Dating a younger guy.

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: slatr
I saw this as a hot topic and thought, ah she must be like 35 or so.

23!!! LOL! No problems there.

Come on now, nothing wrong with dating a 19 year old at all.

Odds are you two would get along better when he is 23 and you are 27 though. He will be past a lot of that younger, wilder stage that we guys do enjoy.

Does he seem mature.. beyond his cartoon fetish?

Not that there is anything wrong with cartoons....I like them alot...

If you pay attention to things Dezign has mentioned she like Disney movies lately....so with that it'd be a good match...

Also I believe she's not into 'settling' down right now so the past cheating thing is really irrelavant in a way, and may be the ticket to a guy that's not looking to settle down either.

Many guys end up selling themselves sort on fun since they talk about being a player, but anytime they meet some chick it's all about making her a g/f or steady.

Esp. in the beginning, how the heck do you know if you want someone as a 'regular entree' ....most of the time you don't need to ask, you will realize that somewhere along the line you have started seeing each other everyday...you have stuff at their place, and they have stuff at yours, etc....the whole 'wanna be my girl' thing is the high school thing.

You do sometimes have to bring it up though, like when it's a sort of one sided deal and one person is feeling unsure of where they stand or no longer wanting to be just part of the dating mix.

The worst is after spending dinner answering that you have no interest in a serious relationship, you end up at her place and get the "I love you" in the morning....that has got to be the most ackward feeling ever...you really don't want to be a d!ck about it, but you want to make it clear that you did nothing to mislead them and stated it was just going to be 'fun'.

 

[TheVrolok]

Originally posted by: Dezign
My attraction to young-looking males is going to get me into trouble one of these days. *sigh*

I went out on a date last night with a really, really sweet guy... we met up at a coffee shop, and he bought us boba teas (he'd never tried one before, and sampled one of them for the first time ever ). I had put us on the guestlist that night for a club in Hollywood, but he wasn't old enough to get in... and suggested we go see "Brother Bear" instead. I was all for it, but almost all the theaters were closed at that time... so we ended up walking around, talking, and then going back to my place for pizza (mmm, bbq chicken!), "Finding Nemo", good conversation, and cuddling.

I really like him, and he's so cute and enthusiastic... it was a little weird driving him back to the dorms, but I got over it. We're going to get together again tomorrow, and I guess we'll see what happens... I tend to have ADD when it comes to guys, but hopefully he'll stick around longer than past ones.

I know every situation is different, but are there younger guys who would actually be interested in a potential relationship with an "older woman"? He's a 19-y/o sophomore right now, and I'm 23... graduated from college, working full-time, etc. Gah. He's a very attractive guy, and shouldn't have any trouble getting a sorority girl, etc... but I guess only time will tell...

I've got a friend here at college who's a junior, turning 21 soon, and he's currently getting very serious with a woman who's 26, graduated, working full time, etc.. he says it's better than any relationship he's ever had. I have to say, personally, as well that I would much prefer an older woman.. it's simple logic, they have a greater chance of being more mature and responsible. As for sorority girls ... ick.. It's rare that I meet a sorority girl that I can stand.

 

[xirtam]

Edit: sorry, forgot what this thread was about.

But for what it's worth, being a guy, I would never date a younger guy.

 

[edmundoab]

as long as you know he is matured enough for you..
then by all means go ahead,
its not too big a gap anyway...

in old chinese tradition..
when they match make a couple, the girl can be 20 years older than the male..
thats totally crazy

 

[huesmann]

Originally posted by: Dezign
So today, I officially have an 18-year-old boyfriend at UCLA.

CRADLE ROBBER!!!!

 

[SackOfAllTrades]

oh i got another one!

Of course age matters! Younger guys aren't that good at cunnilingus...

 

[huesmann]

So are YOU a cunning linguist?

Originally posted by: freegeeks
there are a lot of jealous guys in here

I can smell it from 5000 miles away

The fish?

 

[Sunny129]

I know every situation is different, but are there younger guys who would actually be interested in a potential relationship with an "older woman"?

I've always had a complex about dating younger women. none of my friends seem to have a problem with it, but i could only bring myself to do it once...ironically it turned out to be the best relationship i ever had. anyways that was the only younger girl i have ever dated. i can't say that i know any other guy like me, so maybe "guys who like older women" is a dying breed...who knows. but i see nothing wrong with it. and when i say older, i don't mean my mother's age...i'm talking 3-5 years older, like your situation. i know its harder for a girl to date a younger guy than it is for a guy to date a younger girl, but as long as he interests you and is on your level, why not?

