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Current infidelity rates at 50% for men and 40% for women.

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Originally posted by: Fingolfin269
I guess this begs the question... If your husband/wife cheated on you what would you do?

That's assuming you make it past the 'kill X' phase.
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I would file for divorce right away. If you wait to long you really can?t use that when it comes time for her to steal everything you own. BUT if you file as soon as you know then that cuts the other person legs out and they will have little say to your property.
Once a cheater, always a cheater.
 
Originally posted by: Marlin1975
Originally posted by: Fingolfin269
I guess this begs the question... If your husband/wife cheated on you what would you do?

That's assuming you make it past the 'kill X' phase.
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I would file for divorce right away. If you wait to long you really can?t use that when it comes time for her to steal everything you own. BUT if you file as soon as you know then that cuts the other person legs out and they will have little say to your property.
Once a cheater, always a cheater.
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Yup, that's true I suppose, especially the last part. And if you know the last part is true then you might as well go through the divorce as soon as possible part.
 
Another possible factor - not really with morality at all, but how society changes...Back in the old days men and women worked and leisured in separate spheres. Now that there's more integration in work and play, it seems that the probability of cheating naturally goes up
 
Originally posted by: Eli
Well, in reality.. the idea of a monogamous relationship is driven by society, not genetics as is the case with some animals.

Sooo... It's probably only a matter of time before it's considered normal to sleep with anybody and everybody. 😛
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HAHAHAHA excellent... can't wait for that 😉
 
People reap what they sow.

Wife & I got together because of shared interests & to raise our children. No infidelity yet, (crosses fingers)

People get married for the wrong reasons, & fail to look to the future re their spending habits & behaviors.

I know a crapload of couples with $30K+ cars (gotta have that Lexus) on a 6 year note or worse paid for by refinancing their home & banditing their own equity, a 30 year mortgage that sucks up 50% of their after tax income, kids that are fat/lazy/spoiled/ignored, and no retirement savings.

They're freaking trapped & act out by fvcking someone else, thinking it'll help or ease the pain of being trapped.
 
Originally posted by: Eli
Well, in reality.. the idea of a monogamous relationship is driven by society, not genetics as is the case with some animals.

Sooo... It's probably only a matter of time before it's considered normal to sleep with anybody and everybody. 😛
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I think guys with small ones tend to be monogamous -- so genetics seem to be a factor in this case.
 
Originally posted by: StormRider
Originally posted by: Eli
Well, in reality.. the idea of a monogamous relationship is driven by society, not genetics as is the case with some animals.

Sooo... It's probably only a matter of time before it's considered normal to sleep with anybody and everybody. 😛
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I think guys with small ones tend to be monogamous -- so genetics seem to be a factor in this case.
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Dude, we don't want to know about your wang.

Ask most any woman.. it's not the size that matters, it's how you use it.

Besides, unless you've had your tongue cut out, you're still of some use.

😛
 
Originally posted by: Fingolfin269
I guess this begs the question... If your husband/wife cheated on you what would you do?

That's assuming you make it past the 'kill X' phase.
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Its actually funny you should ask that. Last night, before I went to bed I was reading an article on MSN called "Why wives stray". The article was informative, but its tone was not at all condemning of the practice and in my view, was justifying it and portraying it as normal. (Points like "Men always do it and have been getting away with it for ages!" and "Women are working harder than ever now, and men are sometimes to tired to perform" etc)

Anyway, while reading it a deep seated rage started to boil up in me. You know, that kind of rage that makes you wish there was something you could punch to fix the problem, even though that makes no sense at all. I did some other stuff and went to bed afterwards though, and didn't really think about it anymore.

Anyway, I ended up having a terrible nitemare about my girlfriend cheating on me. She'd never do this to me, but in the dream I had felt that way too. When it happened in the dream, I felt so crushed and helpless. I was swearing at her, trying to convince her to feel guilty about it, but knew things were over between us. I felt horrible and went into another room and started smashing things. I was just totally lost in what I was suppose to do from there.

