Curious about condoms

[Jules]

Originally posted by: n7
This is gonna sound insane, but i didn't mind wearing a condom at all w/ my ex. It helped me keep going for a while...
Truth be told, either i get too excitied too fast, or she was good, because no condom = me reaching point of no return far too fast.

That being said, she did much prefer no condom to one, which is interesting, since everyone's comments here are basically vice versa.

Im gonna have to agree with you.

 

[Jahee]

1. Does it reduce pleasure?

Yea

2. If it does, is it noticeable?

Yea, but it depends on the brand.. Some cheapo brands are really ******, but the durex ones are generally quite good

3. If it really does, is it bad enough to *really* desire not to wear one?

Sometimes, it depends on the brand again. For me though its not the fact your wearing one, just the fact theres something getting in the way of things, like a barrier!

4. Is the pull-out method really as ineffective as people say it is? (I'm guessing so since it's criticized so much)

Yea

5. Is the rumor true that it is more painful for a virgin female if the male has a condom on?

Well i would think no, because girls are usually nervous the first time and arent as wet as could be, so the lubricant on it could actually help

 

[Soccerman06]

To number 5, I can definitively say it hurts them a lot more than without one simply cause the lube doesnt do enough. Moreso, the pain is from actual insertion cause well they arent ready for it, just like anal for the first time. They may confuse the insertion pain with the condom pain so 🙂

Condoms work for not havin kids, but its so much more fun/enjoyable with the pill, plus cleanup is a hella ton easier, well not after your 5th round 😉

 

[Exterous]

To add to #5 - my wife and I haven't found a condom yet that doesn't hurt her after about 20-25 minutes and thats after using lube. Just something about they way she is built. Fortunately we believe in the no-baby-pill so I rarely have to wrap it anymore

 

[doze]

1 yes

2 yes

3 not unless you dont care about having kids or catching a disease

4 pullout is not effective at all because men release small amounts of sperm before they cum, and it just takes 1

5 no idea

 

[Maximilian]

Originally posted by: thecoolnessrune
Alright, Im 17, and Im a virgin. I intend to keep it that way till marriage. That's not the issue here I'm just getting it out of the way 😛

To those men who have had sex both with and without a condom, what I want to know is:

1. Does it reduce pleasure?

2. If it does, is it noticeable?

3. If it really does, is it bad enough to *really* desire not to wear one?

4. Is the pull-out method really as ineffective as people say it is? (I'm guessing so since it's criticized so much)

5. Is the rumor true that it is more painful for a virgin female if the male has a condom on?

Once again guys, this is a *serious* conversation to someone who just wants some answers from people who have done it, not from the teen virgin who says hes gotten laid 10 times this past week..

1. Does it reduce pleasure? - A bit

2. If it does, is it noticeable? - Not really, depends on the person just like the above question.

3. If it really does, is it bad enough to *really* desire not to wear one? - Nope, i dont hate wearing one its fine.

4. Is the pull-out method really as ineffective as people say it is? (I'm guessing so since it's criticized so much) - Hell yes heh, because half the time you really really wont wanna pull out. I only did that once, it sucked, worked though. Also apparently precum contains sperm and yada yada you know where that leads.

5. Is the rumor true that it is more painful for a virgin female if the male has a condom on? - Never heard that rumor, but i dont see how it could be more painful.

 

[shortylickens]

Originally posted by: thecoolnessrune
Alright, Im 17, and Im a virgin. I intend to keep it that way till marriage. That's not the issue here I'm just getting it out of the way 😛

To those men who have had sex both with and without a condom, what I want to know is:

1. Does it reduce pleasure?

2. If it does, is it noticeable?

3. If it really does, is it bad enough to *really* desire not to wear one?

4. Is the pull-out method really as ineffective as people say it is? (I'm guessing so since it's criticized so much)

5. Is the rumor true that it is more painful for a virgin female if the male has a condom on?

Once again guys, this is a *serious* conversation to someone who just wants some answers from people who have done it, not from the teen virgin who says hes gotten laid 10 times this past week..

1. For a guy, it sure seems to. I have used all kinds, thick, thin, lambskin, poly and latex. For me, I much prefer uncovered, but I have only been with one girl were I felt safe doing that. It was excellent, but I havent yet trusted another gal that much.
For women, it seems to make no difference. This is from talking to all the women I have slept with and many women who were just pals. They seem to get equal pleasure at all times.

3. A lot of guys and gals will come up with all sorts of reasons to not wear condoms. If you even have to question whether or not you should use one with a specific partner, then YOU NEED IT! Always err on the side of safety and health.

4. Pull out is horrible. Every state that has some sort of sex ed program strongly discourages it. If you're 17 and have to ask then I can only assume you have had NO sex ed in school. Its not wise to try. Use condoms or wait for marriage.

5. The pain relative to the womans tightness and lubrication, also fear and stress have a lot to do with it.
A lubricated condom makes it easier and adding KY is also recommended, especially for young gals with limited or no experience. It makes everything go a lot smoother (no pun intended).


