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Surefire way for immediate disappointment: Automatically thinking any girl that pays over-moderate attention to you is attracted to you. Trust me, I've let this happen a couple times and it never leads to anything positive.

You could always kick it in the friend-zone and hope one day to make it out (almost never happens).
 
Originally posted by: hotchilisauce
Have a :beer:, be a man and deal with it.
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I'm guessing they don't serve alcohol to people under the age of 18 wherever the OP lives.

Edit-Cliff notes!!! Please use cliff notes!!!
 
Am I the only one not seeing two sides to this quote?

"Well, were going to have to find you someone then."

What if she is being a smart ass or just being "cute" ? That sounds like something I would say to a girl I was talking to a lot. You never know until you ask. For all you know she could of been giving you an opening to say something to her about a date.

But I know exactly how you feel. Oddly enough, I have a story just like yours to share. But I keep it nice and short for you.

- I meet this girl who I really like in one of my night classes at college
- I ended up e mailing her for her AIM name
- We started talking
- Got her phone number (she gave it up like water)
- She flirted with me
- I started hinting that I liked her more than a friend
- She makes a date with me for a week end

This is when it gets odd. After we set up a date she disappears. Hasn't been on AIM or hasn't been answering phone calls. She hasn't showed up for class for three weeks. Neither mine, or any other classes that she has during the week. All I know was something was up with her that she didn't want to talk about and she was in a obvious state of emotional distress a week before we planned our date.

So now im left feeling guilty that I scared her away some how. Even though it doesn't make one bit a sense that I would do that to her, I find my ego is at a larger height than my ability to think things through. Ever since I ve been trying to call her at least once a week to find out if she answers.

So we all face heart acke. But you are right now better off than I am. Make a move. You don't have to ask her straight out but let her know that you are interested in her then just let it flow.
 
Ignore the a$$holes in here, Mark. It makes them feel better to put you down for some reason.

Anyways, let me be direct and to the point. From your story, this is what I've gathered:

The girl was either just has a social/outgoing personality, is just flirtatious or both. I'm guessing, regarding you strong feelings for her, is probably the product of you feeling a bit lonely due something. Did you just recently move out on your own? You said you broke up with the ex 7 months ago, maybe you broke up with her and didnt feel lonely at first but are now? Whatever the answer is, I bet the feelings for this girl in your class is really not as strong as they once were at the peak of your 3 yr releationship with you ex. I imagine the girls(s), from the beginning thought you were cute, a really cool guy, or both and just were generally chatty with you and probably realized that they didnt want you to get the wrong impression so by stating "Well, were going to have to find you someone then." , its a safe, caring way of saying "I'm not interested in you, but I want to be friends...let me help".

.....the bottom line is, they're just not interested. I know its tough to hear, but you've just got to accept it, realize that there are ALOT of other girls out there even better than her, and move on. 🙂

Good luck man!
 
Originally posted by: JulesMaximus
Originally posted by: hotchilisauce
Have a :beer:, be a man and deal with it.
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I'm guessing they don't serve alcohol to people under the age of 18 wherever the OP lives.

Edit-Cliff notes!!! Please use cliff notes!!!
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Read! Please learn to read!
 
Originally posted by: Regs
Am I the only one not seeing two sides to this quote?

"Well, were going to have to find you someone then."
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I thought it too. Think about it... if you were the guy, in her place... and the girl you may like said she doesn't have a bf... what do you say ? "We're going to have to find you someone then."... with a big fat smile hoping she would be open to the idea of dating.

:thumbsup:

I'm definitely thinking it's not a sure NO.
 
Originally posted by: rh71
Originally posted by: Regs
Am I the only one not seeing two sides to this quote?

"Well, were going to have to find you someone then."
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I thought it too. Think about it... if you were the guy, in her place... and the girl you may like said she doesn't have a bf... what do you say ? "We're going to have to find you someone then."... with a big fat smile hoping she would be open to the idea of dating.

:thumbsup:

I'm definitely thinking it's not a sure NO.
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Thank you lol. Someone else who has experience in the dating game.
 
