Curious as to how you would interpret this conversation:

[slsmnaz]

Originally posted by: zixxer

Originally posted by: slsmnaz
Can I ask what led you to read this conversation? Snooping, left IM open, etc?

Our mail server was rejecting aol mail, I logged onto her account to send a msg to myself.


That being said, part of it was snooping, past that point. However, I know that she regularly checks my facebook/email/myspace.. even so far as to (early in the relationship) putting a keylogger on her computer to get my passwords.


Not that it bothers me, I have nothing to hide.

And you don't care? Both of you seem to have some trust issues.

 

[zixxer]

Originally posted by: leftyman

Originally posted by: zixxer

Originally posted by: leftyman

Originally posted by: zixxer

Originally posted by: leftyman
thats your gf in the conversation?

..yeah

Does Megan know you know?

Yes.

I would think he is looking for an opportunity hook up.. her response was neutral and professional in my opinion.

It is frustrating to me, as I see the first email as a dating/personal/NON business related thing. Especially since the 18th was specifically mentioned. From that point it goes downhill.


I'm not sure how I can see something like this as being blatantly obvious. If I were to get this type of an email I would have responded with "sure.. my s/o and I could find someone to go as a group.. etc"

In other words, wouldn't have just accepted the offer without mentioning an S/O.

 

[zixxer]

Originally posted by: slsmnaz

Originally posted by: zixxer

Originally posted by: slsmnaz
Can I ask what led you to read this conversation? Snooping, left IM open, etc?

Our mail server was rejecting aol mail, I logged onto her account to send a msg to myself.


That being said, part of it was snooping, past that point. However, I know that she regularly checks my facebook/email/myspace.. even so far as to (early in the relationship) putting a keylogger on her computer to get my passwords.


Not that it bothers me, I have nothing to hide.

And you don't care? Both of you seem to have some trust issues.

Yes, we most definitely do.. and are both trying to work through them.

Edit:
I didn't care because she had somewhat of a reason to do that. We've both done things to violate each others trust in the past. None of this has happened in the past 4-5 months, as far as I'm aware. (however, I haven't been looking for it either.)

 

[Hammerhead]

Mike: OMGHi2U

Meagan: Um hello, who the hell are you?

Mike: buttsecs?

 

[zixxer]

edited

 

[leftyman]

Originally posted by: zixxer

Originally posted by: slsmnaz

Originally posted by: zixxer

Originally posted by: slsmnaz
Can I ask what led you to read this conversation? Snooping, left IM open, etc?

Our mail server was rejecting aol mail, I logged onto her account to send a msg to myself.


That being said, part of it was snooping, past that point. However, I know that she regularly checks my facebook/email/myspace.. even so far as to (early in the relationship) putting a keylogger on her computer to get my passwords.


Not that it bothers me, I have nothing to hide.

And you don't care? Both of you seem to have some trust issues.

Yes, we most definitely do.. and are both trying to work through them.

Has she done anything to cause you not to trust her? If not try trusting her.

 

[Aharami]

Originally posted by: zixxer

Originally posted by: Turin39789
So Mike is asking your Girlfriend to show him around the town/go on a date because they are in the same industry and she agreed?

I'd be wanting to go on that date myself. Are they going to be working at the same company? what kind of industry is this?

No they won't be at the same company. I can't say what industry, as it could give away who 'mike' and 'megan' are.

wth? how?

 

[zixxer]

Originally posted by: leftyman

Originally posted by: zixxer

Originally posted by: slsmnaz

Originally posted by: zixxer

Originally posted by: slsmnaz
Can I ask what led you to read this conversation? Snooping, left IM open, etc?

Our mail server was rejecting aol mail, I logged onto her account to send a msg to myself.


That being said, part of it was snooping, past that point. However, I know that she regularly checks my facebook/email/myspace.. even so far as to (early in the relationship) putting a keylogger on her computer to get my passwords.


Not that it bothers me, I have nothing to hide.

And you don't care? Both of you seem to have some trust issues.

Yes, we most definitely do.. and are both trying to work through them.

Has she done anything to cause you not to trust her? If not try trusting her.

Yes, she has. It's not that I don't trust her, it's that it seems like stuff like this comes up all the time. It seems like a never ending stream of random phone call late at night, or someone posting some crap on myspace/facebook who "doesn't mean anything by it" or she "doesn't know why he'd say that"

 

[zixxer]

Originally posted by: Aharami

Originally posted by: zixxer

Originally posted by: Turin39789
So Mike is asking your Girlfriend to show him around the town/go on a date because they are in the same industry and she agreed?