Then I woke up. I've had dreams sort of like that before, and the only good part of them is waking up and realizing none of it ever happened. Because really, the only thing that would fix that for me would be for it to have never happened in the first place. I know it sounds pretty lame...but it really helps me remember to cherish what I have after I have one of those dreams.
 
Originally posted by: PingSpike
Originally posted by: Fingolfin269
I guess this begs the question... If your husband/wife cheated on you what would you do?

That's assuming you make it past the 'kill X' phase.
Click to expand...

Its actually funny you should ask that. Last night, before I went to bed I was reading an article on MSN called "Why wives stray". The article was informative, but its tone was not at all condemning of the practice and in my view, was justifying it and portraying it as normal. (Points like "Men always do it and have been getting away with it for ages!" and "Women are working harder than ever now, and men are sometimes to tired to perform" etc)

Anyway, while reading it a deep seated rage started to boil up in me. You know, that kind of rage that makes you wish there was something you could punch to fix the problem, even though that makes no sense at all. I did some other stuff and went to bed afterwards though, and didn't really think about it anymore.

Anyway, I ended up having a terrible nitemare about my girlfriend cheating on me. She'd never do this to me, but in the dream I had felt that way too. When it happened in the dream, I felt so crushed and helpless. I was swearing at her, trying to convince her to feel guilty about it, but knew things were over between us. I felt horrible and went into another room and started smashing things. I was just totally lost in what I was suppose to do from there.

Then I woke up. I've had dreams sort of like that before, and the only good part of them is waking up and realizing none of it ever happened. Because really, the only thing that would fix that for me would be for it to have never happened in the first place. I know it sounds pretty lame...but it really helps me remember to cherish what I have after I have one of those dreams.
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Sounds liek your girl is cheating on you, you know it but just don;t want to admit it and it is coming up in your dreams

Time to call "Cheaters" 😉 get joey on the case
 
Originally posted by: Marlin1975
Originally posted by: Fingolfin269
I guess this begs the question... If your husband/wife cheated on you what would you do?

That's assuming you make it past the 'kill X' phase.
Click to expand...


I would file for divorce right away. If you wait to long you really can?t use that when it comes time for her to steal everything you own. BUT if you file as soon as you know then that cuts the other person legs out and they will have little say to your property.
Once a cheater, always a cheater.
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Filing doesn't protect your property or anything other than notify the courts and named parties you'd like to be heard for a divorce. You can initiate a divorce and still lose miserably.

In joint assets the big misconception is many times both parties feel entitled to 100% of them or arbitrarily divide up the assets in a way that may be a 50/50 split on paper but clearly not a fair one.

If one's other cheats the first thing anyone should do is look at themselves as to if they were why. The funniest thing is those 'cheatees' that think they are Superman incarnate now and get not only cheated on, but beat into a stupor as well.

However, jealousy and insecurity prevail....yay!
 
Originally posted by: Fausto
Originally posted by: RagingBITCH
B/C people rush into marriage too quickly.
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Pretty much my opinion as well. I waited 6 years to propose after my wife and I started dating for that very reason.
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5 years before the question here. A buddy at work proposed after dating for less than 6 months. That's insane. You don't even begin to know someone until you have been in a relationship with them for at least a year.
 
Originally posted by: Eli
Originally posted by: Fausto
Originally posted by: RagingBITCH
B/C people rush into marriage too quickly.
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Pretty much my opinion as well. I waited 6 years to propose after my wife and I started dating for that very reason.
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Yeah, I'm sure that's quite a bit of it.

My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 years now, and we're basically engaged. We both know that we're going to marry eachother, and talk about it and stuff.. but we feel no rush, it'll happen when it happens, I guess.
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damn, your situation is scarily similar to mine. but yah i think it is just because people rush into marriage wayyyy too fast. already like 3 or my highschool friends (and i didnt have a lot of those😉) have tied the knot. hopefully they will beat the odds though
 
Originally posted by: alkemyst
Originally posted by: Marlin1975
Originally posted by: Fingolfin269
I guess this begs the question... If your husband/wife cheated on you what would you do?

