Did you ever challenge your father?

[BigToque]

Until the age of 15 I had never done it before because I was scared to, but between then and now, I've been in a few large fights with my dad (nothing in the last little while).

By this I mean where just normal arguements, turn to shouting, which then turned to me standing face to face with my dad, yelling at each other, but where I was 100% ready to fight him if for some reason he snapped.

It's happened a few times to me, but I know he would never try to hurt me. I'm still scared of him snapping because he is really strong and knows karate and such. He could literally kill someone that tried attacking him with his bare hands.

After a few arguements like that and I've stormed out of the room, I've listened to my parents talk about what just happened, while my mom was trying to calm my dad down. I heard her say (to my dad) that as I got older it was natural that I would start to challenge him before I was on my own.

Is there any truth to this? Is it just instinct? All this recent talk about abuse and spankings and such just had me wondering. (Nothing like this has happened in about a year)

Anyone else have some stories?

 

[Alienwho]

Me and my dad get along great, no need to challenge him, we're the guys who sit back and make fun of the guys who are challenging their dads .

 

[Ryan]

my dad and I are cool w/ each other.

 

[Platypus]

One verbal argument. It got out of hand, and he lost alot of respect from me. To put it nicely.

 

[BigToque]

dont get me wrong, I have a great relationship with my dad, we've just had a few heated arguements.

 

[Kueay]

What exactly are you challenging him for?

 

I have a lot of respect for my parents, but thats not to say we don't get in our tiffs.
Nothing like we used to, no physical actions or anything.

 

[Linux23]

me too, i love me pops! However, I was a smart alec kid, and I used to challenge everyone in my family.

Stefan, it's not worth getting into a physical fight with your dad. I mean, one day, you may need him for something, and that could be a big wedge between you two! Just walk away and calm down.

What are all of these fights about?

 

[jonMEGA]

its OK Luke Skywalker challenged his father too.

 

[pulpp]

yes its normal for arguments like this to arise at this age, and nothing wrong with challenging him as long as you have a point and not just being an ass, but in either case just be resonable so that no respect is lost

 

[monk3y]

Never had a father to challenge but i put my mom through hell.

 

[Burn]

<< One verbal argument. It got out of hand, and he lost alot of respect from me. To put it nicely. >>



A similar thing happened to me, and I felt the way you did for a long time. But then I realized that if someone was acting to me, the way I acted to my dad, I would probably beat him up really bad.

 

[BigToque]

<< What exactly are you challenging him for? >>



I'm not challenging him for anything right now.



<< What are all of these fights about? >>



Nothing really important at all. Just sometimes he doesn't agree with the things I agree with.

 

[Burn]

That and the fact I was showing my father zero respect , so he didn't really owe me any..,

 

[Platypus]

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<< One verbal argument. It got out of hand, and he lost alot of respect from me. To put it nicely. >>



A similar thing happened to me, and I felt the way you did for a long time. But then I realized that if someone was acting to me, the way I acted to my dad, I would probably beat him up really bad. >>



I have to lose respect for a man who cant deal with an issue with words, rather than using force.

 

[PCHO]

My dad and I are love/hate. Either we are really getting along very well or we are ready to kill each other. THere are some decisions hes made that make me question if I really am his son but hey nobodys perfect. Got him a DVD player for Fathers Day so we are now getting along really well.

 

[SithSolo1]

me and my dad got in a big fight the other day. He wanted to take my computer away because he thought I was playing CS too much. He was right but I was like &quot;F*Ck u! I just spent $1400 of my hard earned money onit! Its not yours to take&quot; an argument ensued and after about 10 mins of yelling back and forth he stromed out the back door. next thing I know, the cable to my room has been disconnected. SO I guess in a relative sense he won.

 

[Linux23]

see, i guess the problem in my day was, i could only get out a few words before my face was on the ground. and i never raised my voice as if i was shouting, i guess you guys could get away with a lot more than i could!

 

[Kueay]

My father usually gets too violent when serious issues are discussed so i rather just talk to friends about most. My father is a horrible horrible man.

 

[yakko]

Never.

 

[Brutuskend]

The only time I ever challenged my dad was back in 1971 when I got kicked out of High School because I wouldn't cut my hair, and stop wearing jeans to school. To me it was a matter of principal. He decided to take me down and buy me some clothes and cut my hair. I decided I wouldn't! We got into a wrestling match, and at that point he realized he wasn't big enough to MAKE me do anything anymore. We both ended up crying over the whole thing. Years later he admitted that he was proud of me for standing up for what I felt was right.
I moved out, got a hair cut and started wearing REALLY nice clothes (catholic school for the second half of my junior year ) Then out of school and into the USMC. So much for my principals!!

 

[MrCodeDude]

Nope.. To scared to. Plus, I don't see a point, he'd win.
-- mrcodedude

 

[SSP]

Nah, my dad is too nice to get in to any heated argumets.

 

[frizzlefry]

<< What exactly are you challenging him for? >>


are you insinuating oedipus complex?

 

[amdforlife]

me n my dad dont get in arguments...if we disagree on something..we take it outside and fist fight. its not workin out so much anymore cause he's not that much of a challenge nowadays...