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Do I need to take legal action to get my stuff back from an ex?

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i honestly dont think that you have any great way to get your stuff back aside from taking it back but it doesnt sound like you should do that.

if it were me, i'd just let it go and take it as a harshly learned lesson.
 
After reading the story and seeing the responses, I'm going to have to agree with everyone.

Run, don't walk, as far away from this as you can. If your ex's mother is crazy enough to make a threatening phone call, I'm sure that your ex's gangster dad wouldn't be above actually following up on that threat if you pushed it.

It's a sad situation, but those people are way beyond any help you can give them. You're just going to have to suck it up, be thankful that you finally got out and hope that nothing worse comes of this besides losing money/property.

I was involved in a similar situation with someone close to me that I grew up with, but I finally cut off all contact with him because I was tired of taking his crap and being used for money, etc. It was hard, but I'm much better off for it now.
 
Originally posted by: SammySon
*sigh* You, HappyPuppy, Skoorb... all suggesting the same. The thing is, I could REALLY use the money he owes me... and know it will cost $1000+ to replace the camcorder and the snowboard. I guess that's thinking short-term, though... in the long run, it may be worth just letting it go and leaving it at that. I'm going to seriously think about whether or not I can afford to just let it go... thank you for your input, I have a bad feeling that's what it may eventually come to. I would HATE letting him get away with everything scot-free, though... he comes out 100x ahead, and I come out the biggest sucker. Ugh.
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$1000 in the long run is diddly squat. Hell, in the short run its still diddly.
When he is in jail, or broke and on the street, then whos the biggest sucker?
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Money is important, but deal with sucker like that, you'll never know what he's going to do to you.

I will leave that money alone and go on with the life if i'm you.

 
Unless your lawyer is Mark Garragos, you're most likely not going get your stuff back. It might be financially hard for you but $1000 is it not worth all the trouble you're going to go through.



Go ahead and file a police report for Criminal threats. If you can keep a log of all the harrassment incidents take it down to court to get a restraining order. Next time he shows up he will be arrested on the spot. Works really nice if he has prior convictions or is on parole.



BTW, you have PM.



-Jimbo


 
Originally posted by: Dezign
Originally posted by: halik
jesus christ, you know how to pick em
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Yeah, no more breakdancers from the ghetto. I'm back to college boys now...
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I'd like to apologize for this comment, which was made in haste (because the two breakdancers I've dated have screwed me out of both money and time).

To clarify for those I inadvertantly insulted... of course there are good people in the "breakdancing/hip hop" scene, and from lower income families. Several of my dearest, most trusted friends are in the bboy scene, and I apologize for speaking hastily. As for college boys, some are better, some are worse... sorry for generalizing, I didn't mean to hurt anyone's feelings.

(got a PM from someone, felt I should apologize)

Anyway. I really do appreciate a lot of the advice that has been given... thoughtfully and generously. It's going to hurt like hell, but I think I do have to step away from this and "cut my losses". Right now, it's quite a sting financially and materially... but hopefully in the long run, it'll be worth avoidance of any more pain and trouble. Ugh. This sucks. I don't want the headache of going through the legal process, and odds are (as some pointed out) I'd lose even more money over that.

Right now, I'm going to focus on the positive... stay with friends for Thanksgiving, try to relax and not stress myself out, and wait for the stress-free, drama-free, baggage-free boyfriend to come back from his Turkey Day break (next week).

Thanks a million, all. I'm going to print out this thread at the end of the day to read over... as a constant reminder. I have a feeling I'll be referring to it pretty often, ugh... no more drama.
 
Sounds like you had the money to help support him and his family.Should have the money to just walk away.
The price of FREEDOM in this case is rather cheap.
Move on with your life.
 
Walk away and just remember,you tried to do a good thing,he's the one who showed his true low worth.
 
Dezign,
It's been about 4 months now, and my friend is still waiting to goto court to try to get his stuff back. He is sueing his ex for all kinds of stuff, including the car that was in her name, damages, lost wages, his stuff, etc. His lawyer says he should get most, if not all of it back in the long run, but it's going to be a long and expensive process, he lost A LOT though so I guess it's worth it to him.

Oh, and as for recording the conversations you have with him, if you do not tell him he is being recorded, you can get in trouble for that, so be careful there. However if he leaves messages on your machine, you can take that to court, because he knows its a answering machine, and he knows he's being recorded.
 
Originally posted by: Dezign
Originally posted by: Dezign
Originally posted by: halik
jesus christ, you know how to pick em
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Yeah, no more breakdancers from the ghetto. I'm back to college boys now...
Click to expand...

I'd like to apologize for this comment, which was made in haste (because the two breakdancers I've dated have screwed me out of both money and time).

To clarify for those I inadvertantly insulted... of course there are good people in the "breakdancing/hip hop" scene, and from lower income families. Several of my dearest, most trusted friends are in the bboy scene, and I apologize for speaking hastily. As for college boys, some are better, some are worse... sorry for generalizing, I didn't mean to hurt anyone's feelings.

(got a PM from someone, felt I should apologize)

Anyway. I really do appreciate a lot of the advice that has been given... thoughtfully and generously. It's going to hurt like hell, but I think I do have to step away from this and "cut my losses". Right now, it's quite a sting financially and materially... but hopefully in the long run, it'll be worth avoidance of any more pain and trouble. Ugh. This sucks. I don't want the headache of going through the legal process, and odds are (as some pointed out) I'd lose even more money over that.

Right now, I'm going to focus on the positive... stay with friends for Thanksgiving, try to relax and not stress myself out, and wait for the stress-free, drama-free, baggage-free boyfriend to come back from his Turkey Day break (next week).

Thanks a million, all. I'm going to print out this thread at the end of the day to read over... as a constant reminder. I have a feeling I'll be referring to it pretty often, ugh... no more drama.
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Do you mean breakdancer as in the 1980's? People making a living doing it?

Anyway looks like a script from The People's Court.

Hope you never see the guy ever again. Life's too short.

Happy Thanksgiving D
 
I didn't read past your post, so I don't know what kind of advice has been dispensed. I also rarely give advice when asked, but in your case I'll make an exception.

Run from this guy and pretend you never knew him.

Pretend this guy does not exsist. Write off the money and items you lost, and FORGET ABOUT IT. As long as he "owes you" he will use that to his advantage. Even if this guy could pay you back he won't. As long as you keep trying to get your stuff from him he's only going to view that as an oppritunity to see/hear/talk to you. And in his meth riddled mind he will see this as a means of getting you back.

Good luck to you. If you need help I know a few "Good ol' boys" from the south who now live up that way.
 
First thing, I think you need a restraining order.
Then it's time to dig out those receipts (if you have any).

I propose a filing with "The People's Court"
Help expedite things. Plus you get to be on TV.

If not, I suggest your local municipal court.
 
Originally posted by: CorporateRecreation
....he's like a detuned radio....
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nice.


so you date some loser whom you have to support, and now you think youll get your stuff back?

good luck with that.

send over the elfinator.

 
Dezign, wow that sucks. I would just not return any more of his phone calls unless it's about paying you back. Yeah, i agree that you should just get out of this situation as soon as possible. It seems like they are completely unreasonable.
... at least you broke up with him.
 
looks like you got some baggage now. my advice, let him keep everything..be done with him. he's not worth the time or effort. all those things you want back can be replaced.
 
As I see it you have one chance to get the stuff back and it's not a good one. You have to be a manipulative b!tch to pull it off. You have to guilt him into thinking that if he returns the stuff you might get back together with him. It would be difficult to pull off (and probably dangerous) and you have to be real manipulative but it's the only chance.
 
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