My ex, is just a girl I was with for long time(too long probably). I liked her, but never really loved her. She felt the same way about me so it was easy for both of us to break up. I think the problem is she just has an outgoing personality, and I got that confused with something else. I'v'e decided I'm just gonna stop talking to them altogether. Not by giving them the cold shoulder or anything, I'm just sorta gonna reply with "yes" and "no" answers whenever they ask me anything and that'll be that. If she was interested in me at all, she wouldn't be writing those types of notes or making a comment like that(that would be a strange way of letting me know shes interested in me). And at the end of the semester if they ask me about me not being so talkative in the past few weeks, I'm gonna tell them everything. But the bad thing about her is, because her friend is always with her, maybe her friend is the one who likes me? Cause I'm not interested in her friend at all. But if that was the case and told her everything, can you imagine how the friend would feel? That worries me alot too.
 
Originally posted by: rh71
Originally posted by: Regs
Am I the only one not seeing two sides to this quote?

"Well, were going to have to find you someone then."
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I thought it too. Think about it... if you were the guy, in her place... and the girl you may like said she doesn't have a bf... what do you say ? "We're going to have to find you someone then."... with a big fat smile hoping she would be open to the idea of dating.

:thumbsup:

I'm definitely thinking it's not a sure NO.
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Its deffinitly a possibility, but I doubt it. I think that this girl is outgoing enough that she would just probably be a little more direct. I guess it was the whole, "Judy loves Brett" thing on her notebook that sways me. But, its just my opinion....
 
Originally posted by: Mark
My ex, is just a girl I was with for long time(too long probably). I liked her, but never really loved her. She felt the same way about me so it was easy for both of us to break up. I think the problem is she just has an outgoing personality, and I got that confused with something else. I'v'e decided I'm just gonna stop talking to them altogether. Not by giving them the cold shoulder or anything, I'm just sorta gonna reply with "yes" and "no" answers whenever they ask me anything and that'll be that. If she was interested in me at all, she wouldn't be writing those types of notes or making a comment like that(that would be a strange way of letting me know shes interested in me). And at the end of the semester if they ask me about me not being so talkative in the past few weeks, I'm gonna tell them everything.
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Don't be a dick.......... be yourself around them. You say you have enough friends......... 2 more could not hurt. Your also giving yourself too much work by doing the project by yourself because you don't want to talk to her. Geez........ she has a boyfriend (maybe) and you have no shot........ get over it. The passive/aggressive stuff is not healthy.

Cheers,
Aquaman
 
Originally posted by: Mark
My ex, is just a girl I was with for long time(too long probably). I liked her, but never really loved her. She felt the same way about me so it was easy for both of us to break up. I think the problem is she just has an outgoing personality, and I got that confused with something else. I'v'e decided I'm just gonna stop talking to them altogether. Not by giving them the cold shoulder or anything, I'm just sorta gonna reply with "yes" and "no" answers whenever they ask me anything and that'll be that. If she was interested in me at all, she wouldn't be writing those types of notes or making a comment like that(that would be a strange way of letting me know shes interested in me). And at the end of the semester if they ask me about me not being so talkative in the past few weeks, I'm gonna tell them everything. But the bad thing about her is, because her friend is always with her, maybe her friend is the one who likes me? Cause I'm not interested in her friend at all. But if that was the case and told her everything, can you imagine how the friend would feel? That worries me alot too.
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Well why dont you cry about it, poopy-pants! lmao I kid I kid....

Seriously, there no need to ignore them to the point of "yes" or "no" answers. Why treat them like that, they didnt do anything wrong, man. How old are you? (seriously)
 
Originally posted by: warcrow
Originally posted by: Mark
My ex, is just a girl I was with for long time(too long probably). I liked her, but never really loved her. She felt the same way about me so it was easy for both of us to break up. I think the problem is she just has an outgoing personality, and I got that confused with something else. I'v'e decided I'm just gonna stop talking to them altogether. Not by giving them the cold shoulder or anything, I'm just sorta gonna reply with "yes" and "no" answers whenever they ask me anything and that'll be that. If she was interested in me at all, she wouldn't be writing those types of notes or making a comment like that(that would be a strange way of letting me know shes interested in me). And at the end of the semester if they ask me about me not being so talkative in the past few weeks, I'm gonna tell them everything. But the bad thing about her is, because her friend is always with her, maybe her friend is the one who likes me? Cause I'm not interested in her friend at all. But if that was the case and told her everything, can you imagine how the friend would feel? That worries me alot too.
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Well why dont you cry about it, poopy-pants! lmao I kid I kid....