That's assuming you make it past the 'kill X' phase.
Click to expand...


I would file for divorce right away. If you wait to long you really can?t use that when it comes time for her to steal everything you own. BUT if you file as soon as you know then that cuts the other person legs out and they will have little say to your property.
Once a cheater, always a cheater.
Click to expand...

Filing doesn't protect your property or anything other than notify the courts and named parties you'd like to be heard for a divorce. You can initiate a divorce and still lose miserably.

In joint assets the big misconception is many times both parties feel entitled to 100% of them or arbitrarily divide up the assets in a way that may be a 50/50 split on paper but clearly not a fair one.

If one's other cheats the first thing anyone should do is look at themselves as to if they were why. The funniest thing is those 'cheatees' that think they are Superman incarnate now and get not only cheated on, but beat into a stupor as well.

However, jealousy and insecurity prevail....yay!
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I think that is a copout train of thought started by most cheaters. Some people just want what they can't have. While others might not get enough sex at home. Nonetheless I don't see how it "forces" them to infidelity. I guess I always thought you just wait until you are at least separated before doing that... It sounds too weak otherwise "but I have NEEEEDS" is such a lame thing 😉
 
hmm... since more men seem to be unfaithful than women, makes me think that the women are a little hornier than the men, since they are each doing more than one man. Wives gone Wild!
 
Originally posted by: Kenazo
hmm... since more men seem to be unfaithful than women, makes me think that the women are a little hornier than the men, since they are each doing more than one man. Wives gone Wild!
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heh true true... most people read the statistics another way, but you hit the nail on the head 😉
 
Originally posted by: Skoorb
Originally posted by: jadinolf
I've often wondered how people even find the opportunity to engage in extramarital activities.
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Meeting people at work would be a good starting point.
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Oh, I know but getting together after work without wifey knowing would seem to be the hard part. Obviously it isn't.
 
Originally posted by: Kenazo
hmm... since more men seem to be unfaithful than women, makes me think that the women are a little hornier than the men, since they are each doing more than one man. Wives gone Wild!
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Fat men get more action than I do, but no chance for fat chicks
 
Infidelity is caused by degradation of a relationship. In most peoples cases, a couple can't build their relationship, let alone maintain one, because they are working so much 40 - 60 hrs/wk. While they are apart working, they are building relationships with other people which eventually led to affairs. Although I can't prove it, I am certain there is a correlation between hours worked and the divorce rate.
 
I think it's just another symptom of our throw-away society. Everything is disposable, everything is short use, and we've got ad firms slamming us constantly to get the next best thing. We've been indoctronated to think things should be quick and easy, and when they're not we drop it and move to the next best thing.
 
Originally posted by: KB
Infidelity is caused by degradation of a relationship. In most peoples cases, a couple can't build their relationship, let alone maintain one, because they are working so much 40 - 60 hrs/wk. While they are apart working, they are building relationships with other people which eventually led to affairs. Although I can't prove it, I am certain there is a correlation between hours worked and the divorce rate.
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http://www.worktolive.info/poen_time.html

The research tells us that the divorce rate is much higher among shift workers and spouses who work long hours.
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Originally posted by: Wuffsunie
I think it's just another symptom of our throw-away society. Everything is disposable, everything is short use, and we've got ad firms slamming us constantly to get the next best thing. We've been indoctronated to think things should be quick and easy, and when they're not we drop it and move to the next best thing.
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Exactly. People would do it with their poorly raised kids as well if they could get away with it.
 
Originally posted by: jadinolf
Originally posted by: Skoorb
Originally posted by: jadinolf
I've often wondered how people even find the opportunity to engage in extramarital activities.
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Meeting people at work would be a good starting point.
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Oh, I know but getting together after work without wifey knowing would seem to be the hard part. Obviously it isn't.
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"Staying late for work" or "Gotta go to the gym" or "Meeting the guys for a few beer". I'd guess these to be common approaches.
 
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