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Armitage

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Just spent the better part of an hour trying to comfort my 5 year old who was crying her eyes out because she "doesn't want to have two houses any more". That's how my therapist reccomended we explain it to the kids at this age ... that they have two houses now.

I just really want to call up their mom & tell her off ... ask her if she's really proud of what she's doing to her kids.
:(:|:frown::brokenheart:
 
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jtusa

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Originally posted by: Armitage
Just spent the better part of an hour trying to comfort my 5 year old who was crying her eyes out because she "doesn't want to have two houses any more". That's how my therapist reccomended we explain it to the kids at this age ... that they have two houses now.

I just really want to call up their mom & tell her off ... ask her if she's really proud of what she's doing to her kids.
:(:|:frown::brokenheart:
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Originally posted by: jtusa4
Originally posted by: Armitage
Just spent the better part of an hour trying to comfort my 5 year old who was crying her eyes out because she "doesn't want to have two houses any more". That's how my therapist reccomended we explain it to the kids at this age ... that they have two houses now.

I just really want to call up their mom & tell her off ... ask her if she's really proud of what she's doing to her kids.
:(:|:frown::brokenheart:
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Is it all your ex-wife's fault?
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Isnt it always?
 
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Armitage

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Yes, it was all her fault.
She just decided that she needed to relive her childhood again and didn't want to be married anymore. No attempt to reconcile.
There was a long thread on it about a year back, but frankly I don't care to see it again right now.
 
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CHfan4ever

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Its why i took one of the major decision in my life:To dont get kids.Not because i dont love em, but because i just respect them probably too much to hurt them with a situation like this.

Hand and KY 4EVER!

nA im kidding, i got a gfriend and she's on my side ;).She too dont want kids.
 
GTaudiophile

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I was 19 when my parents spilt...5 years later it still can suck bad, especially around the Holiday season.

It took 3 years for me to talk with my mom again...and my dad still hates her...yeah, it sucks at any age!

Word to the wise: don't spoil her like mad because of this and encourage her mother not to do the same.
 
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Chunkee

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Originally posted by: Armitage
Yes, it was all her fault.
She just decided that she needed to relive her childhood again and didn't want to be married anymore. No attempt to reconcile.
There was a long thread on it about a year back, but frankly I don't care to see it again right now.
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I feel you big time.

Best thing for you to do IS TO SHOW NO malevolence toward her in front of them. Be kind and loving and supportive, they will get through it and remember who was the loving one and who was not.

DO NOT MISS THIS OPPORTUNITY TO BOND AND STRENGTHEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH THEM. Love them with all your heart and do not let anger poison you.

God Bless.


I give this advice, because i have lived it and am living it. No greater pain than not seeing my son as much as I should.

JC
 
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Armitage

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Originally posted by: Chunkee
Originally posted by: Armitage
Yes, it was all her fault.
She just decided that she needed to relive her childhood again and didn't want to be married anymore. No attempt to reconcile.
There was a long thread on it about a year back, but frankly I don't care to see it again right now.
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I feel you big time.

Best thing for you to do IS TO SHOW NO malevolence toward her in front of them. Be kind and loving and supportive, they will get through it and remember who was the loving one and who was not.

DO NOT MISS THIS OPPORTUNITY TO BOND AND STRENGTHEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH THEM. Love them with all your heart and do not let anger poison you.

God Bless.


I give this advice, because i have lived it and am living it. No greater pain than not seeing my son as much as I should.

JC
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Thanks ... that's the approach I take 100%. I never say anything bad about their mom in front of them. It just breaks my heart because there was absolutely nothing I could do to spare them this, and absolutely nothing I can do to to comfort them in any meaningful way now.
 
NFS4

NFS4

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Originally posted by: Armitage
Yes, it was all her fault.
She just decided that she needed to relive her childhood again and didn't want to be married anymore. No attempt to reconcile.
There was a long thread on it about a year back, but frankly I don't care to see it again right now.
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Relive her childhood? What does that mean?

Relive her childhood as in she wants to be held unaccountable for anything and she wants to be a lazy slob or
Relive her youth and screw around alot?
 
AgaBoogaBoo

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Don't explain to your daughter that you did everything you could, how the ex-wife was wrong, etc. Let her form her own opinion.
 
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yeah tony soprano just got divoced in the episode i just finished watching....poor meadow and aj
 
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Armitage

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Originally posted by: NFS4
Originally posted by: Armitage
Yes, it was all her fault.
She just decided that she needed to relive her childhood again and didn't want to be married anymore. No attempt to reconcile.
There was a long thread on it about a year back, but frankly I don't care to see it again right now.
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Relive her childhood? What does that mean?

Relive her childhood as in she wants to be held unaccountable for anything and she wants to be a lazy slob or
Relive her youth and screw around alot?
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That's the biggie ... want the freedom of youth back. No responsibilities, commitments, doesn't want to be tied down. But of course, she also wanted to take the kids away from me ... go figure how that fits together. But I have them most of the time now ... she seems to give up parenting time at every opportunity. Which is great for me, but isn't helping the kids.

 
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Armitage

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Originally posted by: AgaBoogaBoo
Don't explain to your daughter that you did everything you could, how the ex-wife was wrong, etc. Let her form her own opinion.
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Nope ... a 5 year old doesn't care about that, much less understand it. I'm just making sure I'm always here for them. My daughter has developed a real phobia about being left alone. I can't leave the room without telling her where I'm going, and then she follows me. I go out to the car for 30 seconds (10 yds from the front door) without telling her, and she's hysterical by the time I'm back.
 
iamme

iamme

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good luck to you and your daughter.

my son is also 5 and sometimes has a hard time, too.

you can't rewind time, so just love her and do the best you can.

:beer: for a fellow single dad.
 
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ViRGE

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Originally posted by: GTaudiophile
I was 19 when my parents spilt...5 years later it still can suck bad, especially around the Holiday season.

It took 3 years for me to talk with my mom again...and my dad still hates her...yeah, it sucks at any age!

Word to the wise: don't spoil her like mad because of this and encourage her mother not to do the same.
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Heck, my parents divorced when I was 4; it took them until I graduated high school before they could even be agreeable enough to hold a single grad party BBQ for the whole family(both sides). They still see each other as enemies to this day.
 
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Dacalo

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Here is :beer: for all loving fathers, mothers, and children who must endure the pain of divorce.
 
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omg that's flippin cute : (

sorry i love kids, i tutor them all the time, can't wait to have a family of my own.


you have my most heartfelt goodluck.

hah i'm gonna cry :/
 
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