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*Do you go to school in D.C? If so, where?
*Since you have no plans for the 4th of July, come with me to D.C. You'll get your mind off of things. I'm being serious too. Don't say no.
-I'm not inviting you to come with me because I feel sorry for you, but because I wake up every morning with that sick feeling too.
*Since you have no plans for the 4th of July, come with me to D.C. You'll get your mind off of things. I'm being serious too. Don't say no.
-I'm not inviting you to come with me because I feel sorry for you, but because I wake up every morning with that sick feeling too.
moshquerade
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Paxil is your friend. Seriously.
At this point, you probably have a chemical imbalance. Paxil will help, but be sure to take care of your body (hygeine, sleep, and food). Don't be ashamed to take medication to help with these things, as well as following the rest of the advice in this thread (getting out, etc.).
At this point, you probably have a chemical imbalance. Paxil will help, but be sure to take care of your body (hygeine, sleep, and food). Don't be ashamed to take medication to help with these things, as well as following the rest of the advice in this thread (getting out, etc.).
Don't tell me that. You don't know what depression is. A girl left you? How about never having a girl at all? Or living in emotional hell where every day sucks a good chunk of life out of your heart. When nobody wants to talk to you, noone listents to you and you don't have any idea why all this crap is happening. How about that?
Yeah bro, when things like this happen it sucks, but it only makes you stronger. Use it as a learning experience. Good call on getting help though. There is nothing wrong with finding someone to talk to. Something that I find that helps is keeping a kind of journal of what I'm feeling, sometimes its good just to put pen to pad...
mi xiao
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the only person that needs to be "different" is you.
and if you think you are "depressed" you should be getting therapy, not expecting your gfs to "work with you."
that is bogus and not fair to any girl.
take what she says as the truth. you are probably not evenly yoked....
but if you really think that your depression is such a problem, get help.
any depression is a medical condition, that needs therapy and/or meds.
get help and then find someone who you work well with once you feel better.
it is not fair to drag others down.
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Right now I dont think im going to go anywhere I just want the hurt to stop. I knew I should have not had sex with her because I tied me to emotionaly with her. Sighes you know at this rate I think I rather be asexual than deal with the fuscking BS women put out nowadays
Stop whining about it. Having your heart broken is the best story you could ask for to get chicks into bed. Go put some more notches in your bedpost. Go. Now.
it is depressing isnt it? but in the end it will help make you a callous jaded person like i have become,and thats a good thing,because youll be better able to see her for the real asshole she is.Remember ,a wise dog once said " a friend likes you just the way you are" -Snoopy
ktehmok
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Originally posted by: Darkstar757
Im soo devistated I thought she was different. I have had more heart break in the last two years than allot of people have in a life time. Suffering from depression has made it almost impossible for me to keep a heathy relationship as most women today wont take the time to work with me and try to understand what im going thru. The fact that Im having such heart break is not helping my depression situation at all. Last night was the lowest I have ever been in my life. I actually contemplated that the world would be a better place if I wasnt born. For those of you who are concerned I am not thinking of hurting myself nor would I ever do that. I just venting here because I have no other place to do it. I apologize to those who are tired of hearing my problems.
She left because she said she just didnt think we were a good fit or evenly yoked. Deep in side I know it was my depression that pushed her away. I am going to therapy next week and I have never had depression so bad that I needed medical treatment. After this spat Im scared that my condition my become worse or untreatable. I know that my mood swing can make me be moody from time to time. Aww man I just dont know how she could say she loved me, sleep with me etc and just leave me so calusly.
At this point the most diffcult thing is trying to figure out where do I go from here. It cant be normal for a guy to almost cry all night and not be able to sleep because of a women. Im so tired of being hurt I dont know If I will ever have a healthy relationship with a women again.
Darkstar
1. There's nothing wrong with venting here.
2. She didn't leave without a reason. She just wasn't capable of expressing it to you. She will have problems down the road also unfortunately.
3. From the looks of things, you have an opportunity to hang out with someone from the best city in the country to hang out in on this holiday(I know, it's not a city, it's a district, don't get technical). So go out & have some fun. Take some pics if you can & post them. It'll take your mind off of things.
4. This ongoing depression more than likely stem's from a past relationship. In fact I'm sure it does. You should deal with that entirely before you attempt anything new. Especially if you expect something deep & long term in the future.
AreaCode707
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It is not abnormal for a guy to cry all night and not be able to sleep. Most guys wouldn't do it all the time, but most guys have probably done it in a similar situation to yours. That isn't a sign that you're depressed, it's just a result of something hard and hurtful happening to you.
I'll second what others have said here - expecting her to "work with you" on your problems wasn't necessarily fair to her. That can create an unbalanced relationship that winds up being unhealthy for both people.
One of the best ways to begin overcoming depression is to get yourself involved in some regular activities (that you can't skip out of) that you could someday see yourself enjoying, even if you're not necessarily enjoying them right now. Getting out, getting active, and mixing with more people is a step forward. Therapy may help too.
It's not easy stuff to deal with, but I hope it doesn't hurt too badly for too long. *hug*
I'll second what others have said here - expecting her to "work with you" on your problems wasn't necessarily fair to her. That can create an unbalanced relationship that winds up being unhealthy for both people.
One of the best ways to begin overcoming depression is to get yourself involved in some regular activities (that you can't skip out of) that you could someday see yourself enjoying, even if you're not necessarily enjoying them right now. Getting out, getting active, and mixing with more people is a step forward. Therapy may help too.
It's not easy stuff to deal with, but I hope it doesn't hurt too badly for too long. *hug*
Chunkee
Lifer
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Get counseling. I battled if many years. And let me tell you right now, you are in no position to have a relationship like you are seeking. You are not healthy and your self esteem is about nil or close to it. No one wants to be around someone like that. You are setting yourself up for more of a vicious cycle than depression already is. DO NOT DRINK, DO NOT SMOKE WEED, DO NOT TRY TO SELF MEDICATE.
DO KEEP A JOURNAL. DO KEEP IN TOUCH WITH FAMILY AND FRIENDS AND THERAPIST. DO JOIN A SUPPORT GROUP...and the BIGGEST ONE OF ALL, DO WORK OUT EXTENSIVELY....all these require great effort when you are at your stage. However, you must summon something in you and make the decision to have purpose and self worth. You are young andh have much to live for. If you think this then end of it all, then get help immediately. It can and does get better, but you must do it yourself at the beginning. Ask God for help everyday.
JC
DO KEEP A JOURNAL. DO KEEP IN TOUCH WITH FAMILY AND FRIENDS AND THERAPIST. DO JOIN A SUPPORT GROUP...and the BIGGEST ONE OF ALL, DO WORK OUT EXTENSIVELY....all these require great effort when you are at your stage. However, you must summon something in you and make the decision to have purpose and self worth. You are young andh have much to live for. If you think this then end of it all, then get help immediately. It can and does get better, but you must do it yourself at the beginning. Ask God for help everyday.
JC
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Day two and I feel worse than ever. I didnt really sleep because my mind kept playing over the breakup and how hurt my heart was. I really am wondering if I will be able to make it to tuesday to get some help.
Suggestions:
Buy a bicycle and go for power-cycles (25 miles+ at high speed)
Buy a motorbike
Run 5 miles every day
Take up singing with a group. Wherever... church choir, barbershop quartet....
Go for a road trip
Buy a bicycle and go for power-cycles (25 miles+ at high speed)
Buy a motorbike
Run 5 miles every day
Take up singing with a group. Wherever... church choir, barbershop quartet....
Go for a road trip
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