judge(if it makes it that far) for a restraining order, and money(if it has affected your work), and also if you went to the doctor becuase you were under alot of stress(which might have caused you to get sick, then you would have to pay for medicnie) i would write down everything he says, and make sure everything is legit, meaning the money he owes you the stuff he has was not a giftetc. But i would most def take legal action
Dogg
Dogg
I was thinking the same thing.
I think that would be just about impossible, unless you're smoking the neighborhood out everyday, too. That's like 6lbs. :Q
Anyway, regarding the question.. If you can prove the items are yours, small claims court is in your future.
I agree. I nominate Dezign as ATOT's Offical Drama Queen For Life. (Mods, can we get her member status changed to that?) I can't ever recall seeing a thread started by you which does not revolve around some kind of personal crisis.
As for advice... the leave it & run + restraining order suggestions are the best. Add: quit paying the sponge's cell phone; call the phone company to block any numbers you know to be associated with him; have your business do the same and suggest their legal department look into perhaps filing something against him for wasting their time & phone lines.
-- Jack
Stupidity should be painful
Nitemare
Lifer
Although I'd like to see you get your stuff back I don't see it happening, consider it a lesson learned
Best thing you can do in the future is to not get into any "project boyfriends", change your number, disconnect the cell phone, and attempt to take out a restraining order(at least it would be documented if anything happens).
If he does want to meet up to give you your stuff back, do it in a public place during the day.
Best thing you can do in the future is to not get into any "project boyfriends", change your number, disconnect the cell phone, and attempt to take out a restraining order(at least it would be documented if anything happens).
If he does want to meet up to give you your stuff back, do it in a public place during the day.
FelixDeCat
Lifer
I really do feel sorry for you but this is just hilarious:
Blowing $30,000 on weed? lol
A breakdancer for hire? lmfao
A frail girl "dissen' " her thug son? omg lol
This is almost unbelievable but if all true you deserve a break. You really should try one of those TV shows if you have the time. Free publicity and some cash to settle things wouldnt hurt by doing so.
Blowing $30,000 on weed? lol
A breakdancer for hire? lmfao
A frail girl "dissen' " her thug son? omg lol
This is almost unbelievable but if all true you deserve a break. You really should try one of those TV shows if you have the time. Free publicity and some cash to settle things wouldnt hurt by doing so.
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