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Current infidelity rates at 50% for men and 40% for women.

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Movies.

Women are bombarded with these love stories that make it seem getting Married is the ultimate goal in life.

Then they are bombarded again with more love stories that make it romantic to cheat on your spouse. Not just movies, but also smut novels.

Then Men get married to Women that kept nagging them to get married. They realize they really didn't want to settle and start fooling around with other women.
 
I actuallyr ead this article before I syumbled upon this thread. Alot of thoughts immediately stormed my brain... the first being... how pissed I was at the empowerment attitude taken by the women who wrote this article. Almost as if, we as the male gender deserve to be cheated on, because so many of us actually do cheat. Furthermore it went on to establish women as "victims of inattentive husbands" Which I think is a total crock of shzt. Cheating is bad on so many levels regardless of your situation... if you're that miserable with your marriage... get a divorce, and THEN sleep with whomever you want.

But then I went on to face my male frustration at the situation... having once been in an engagement that ended in her with another man... I am very paranoid as to the fidelity of the women I get involved with. This article brings home the fact that the odds of having a woman who cheats, are extremely good. This is a very disconcerting fact... maybe we need to face the possibility that trying to find a relationship built on fidelity, is futile effort. Which leads me to consider cheating on my current girlfriend.

Which led me to consider the female predicament... they've been dealing with this reality for a very very long time... and it all comes down to a single phrase: A Good Man is Hard to Find..... and the same is now true for us men... A Good Woman is Hard to Find.

Really nothing has changed... the dating/love game is the eternal search in the haystack... and thats just the way it is

-Max
 
i like how everyone jokes about it. i guess nobody cares if their wife or even girlfriend starts sleeping around with other men. its only one aspect of the new marriage "revolution" including divorce, same sex marriage, polygamy, infidelity etc.
 
Someone PLEASE explain to me how Gay marriages have anything to do with the Marital behavior of heterosexuals?... This is homophobic nonsense...

BESIDES Gay Marriages weren't legal over the last decade... which is when these statistics were recorded. So your claim is baseless, pointless, and bigotted.

-Max
 
I'm also sick of people saying that Monogomy is unnatural... fact is if you take a moment to really think about it... Human beings are much happier in monogomous relationships... if it were natural to be polygamous we wouldnt get the feelings of jealousy and attachment that are natural to human relationships. The fact is many people are too concerned with their immediate gratification, and thereby lack the ability to consider the long term results, and the pain they inevitably cause to their spouses.

Some marriages dont work... but those are marriages you need to end on a mutual basis, not by cheating.

-Max
 
Originally posted by: judasmachine
It's sad when people lie to their supposed best friend (read: spouse). But alas, we are animals and as such monogamy is the unnatural state.
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CONGRATZ YOU TEH BIOLAGY FAILUER
 
Originally posted by: Doboji
Someone PLEASE explain to me how Gay marriages have anything to do with the Marital behavior of heterosexuals?... This is homophobic nonsense...

BESIDES Gay Marriages weren't legal over the last decade... which is when these statistics were recorded. So your claim is baseless, pointless, and bigotted.

-Max
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Gopunk was being an asshole when he posted that. He didn't really mean it. Your sarcasm detector needs new batteries.
 
Originally posted by: RagingBITCH
B/C people rush into marriage too quickly.
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I'd be willing to bet the opposite is partly true.

I know a few people who have been arranged to be married and met on the altar. They are all still together. Reasons why I think marriages fail as opposed to arranged ones:

1. You already know the person. There is no excitement to the marriage. There is nothing to try to build. Arranged marriages are more of a challenge really.
2. In the arranged marriages it's not just guy marries girl, it's guy's family and girl's family marry each other. There's a whole ton of people offering support and pressure.
3. People are stupid.

I'm not advocating arranged marriage at all. I couldn't ever think of doing it, nor to I come from a culture that practises it. Just offering up some ideas.


But yeah, two noobs who just meet and think it'll be cool to get married (a la Britney and her friend) are the main ones skewing the stats.
 
