i found the problem: (i didn't know I had a single and a double rank dimms) Apparently the double rank dimm, even when inserted after the single rank, would take precedence and it would only get detected. I kept looking at the "dimms in bank" info box whenever the pc would finish posting. Whenever both of the dimms were plugged in, only the banks of the double rank would show.
I tried using the single rank SimpleTech 128MB PC2700 along with the single rank ocz 256MB, and they both get detected. I memtested the problematic DIMM, but found no errors. The response from DFI is contact OCZ. I'll be doing that, and while I wait, I'll be getting a 512MB PC3200 Kingston from Fry's today... hopefully that's also single sided.
Thanks again.