 

[imported_Tomato]

Thanks to all for the continued feedback...

I heeded most people's advice, and went for it. He's a freshman right now, but one of the sweetest, most thoughtful, kindest guys I've met in LA. Things are going well... we went to see "Elf" (rated PG ) last night at the Grove, and cuddled afterwards until we fell asleep. I just dropped him off back at his dorm, and may see him again tonight after work (I guess he's sleeping for both of us now, since all he has is lab from 1-4 today *jealous*).

*sigh*

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: Dezign
Thanks to all for the continued feedback...

I heeded most people's advice, and went for it. He's a freshman right now, but one of the sweetest, most thoughtful, kindest guys I've met in LA. Things are going well... we went to see "Elf" (rated PG ) last night at the Grove, and cuddled afterwards until we fell asleep. I just dropped him off back at his dorm, and may see him again tonight after work (I guess he's sleeping for both of us now, since all he has is lab from 1-4 today *jealous*).

*sigh*

Just please tell me you're not dating the dude who wants plastic surgery to get "elf ears"? :Q

 

[imported_Tomato]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Dezign
Thanks to all for the continued feedback...

I heeded most people's advice, and went for it. He's a freshman right now, but one of the sweetest, most thoughtful, kindest guys I've met in LA. Things are going well... we went to see "Elf" (rated PG ) last night at the Grove, and cuddled afterwards until we fell asleep. I just dropped him off back at his dorm, and may see him again tonight after work (I guess he's sleeping for both of us now, since all he has is lab from 1-4 today *jealous*).

*sigh*

Just please tell me you're not dating the dude who wants plastic surgery to get "elf ears"? :Q

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA... lol... don't worry Geekbabe, he has zero desire to get "efl ears".

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Dezign
Thanks to all for the continued feedback...

I heeded most people's advice, and went for it. He's a freshman right now, but one of the sweetest, most thoughtful, kindest guys I've met in LA. Things are going well... we went to see "Elf" (rated PG ) last night at the Grove, and cuddled afterwards until we fell asleep. I just dropped him off back at his dorm, and may see him again tonight after work (I guess he's sleeping for both of us now, since all he has is lab from 1-4 today *jealous*).

*sigh*

Just please tell me you're not dating the dude who wants plastic surgery to get "elf ears"? :Q

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA... lol... don't worry Geekbabe, he has zero desire to get "efl ears".

well they might be useful,you know,sort of like handles or something

 

[unclebud]

i had a swedish girlfriend once
man, was she bossy

 

[imported_Tomato]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Dezign
Thanks to all for the continued feedback...

I heeded most people's advice, and went for it. He's a freshman right now, but one of the sweetest, most thoughtful, kindest guys I've met in LA. Things are going well... we went to see "Elf" (rated PG ) last night at the Grove, and cuddled afterwards until we fell asleep. I just dropped him off back at his dorm, and may see him again tonight after work (I guess he's sleeping for both of us now, since all he has is lab from 1-4 today *jealous*).

*sigh*

Just please tell me you're not dating the dude who wants plastic surgery to get "elf ears"? :Q

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA... lol... don't worry Geekbabe, he has zero desire to get "efl ears".

well they might be useful,you know,sort of like handles or something

AAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHH LOL... Handles are always useful...

 

[Rufio]

Howas the movie ELF?

is it as good as everyone says it is/

 

[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: Ranger X
Just look at it this way ... while he's partying at a frat party/sorority party getting friendly with a girl on Thursday night, you'll be at home getting ready to sleep to work the next day.

I say all this because I've seen/heard what goes on while the girlfriend's away and it ain't pretty.

We actually talked about that. The weekend before we met, he was at a frat party "getting drunk and kissing girls." However, if what he's told me holds true, he takes relationships more seriously and has never cheated on a girlfriend. He seems to be the relationship-type, and has been terribly cutesy/cuddly/puppy-dog-eyed as of late. He's incredibly enthusiastic about everything, and at one point, I told him if he wants to go hook up with cute sorority girls instead of being with a 23-year-old grad, just tell me and I'll let him go/we can stay friends. He looked puzzled, said he wasn't interested, and admitted he hadn't even though of hooking up with anyone else since we started seeing each other (which REALLY hasn't even been that long, but maybe he gets attached more quickly than most?). Anyway... all I have is his word for now, and he seems very sincere. If it works out, fabulous... if it doesn't, at least I'll have a skiing buddy this winter.