Originally posted by: Doboji
Someone PLEASE explain to me how Gay marriages have anything to do with the Marital behavior of heterosexuals?... This is homophobic nonsense...

BESIDES Gay Marriages weren't legal over the last decade... which is when these statistics were recorded. So your claim is baseless, pointless, and bigotted.

-Max
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What I am thinking is these guys are going after the male spouses. So if they weren't married there be no infidelity I guess. Hey what they want to do in their bedroom is ok with me.

Still homosexual marriages only account for but a small portion of infidelity numbers.
 
Originally posted by: Marlin1975
Originally posted by: judasmachine
It's sad when people lie to their supposed best friend (read: spouse). But alas, we are animals and as such monogamy is the unnatural state.
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:roll:


monogamy is not unnatural. There are many other species that also follow monogomus relationships.
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Prove we are one of them. Seems the numbers just don't support it. Besides morals are a completely relative phenomenon.
 
People that claim it's natural to sleep around are the same people that won't take responsibility for any of their own problems. These are the people that grew up in a self-centered little world of their own and care nothing for other people's feelings. It's just another cop-out excuse. "It's not my fault I slept with him... it's nature". Just like people that use alcohol as an excuse to sleep around. "I couldn't help it.. .I was drunk". Yeah, whatever. Humans have a thing called 'willpower'. The difference is that some people are too selfish to care and would rather point the finger elsewhere than realize the fault is their own.
 
Originally posted by: DAGTA
People that claim it's natural to sleep around are the same people that won't take responsibility for any of their own problems. These are the people that grew up in a self-centered little world of their own and care nothing for other people's feelings. It's just another cop-out excuse. "It's not my fault I slept with him... it's nature". Just like people that use alcohol as an excuse to sleep around. "I couldn't help it.. .I was drunk". Yeah, whatever. Humans have a thing called 'willpower'. The difference is that some people are too selfish to care and would rather point the finger elsewhere than realize the fault is their own.
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well said 🙂
 
Originally posted by: Fingolfin269
I guess this begs the question... If your husband/wife cheated on you what would you do?

That's assuming you make it past the 'kill X' phase.
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My girlfriend would chop my genitalia off is she caught me and had a sharp object lying around...
 
Originally posted by: judasmachine
Originally posted by: Marlin1975
Originally posted by: judasmachine
It's sad when people lie to their supposed best friend (read: spouse). But alas, we are animals and as such monogamy is the unnatural state.
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:roll:


monogamy is not unnatural. There are many other species that also follow monogomus relationships.
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Prove we are one of them. Seems the numbers just don't support it. Besides morals are a completely relative phenomenon.
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I would say morals are simply guidelines which have progressively been warped and influenced by religion which serve to further the proliferation and suvival of the human race. If your really interested in discussing it, PM me. I prolly won't look at this thread again hehe.
 
Originally posted by: Fausto
"The New Infidelity" (Newsweek)

NEW YORK, July 4 /PRNewswire/ -- More married women are cheating on their spouses than ever before and the infidelity gender gap is almost certainly closing, report Contributing Editor Lorraine Ali and Senior Editor Lisa Miller in the July 12 Newsweek cover story (on newsstands Monday, July 5). It's hard to say for sure just how many married women are having sex with people who are not their husbands, because people lie to pollsters when they talk about sex, and studies vary wildly. (Men, not surprisingly, amplify their sexual experience, while women diminish it.) But couples therapists estimate that among their clientele, the number is close to 30 to 40 percent, compared with 50 percent of men.
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Discuss.
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Those rates are for couples who are in therapy, NOT for all married couples. Chances are that couples in therapy are couples with problems, and in such situations infidelity would be much higher. In fact, just a few lines below the ones you quote, it says that surveys given by the National Opinion Research Center at U of Chicago have returned results saying that 22 % of married men cheat, and about 15 % of married women cheat.

P.S., I didn't read through the whole thread, so if someone pointed this out, don't flame me too much 😛
 
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