Did my life just get unbearably difficult?

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Originally posted by: athithi

Originally posted by: Skoorb
I was going to agree with your wife that it's a "concern" until I got to this: she keeps telling me about how she is mad because my ex saw her 'all fat' I've had a pregnant wife, and yours is fvcking nuts.

Anyway, telling you to break contact with this person is indicative of your wife not trusting her enough. Your wife should be fine with this, but YOU should really watch your ass, because nostalgia is powerful, and the last thing you need is an otherwise benign coffee date turning into a screwfest on the side.

She's not 'nuts', c'mon! It's just natural human tendency. I wonder if his wife and ex-GF knew each other at some point of time. I also wonder if Toasthead spoke positively about his ex-GF to his wife.

The weight thing is nuts. Most of the pregnant women I've heard about have been proud about it. Mrsskoorb was upset that her belly didn't get bigger before skoorbaby came along. Unless you've packed on lots of weight elsewhere, it's unusla for a woman to be upset that her belly is sticking out from pregnancy.

 

[SagaLore]

I'm with your wife on this one.

 

[chowmein]

stay away from Ex for now. until she has the baby. goshdarn hormones ... ultra pms x1000

 

[SagaLore]

Originally posted by: Toasthead
I guess the problem I had here, was I HAVE NO Intrest in my ex,

Great, then why are you emailing her?

 

[athithi]

Originally posted by: Toasthead

Originally posted by: athithi

Originally posted by: Skoorb
I was going to agree with your wife that it's a "concern" until I got to this: she keeps telling me about how she is mad because my ex saw her 'all fat' I've had a pregnant wife, and yours is fvcking nuts.

Anyway, telling you to break contact with this person is indicative of your wife not trusting her enough. Your wife should be fine with this, but YOU should really watch your ass, because nostalgia is powerful, and the last thing you need is an otherwise benign coffee date turning into a screwfest on the side.

She's not 'nuts', c'mon! It's just natural human tendency. I wonder if his wife and ex-GF knew each other at some point of time. I also wonder if Toasthead spoke positively about his ex-GF to his wife.

No my ex and Wife have never met (aside from my wife seeing her at a local resturant when we ate there the other night.)
AND I havent really spoken about my ex to her (she knows about her of course)

Can be a good thing, can be a bad thing. In my case, they knew - and disliked - each other...from the 7th grade 😱 And I made the mistake of speaking in positive terms about each to the other *ouch*!

 

[athithi]

Originally posted by: Skoorb
The weight thing is nuts. Most of the pregnant women I've heard about have been proud about it. Mrsskoorb was upset that her belly didn't get bigger before skoorbaby came along. Unless you've packed on lots of weight elsewhere, it's unusla for a woman to be upset that her belly is sticking out from pregnancy.

I know what you mean. During her pregnancy, my wife too was very concerned that she wasn't as big as her friends and acquaintances. And she loved to be photographed from her profile to show off her expanding belly. I think I see your point. I don't recall my wife feeling anything but proud of her belly. I believe most pregnant women feel special and attractive during their pregnancy. But then again, most pregnant women don't have to deal with their husband meeting an ex-flame either 🙂

 

[Mloot]

If this ex was the first love of your life, then by no means should you see her. You may say that you have no feelings for her after all this time, but who can say what kinds of things a meeting might dredge up?

Also, if your wife just found out that you have been e-mailing your ex behind her back (which, if she didn't know from the start, is how she'll see it) then in some part of her mind she's going to be feeling a bit threatened, no matter how much you reassure her. You cannot reason with a pregnant woman.

 

[maziwanka]

dude. she's pregnant. forget befriending the ex and deal with that later. jeez

 

[franksta]

Originally posted by: athithi

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: franksta
Your current woman can make your life far more miserable than one from your past. The choice here is obvious.

I look at it this way. See, you already shot yourself in the right foot years ago. Do you want to shoot yourself in the foot again, knowing that you can't miss? Or take a chance with a new gun on the other foot hoping you'll miss?

The ex already didn't work out once. He's MARRIED and he's got KIDS on the way.

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I think you missed his point 🙂

My fault. I didn't phrase it very well. My point is, listen to your wife. Happy wife = happy life.

 

[Toasthead]

the wife seems to have calmed down some tonight, but I dont know where this will go. I assured her that I will not initiate contact with my ex though. I think thats what my wife really wants.

 

[arcenite]

Do yourself a favor, don't talk to your ex.

Edit: And do yourself a favor, change your e-mail address.

 

[FP]

Cut off all contact with the ex. Be cordial if you see her around town but don't become friends with her. What is the point? How do you think her husband would feel about her contacting you?

I would bet dollars to dimes she is in a sh!tty marriage and is looking for a way out.

I mean, who tracks down an ex from 10 years ago just to chat?

There is absolutely nothing good that can come from being friends with her.