I'd be wanting to go on that date myself. Are they going to be working at the same company? what kind of industry is this?

No they won't be at the same company. I can't say what industry, as it could give away who 'mike' and 'megan' are.

wth? how?

small industry

 

[MmmSkyscraper]

This thread fails at the first hurdle.

 

[leftyman]

Originally posted by: zixxer

Yes, she has. It's not that I don't trust her, it's that it seems like stuff like this comes up all the time. It seems like a never ending stream of random phone call late at night, or someone posting some crap on myspace/facebook who "doesn't mean anything by it" or she "doesn't know why he'd say that"

do you think she is cheating on you?

 

[Mr Incognito]

Originally posted by: zixxer

Originally posted by: Mr Incognito

Originally posted by: rsd
Guy - Wants a "Date" type of Date
Girl - Being polite/friendly

Exactly, dude, let her show you around. You never know who you will meet at the bar or a club or through her. But it's pretty clear that she is off limits.

Is this who I think it is?

Are you talking to me specifically or the fact that we were onto the whole point of the thread. If the former, probably not, long time browser, quite a new poster. If it's the latter then I had no idea.

 

[zixxer]

Originally posted by: leftyman

Originally posted by: zixxer

Yes, she has. It's not that I don't trust her, it's that it seems like stuff like this comes up all the time. It seems like a never ending stream of random phone call late at night, or someone posting some crap on myspace/facebook who "doesn't mean anything by it" or she "doesn't know why he'd say that"

do you think she is cheating on you?

No, I don't.

I think I'm more concerned with her being incredibly naive towards some things. She's very intelligent, and blows me away with some of the stuff she says... which makes it hard for me to believe that to her, a guy is not interested until he actually whips it out and says "Ma'am, I'd like to insert my penis into you".. THEN she gets it.


We literally met, talked for an hour, hung out the next night for 6-7 hours talking BEFORE she brought up that she was with someone. Now, she said she wasn't happy, etc etc etc and ends up with me.


I think deep down, I'm concerned the same thing is going to happen, only I'm on the receiving end.

 

[leftyman]

Originally posted by: zixxer

Originally posted by: leftyman

Originally posted by: zixxer

Yes, she has. It's not that I don't trust her, it's that it seems like stuff like this comes up all the time. It seems like a never ending stream of random phone call late at night, or someone posting some crap on myspace/facebook who "doesn't mean anything by it" or she "doesn't know why he'd say that"

do you think she is cheating on you?

No, I don't.

I think I'm more concerned with her being incredibly naive towards some things. She's very intelligent, and blows me away with some of the stuff she says... which makes it hard for me to believe that to her, a guy is not interested until he actually whips it out and says "Ma'am, I'd like to insert my penis into you".. THEN she gets it.


We literally met, talked for an hour, hung out the next night for 6-7 hours talking BEFORE she brought up that she was with someone. Now, she said she wasn't happy, etc etc etc and ends up with me.


I think deep down, I'm concerned the same thing is going to happen, only I'm on the receiving end.

Trusting someone can be hard sometimes, however it isnt as hard as worrying all the time that the person is going to hurt you.

 

[TheFamilyMan]

Originally posted by: zixxer

Originally posted by: leftyman

Originally posted by: zixxer

Yes, she has. It's not that I don't trust her, it's that it seems like stuff like this comes up all the time. It seems like a never ending stream of random phone call late at night, or someone posting some crap on myspace/facebook who "doesn't mean anything by it" or she "doesn't know why he'd say that"

do you think she is cheating on you?

No, I don't.

I think I'm more concerned with her being incredibly naive towards some things. She's very intelligent, and blows me away with some of the stuff she says... which makes it hard for me to believe that to her, a guy is not interested until he actually whips it out and says "Ma'am, I'd like to insert my penis into you".. THEN she gets it.


We literally met, talked for an hour, hung out the next night for 6-7 hours talking BEFORE she brought up that she was with someone. Now, she said she wasn't happy, etc etc etc and ends up with me.


I think deep down, I'm concerned the same thing is going to happen, only I'm on the receiving end.

You are truly blind...your gf is absolutely cheating on you. Late-night phone calls that "don't mean anything", posts on myspace/facebook/et al that "don't mean anything" and now this e-mail string explicitly stating that she is arranging to meet someone she's never met before and specifically NOT inviting you. She is even open to going to a function as his date...

Get the hint...stop trying to justify her actions with "but she's oh so intelligent at so-and-so but oh so naieve about interpersonal relationships". If she's that naieve about interpersonal relationships, you need a smarter and more mature woman who would have recognized in a skinny minute that "Mike" was tossing out date-bombs.