A personal note: Dont get all hung up on the idea that marriage is sacred or that sex is automatically magical and special in a marriage. That kind of thinking is practically archaic in this day and age.
Have sex (safely) whenever you feel ready for it. Having it way too early or way too late is only going to cause psychological problems. Go to any bookstore and you can read literally hundred of books on sexual dysfunction. In fact books are still the best place to learn about anything, especially something as potentially dangerous as sex.
Try to avoid learning from your teenage friends.
Would you wanna learn how to fly from some guy thats still in flight school or from a 60 year-old with a hundred thousand flight hours?
READ!

 

[thecoolnessrune]

Thank you everyone, I suppose I'll clear a few things up.

1. I homeschool. (I think that is known now 😛)

2. I live with my grandparents.

3. No, no sex-ed, My knowledge is all self-taught.

I know plenty about sex, yes. But I just wanted to be specifically told about what I posted. Of course the sites telling you should always should use protection talk about how "You'll never even know it's on" which I knew was a load of bull 😛

I wanted to know exactly *how* much of a difference it made. Now I know and I thank you all for your responses.

 

[Scarpozzi]

Originally posted by: thecoolnessrune
Alright, Im 17, and Im a virgin. I intend to keep it that way till marriage. That's not the issue here I'm just getting it out of the way 😛

To those men who have had sex both with and without a condom, what I want to know is:

1. Does it reduce pleasure?

***Yes and no. You can still finish your business, but half of doing it is mental. Knowing the physics of what's going on is pretty big.

2. If it does, is it noticeable?

***It depends on whether or not a claymore injured your gear earlier in your life.

3. If it really does, is it bad enough to *really* desire not to wear one?

***No one wants to wear one...except the premature ejaculators.

4. Is the pull-out method really as ineffective as people say it is? (I'm guessing so since it's criticized so much)

***It is effective, but there is too much room for error and chance. I know two newly married couples that used the pull out method and it took both of them approximately 2 months each to tell me the exciting news that they're pregnant. I'm sure it only took about 5-10 times for them to screw up once.

5. Is the rumor true that it is more painful for a virgin female if the male has a condom on?
***Use more lube. It's going to be painful for her just to stretch out. She doesn't need additional friction. However, she may be loose and wet to start with...you never know. Everyone is different and some girls are just bigger downstairs. Birth Control often has a side affect of vaginal dryness, so be sure to use foreplay often and spit always works as a lubricant if you can't get any astroglide.

Once again guys, this is a *serious* conversation to someone who just wants some answers from people who have done it, not from the teen virgin who says hes gotten laid 10 times this past week..

 

[chris7b]

Originally posted by: Soviet

Originally posted by: thecoolnessrune
Alright, Im 17, and Im a virgin. I intend to keep it that way till marriage. That's not the issue here I'm just getting it out of the way 😛

To those men who have had sex both with and without a condom, what I want to know is:

1. Does it reduce pleasure?

2. If it does, is it noticeable?

3. If it really does, is it bad enough to *really* desire not to wear one?

4. Is the pull-out method really as ineffective as people say it is? (I'm guessing so since it's criticized so much)

5. Is the rumor true that it is more painful for a virgin female if the male has a condom on?

Once again guys, this is a *serious* conversation to someone who just wants some answers from people who have done it, not from the teen virgin who says hes gotten laid 10 times this past week..

1. Does it reduce pleasure? - A bit

2. If it does, is it noticeable? - Not really, depends on the person just like the above question.

3. If it really does, is it bad enough to *really* desire not to wear one? - Nope, i dont hate wearing one its fine.

4. Is the pull-out method really as ineffective as people say it is? (I'm guessing so since it's criticized so much) - Hell yes heh, because half the time you really really wont wanna pull out. I only did that once, it sucked, worked though. Also apparently precum contains sperm and yada yada you know where that leads.

5. Is the rumor true that it is more painful for a virgin female if the male has a condom on? - Never heard that rumor, but i dont see how it could be more painful.

Glad i'm not the only one who thinks they don't make too much difference in sensation. Nor do I have much problems putting them on or maintaining erection while putting them on.

 

[Scarpozzi]

Glad i'm not the only one who thinks they don't make too much difference in sensation. Nor do I have much problems putting them on or maintaining erection while putting them on.[/quote]
The only time I don't like them is after the 5th or 6th time in one night. If you go for a marathon, they start to rub and it can be quite painful. The other thing is that during that kind of action, it's sometimes hard to maintain a solid erection anyhow....so they tend to cause some problems there. For most normal occasions, they're fine and they certainly serve a valuable purpose.

 

[b0mbrman]

Originally posted by: thecoolnessrune

1. Does it reduce pleasure?

2. If it does, is it noticeable?

3. If it really does, is it bad enough to *really* desire not to wear one?

4. Is the pull-out method really as ineffective as people say it is? (I'm guessing so since it's criticized so much)

5. Is the rumor true that it is more painful for a virgin female if the male has a condom on?

1) Yes
2) Yes
3) No, unless it's a long-term relationship and then it is. I don't have many random partners so this hasn't been much of an issue
4) I'm no scientist, nor have I collected statistics about it. This also doesn't take into account STDs. No level of skill in pulling out helps prevent those
5) I can't see why it would be. Condoms come pre-lubed

 

[b0mbrman]

Originally posted by: mrkun

Originally posted by: QueBert
5. depends greatly on the girl, my GF has some sort of nasty reaction to laytex, so condoms really do a number on her.