What guy actually tells his new S.O. that he's not the relationship type and in fact loves to sleep around? I mean no offense- this guy could be a swell fellow..

 

[Kaiser__Sose]

Classic Skoorb...

As for finding things to do together, I've been scoping out 18+ places... it's definitely limiting, but I'm sure we'll find things to get ourselves into. Museums, aquariums, zoo's, Speedzone, restaurants, etc... there are a few 18+ clubs we may venture into together at some point... do you have any other suggestions on where to go/what to do if your s/o is underage? I think this is a good thing, as it'll keep me away from Vegas for awhile... he was joking that when we go to Tahoe to ski together, he'll sit and wait in the kiddie room while I gamble.

Move with him to canada... legal age is 18 in Que 19 in all other provines.

 

[Kaiser__Sose]

Sup wit these double posts ???

 

[imported_Tomato]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: Ranger X
Just look at it this way ... while he's partying at a frat party/sorority party getting friendly with a girl on Thursday night, you'll be at home getting ready to sleep to work the next day.

I say all this because I've seen/heard what goes on while the girlfriend's away and it ain't pretty.

We actually talked about that. The weekend before we met, he was at a frat party "getting drunk and kissing girls." However, if what he's told me holds true, he takes relationships more seriously and has never cheated on a girlfriend. He seems to be the relationship-type, and has been terribly cutesy/cuddly/puppy-dog-eyed as of late. He's incredibly enthusiastic about everything, and at one point, I told him if he wants to go hook up with cute sorority girls instead of being with a 23-year-old grad, just tell me and I'll let him go/we can stay friends. He looked puzzled, said he wasn't interested, and admitted he hadn't even though of hooking up with anyone else since we started seeing each other (which REALLY hasn't even been that long, but maybe he gets attached more quickly than most?). Anyway... all I have is his word for now, and he seems very sincere. If it works out, fabulous... if it doesn't, at least I'll have a skiing buddy this winter.

What guy actually tells his new S.O. that he's not the relationship type and in fact loves to sleep around? I mean no offense- this guy could be a swell fellow..

No offense taken. Just to clarify, he told me that he IS the relationship type, he doesn't sleep around (just kiss around), and he has never cheated on a past girlfriend. All I have is his word to go on for now, and he hasn't done anything to betray my trust yet, so I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt.

 

[imported_Tomato]

Originally posted by: Rufio
Howas the movie ELF?

is it as good as everyone says it is/

Elf was really cute... painfully cheesy at the end, but not a bad flick overall. I would wait for video, if you haven't already seen it... I'm a big WF fan though, so I had to see it in the theatre. $11.50 for a ticket, UGH!

 

[bleeb]

Originally posted by: Dezign

Originally posted by: Rufio
Howas the movie ELF?

is it as good as everyone says it is/

Elf was really cute... painfully cheesy at the end, but not a bad flick overall. I would wait for video, if you haven't already seen it... I'm a big WF fan though, so I had to see it in the theatre. $11.50 for a ticket, UGH!

11.50 for a ticket!!!??? The theatres these days are really bending you over and ramming.... uhh you get the idea.

 

[isaacmacdonald]

went with the young guy huh? best of luck.

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

What guy actually tells his new S.O. that he's not the relationship type and in fact loves to sleep around? I mean no offense- this guy could be a swell fellow..

I don't think it's ever really put like that.

When I wanted to date other's I would simply mention that fact. If they asked if I planned to have sex otherside 'our' relationship I would say yes also, but I would add I would not provide any details other than that. Some can handle it some can't, usually the ones that couldn't would be looking for a serious thing anyway.

 

[Koing]

Originally posted by: Dezign
My attraction to young-looking males is going to get me into trouble one of these days. *sigh*

I know every situation is different, but are there younger guys who would actually be interested in a potential relationship with an "older woman"? He's a 19-y/o sophomore right now, and I'm 23... graduated from college, working full-time, etc. Gah. He's a very attractive guy, and shouldn't have any trouble getting a sorority girl, etc... but I guess
only time will tell...

I'm 19 the moment but turn 20 at the end of the year. My gf is 23yrs. I'm in my 2nd year off degree and gf is on her last year of her PhD. No real difference in age between us when we are together. It is just a formality that she is older then me.

As long as you have fun together and then it will be cool. You can work things out later if your both keen.

btw glad you had some fun

Koing

 

[arcenite]

Originally posted by: unclebud
i had a swedish girlfriend once
man, was she bossy

"WHOSE YOUR DADDY B!TCH????" ... Sorry I couldn't help it..

Bill