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Cal166

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I know there are a lot of people out there with this problem and unfortunately my girlfriend is one of them.

I know she had this problem a while back and everything was fine when she stop taking her pills. Recently she's been taking the pills and our relationship has been going down hill. Side effect from the pills are making the relationship worst.

The main reason why she's in this stage is due to family problems which am going to get into.

Right now she wants to be alone and am giving what she wants.

My question is what can i do? What will happen in the future if i want to be with her for the rest of my life? How's life going to be like?

Can someone please give me their experiences with these kinda of situations.


Thanks a lot.
 
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apac

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How old are you? My father suffers from severe depression from time to time, usually when he stops taking his ADHD medicine. If she's into her 20s, its likely that she'll have it to a certain degree for the rest of her life.
 
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KarenMarie

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I was misdiagnosed for 15yrs before they said I am BiPolar. I have been on just about every SSRI known to man. It is really rough. It takes some time for the meds to take effect and your friend to level out. Just give her space and let her know occasionally that you are there and that you love her.

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Cal166

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Originally posted by: KarenMarie
I was misdiagnosed for 15yrs before they said I am BiPolar. I have been on just about every SSRI known to man. It is really rough. It takes some time for the meds to take effect and your friend to level out. Just give her space and let her know occasionally that you are there and that you love her.

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Thanks, am always here for her and i do tell her that.

I think she's better off without the pills, the SIDE EFFECTs are just too much.

I recently saw the commercial with that unhapppy white head for depression pills and heard the side effects and i just put it together and figured out she's been taking it again.
 
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Kadarin

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You know, it's cold, but you could just ditch her and look for a new g/f. If you're thinking long-term, you're thinking about someone you're going to be with for the rest of your life; you and that someone need to be compatible, and right now that ain't happening.
 
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conjur

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This isn't really a YAGT...more like a medical question.

What medication is she on?
Has she tried other medications?
Has she tried counseling?
What are these side effects?
 
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sillymofo

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Y is she taking the pills if you're not with her? Are you sure the problems are not because of an ulterior motive?
 
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Swag1138

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My best friend suffered horrible depression. She was just so completely self destructive whenever she started to feel happy, and she wouldnt let anybody help her, no matter how hard we tried.

What Im trying to say is.....you cant help her unless shes wants to be helped.

I know how you feel, loving somone, seeing them in pain, and only wanting to help them, but you cant let it tear you up too. Like somone said before, just let her know your there, and offer reassurances to that every now and again. Thats all you can really do.
 
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Cal166,

I guess one thing does concern me. In addition to taking the anti-depressants, is she getting any type of therapy? Certainly, therapy could have a great affect on how well the medication works. I know that depression can be a chemical imbalance, but therapy can also teach us to look for some warning signs before depression is coming on. From there, we can take some steps on our own to minimize the impact.

Recently she's been taking the pills and our relationship has been going down hill. Side effect from the pills are making the relationship worst.
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Also, keep in mind that there are several anti-depressant medications. She just might be taking one that creates a lot of side-effects for her - and that is getting in the way of having a healthy relationship with you. She might want to discuss her side-effects with her doctor to see if there isn't a more appropriate anti-depressant med for her.

 
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NTB

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Originally posted by: KarenMarie
I was misdiagnosed for 15yrs before they said I am BiPolar. I have been on just about every SSRI known to man. It is really rough. It takes some time for the meds to take effect and your friend to level out. Just give her space and let her know occasionally that you are there and that you love her.

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Good advice. My girlfriend has the same thing you do. She takes her medecine and generally does very well, but occasionally even the medicine doesn't help. Those times are frustrating as all hell, because besides telling her that I love her and that I'm there, all I can do is sit and watch. I can't really do a damn thing, which agravates me.

Nate
 
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NTB

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Originally posted by: conjur
This isn't really a YAGT...more like a medical question.

What medication is she on?
Has she tried other medications?
Has she tried counseling?
What are these side effects?
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I'm not saying that I know what she's on, but from my own experience, some of these medicines tend to really knock people out. If the doseage isn't watched closely - sometimes even if it is - taking it causes you to be constantly sleepy. Better than the alternative, I guess, but not by much.

Nate
 
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Cal166

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One major Side effect is constant Huge Headaches, which prevents her from doing her work, school and everything else.
 
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NTB

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Originally posted by: Cal166
One major Side effect is constant Huge Headaches, which prevents her from doing her work, school and everything else.
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Ouchie...Time to go to the doctor and see if there's something different that she can take, I would think.

Nate
 
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tk149

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I agree with those who've suggested switching meds. I've tried several myself, and have had different side effects. Some of them were really bad, but I finally found something that I could live with.

I went through a MAJOR depression about 6 years ago. It ruined my career, my relationship with my GF, and strained my ties with many friends.

Right now, I feel fine, I have a new career, and I'm looking for a new (and better) GF. :p I am not on meds, and am not seeing a therapist. Although I'm constantly aware of the spectre of Depression hanging over my shoulder, I would say my life is pretty "normal" right now.

Give your GF some space, but make sure she knows you're hovering around and concerned about her. If my ex-GF had been that supportive, perhaps we would still be together now.

 
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There are a wide variety of medications available. Some work for people others don't. Side effects change too. Check all your options.
 
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