 

[dainthomas]

Originally posted by: zixxer

Originally posted by: slsmnaz
Can I ask what led you to read this conversation? Snooping, left IM open, etc?

Our mail server was rejecting aol mail, I logged onto her account to send a msg to myself.


That being said, part of it was snooping, past that point. However, I know that she regularly checks my facebook/email/myspace.. even so far as to (early in the relationship) putting a keylogger on her computer to get my passwords.


Not that it bothers me, I have nothing to hide.

I'd permaban any chick who did that to me.

 

[Aikouka]

Originally posted by: Mr Incognito
Are you talking to me specifically or the fact that we were onto the whole point of the thread. If the former, probably not, long time browser, quite a new poster. If it's the latter then I had no idea.

He's probably confused because you were acting like he's asking for advice on whether or not he should try to date this girl, when the girl in question is his girlfriend and someone else is sending these messages.

EDIT:

Oh and dude, your girlfriend sounds like me. My cousin used to say this to me, "Will, you're book smart but you got no common sense." Mmm he was pretty much right and it sounds like your girlfriend might be like that too :laugh:.

 

[hanoverphist]

Originally posted by: leftyman

Originally posted by: zixxer

Originally posted by: leftyman
thats your gf in the conversation?

..yeah

Does Megan know you know?

same thing i was thinking. you stated you "found" this on the computer, does she know you have seen it? did she bring it to your attention? it could be all coded responses and such from one of those online swinger services (yes, im very cynical and untrusting that way), or it could be one of her contacts (networking) that she owes a favor to, and will pass this guy on to other contacts in the field they work in. if she hasnt mentioned it to you at all and is going to take this guy out on the town, id be leery either way. she doesnt seem very trustworthy if you didnt hear this all from her.


just my opinion tho.

 

[Farang]

If a girl doesn't mention a boyfriend relatively soon, she is fair game. She either doesn't care about the boyfriend or is single. That is the universal indicator of "I'm off limits," she your girlfriend didn't give it.

Also you're in denial. Whether she has bad intentions or not you're making silly excuses for her behavior and need to take a step back to assess the situation.

 

[zixxer]

Originally posted by: Farang
If a girl doesn't mention a boyfriend relatively soon, she is fair game. She either doesn't care about the boyfriend or is single. That is the universal indicator of "I'm off limits," she your girlfriend didn't give it.

Also you're in denial. Whether she has bad intentions or not you're making silly excuses for her behavior and need to take a step back to assess the situation.

That is my point absolutely 100%. When I am in a relationship, my s/o is brought up (even as a subtle hint) within the first 60 seconds of conversation... and it is like that with most people. I think normally it is a sub-conscious thing that just 'happens'.

 

[jdini76]

Originally posted by: zixxer
Megan;

Great! It's a date My first...

This guys sounds like he is as smooth as some of the guys on this forum!

 

[brandonbull]

Originally posted by: leftyman
whats fun to do in XXXX ? hows the weather there?

I hear it's XXXXcellent this time of the year.

 

[Mardeth]

Your gf is xxxxx. What you need to do is xxxxxx. And btw, my 8 supermodels sisters need to lose their virginity, interested? Call me, my number is xxxxxxxxxx.

 

[Farang]

Originally posted by: Mardeth
Your gf is xxxxx. What you need to do is xxxxxx. And btw, my 8 supermodels sisters need to lose their virginity, interested? Call me, my number is xxxxxxxxxx.

YOUR NUMBER IS FILTERED OUT FOR THE LOVE OF GOD GET PAST THE FILTERS... WHAT IS THE NUMBER??!?!?! WHAT IS THE NUMBER!?!!

 

[AUMM]

Originally posted by: zixxer

Originally posted by: leftyman

Originally posted by: zixxer

Originally posted by: leftyman

Originally posted by: zixxer

Originally posted by: leftyman
thats your gf in the conversation?

..yeah

Does Megan know you know?

Yes.

I would think he is looking for an opportunity hook up.. her response was neutral and professional in my opinion.

It is frustrating to me, as I see the first email as a dating/personal/NON business related thing. Especially since the 18th was specifically mentioned. From that point it goes downhill.


I'm not sure how I can see something like this as being blatantly obvious. If I were to get this type of an email I would have responded with "sure.. my s/o and I could find someone to go as a group.. etc"

In other words, wouldn't have just accepted the offer without mentioning an S/O.

Her intentions seem harmless... but it sounds like the guy is wanting more (date?) .... has your gf mentioned that she'll be hanging out with this guy on that date yet?