Seriously, there no need to ignore them to the point of "yes" or "no" answers. Why treat them like that, they didnt do anything wrong, man. How old are you? (seriously)
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LOL poopy-pants 😉

Cheers,
Aquaman
 
Originally posted by: Mark
My ex, is just a girl I was with for long time(too long probably). I liked her, but never really loved her. She felt the same way about me so it was easy for both of us to break up. I think the problem is she just has an outgoing personality, and I got that confused with something else. I'v'e decided I'm just gonna stop talking to them altogether. Not by giving them the cold shoulder or anything, I'm just sorta gonna reply with "yes" and "no" answers whenever they ask me anything and that'll be that. If she was interested in me at all, she wouldn't be writing those types of notes or making a comment like that(that would be a strange way of letting me know shes interested in me). And at the end of the semester if they ask me about me not being so talkative in the past few weeks, I'm gonna tell them everything. But the bad thing about her is, because her friend is always with her, maybe her friend is the one who likes me? Cause I'm not interested in her friend at all. But if that was the case and told her everything, can you imagine how the friend would feel? That worries me alot too.
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Did u have teh butt sekks w/ teh ex? 😉

 
Originally posted by: warcrow
Originally posted by: Mark
My ex, is just a girl I was with for long time(too long probably). I liked her, but never really loved her. She felt the same way about me so it was easy for both of us to break up. I think the problem is she just has an outgoing personality, and I got that confused with something else. I'v'e decided I'm just gonna stop talking to them altogether. Not by giving them the cold shoulder or anything, I'm just sorta gonna reply with "yes" and "no" answers whenever they ask me anything and that'll be that. If she was interested in me at all, she wouldn't be writing those types of notes or making a comment like that(that would be a strange way of letting me know shes interested in me). And at the end of the semester if they ask me about me not being so talkative in the past few weeks, I'm gonna tell them everything. But the bad thing about her is, because her friend is always with her, maybe her friend is the one who likes me? Cause I'm not interested in her friend at all. But if that was the case and told her everything, can you imagine how the friend would feel? That worries me alot too.
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Well why dont you cry about it, poopy-pants! lmao I kid I kid....

Seriously, there no need to ignore them to the point of "yes" or "no" answers. Why treat them like that, they didnt do anything wrong, man. How old are you? (seriously)
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The more I talk to her, the more I will think about this, and the worse I will feel. Why put myself thru that? It's not like I'm gonna be a dick to them or anything. I think I've already figured out she's not interested, and I'm not really interested in being friends with either of them. The last thing I want to be doing is hanging out with her and her bf on a Saturday night.



I'm glad I got all of this off my chest.

 
Originally posted by: Mark
Originally posted by: warcrow
Originally posted by: Mark
My ex, is just a girl I was with for long time(too long probably). I liked her, but never really loved her. She felt the same way about me so it was easy for both of us to break up. I think the problem is she just has an outgoing personality, and I got that confused with something else. I'v'e decided I'm just gonna stop talking to them altogether. Not by giving them the cold shoulder or anything, I'm just sorta gonna reply with "yes" and "no" answers whenever they ask me anything and that'll be that. If she was interested in me at all, she wouldn't be writing those types of notes or making a comment like that(that would be a strange way of letting me know shes interested in me). And at the end of the semester if they ask me about me not being so talkative in the past few weeks, I'm gonna tell them everything. But the bad thing about her is, because her friend is always with her, maybe her friend is the one who likes me? Cause I'm not interested in her friend at all. But if that was the case and told her everything, can you imagine how the friend would feel? That worries me alot too.
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Well why dont you cry about it, poopy-pants! lmao I kid I kid....

Seriously, there no need to ignore them to the point of "yes" or "no" answers. Why treat them like that, they didnt do anything wrong, man. How old are you? (seriously)
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The more I talk to her, the more I will think about this, and the worse I will feel. Why put myself thru that? It's not like I'm gonna be a dick to them or anything. I think I've already figured out she's not interested, and I'm not really interested in being friends with either of them. The last thing I want to be doing is hanging out with her and her bf on a Saturday night.



I'm glad I got all of this off my chest.
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:beer:
 
How the heck she going to know if you like her? You gotta grow some (removed) and tell her that you like her and leave it at that since she has a boyfriend and maybe in the future you will get a chance with her .. till then continue to play your counter strike.
 
nah, you just didn't move quickly enough. You should ask a girl you find interesting out within a few hours of knowing her.

lesson learned.
 
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