The two of you are aware of polyurethane condoms, correct?

...or lamb skin

 

[allisolm]

Originally posted by: thecoolnessrune
I have no intention of sex till marriage (Yes, I'm human and I realize I could make a mistake... that's why I said *intention*).

Sooo.. to have it all one of us needs to get a vasectomy.. Eh.. kinda extreme considering a want a kid at some point. (No, I don't believe in BCP's, don't ask, it's not a topic I'm willing to discuss 😛)

If more than one of you in the relationship can get a vasectomy, you don't have to worry about babies at all. 🙂

There are condoms (male and female), diaphragms, IUDs, spermicides, rhythm method, cervical caps, sponge and maybe some I'm missing which would fit your requirements for birth control methods.

 

[shortylickens]

Originally posted by: thecoolnessrune
Thank you everyone, I suppose I'll clear a few things up.
1. I homeschool. (I think that is known now 😛)
2. I live with my grandparents.
3. No, no sex-ed, My knowledge is all self-taught.
I know plenty about sex, yes. But I just wanted to be specifically told about what I posted. Of course the sites telling you should always should use protection talk about how "You'll never even know it's on" which I knew was a load of bull 😛
I wanted to know exactly *how* much of a difference it made. Now I know and I thank you all for your responses.

Ummmm, no dude. You do not know plenty about sex. Am not trying to insult you and I can certainly understand you not wanting to admit to the ignorance, but there is no shame in it.
You dont know as much as the average 12 year old who has had a regular public education. And any 17 year old who says he knows plenty just makes me want to laugh, but again, not in an insulting manner.
I still have to encourage you to get out and read, a lot. You are so far in the dark you dont even have a clue what you are missing.

NOT that I am super-sexually enlightened or anything, but after travelling around the world and reading many books I have a pretty fair idea of exactly what my current knowledge level is and where and what I have to research.

As an example, I currently have about 7 general sex guides and another 4 massage guides of an erotic and general nature.
That doesnt include all the neat little books I've read and given away to girls over the years as encouragement to them. Most of those ladies were real glad to learn more and expand their horizons. As a result, we each have a lot more fun.

If you really want to open your mind I highly suggest you travel around Europe for a few years. That can be a lot more productive and fun than just reading American books and practicing with American women.

 

[Evadman]

I'll just make this quick because I don't want to type up a dissertation. Wear a condom. You as the guy have all responsibility in society to not get a girl pregnant. It will reduce the feeling, which in a lot of cases is just fine because it means you can go longer. (Ladies love that 🙂) The major downs are that there are some people (guys and girls) that are allergic to latex. There are special condoms if that is an issue.

I have never heard the that it is more painful for a virgin female if the male has a condom on. I had sex with one virgin, and wore a condom. Since I haven't had sex with a virgin without one, I can't answer your question from my Point of view, but I am sure there are offical studies somewhere. To me, that rumor sounds like an excuse to do it without a condom, which is utter bullcrap.

 

[QueBert]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: QueBert

Originally posted by: thecoolnessrune
Alright, Im 17, and Im a virgin. I intend to keep it that way till marriage. That's not the issue here I'm just getting it out of the way 😛

To those men who have had sex both with and without a condom, what I want to know is:

1. Does it reduce pleasure?

2. If it does, is it noticeable?

3. If it really does, is it bad enough to *really* desire not to wear one?

4. Is the pull-out method really as ineffective as people say it is? (I'm guessing so since it's criticized so much)

5. Is the rumor true that it is more painful for a virgin female if the male has a condom on?

Once again guys, this is a *serious* conversation to someone who just wants some answers from people who have done it, not from the teen virgin who says hes gotten laid 10 times this past week..

1. yes, amount depends on the type of condom used. I'll be honest I'm NOT always a super stud in bed, so sometimes less sensation is a good thing! (keeps me going)

2. I'll reply - at first, but it's like drinking beer, if you have enough weather it's Natural Ice, or Newcastle the end result is still the same. And half way thru you'll likely forget you're drinking a crappy Natural Ice - uhh sorry for the crappy analogy haha

3. Wearing a comdom is very unnatural, I don't see how any man can think other wise. For me, I use to have a b!tch of a time getting them on, I'd loose my ummm uhhh... you know, interest? haha, it was hard for awhile (no pun) to wear a condom and actually do the deed.

4. Anyone who uses it as a real method has issues, not to mention probably 4 or 5 kids.

5. depends greatly on the girl, my GF has some sort of nasty reaction to laytex, so condoms really do a number on her. With a good lubricated one, I don't think the female should notice. Of course since every woman is different and it's impossible for one female to experience both condom and non condom her first time, I dunno here...

Man, I really appreciate the honesty in your post. Kudos to having a healthy enough self esteem to post what you did.

Yes, "less sensation" can be a good thing sometimes...

exacty! Also the ones I used "twisted sensation" had some sort of twisty textured tip which really did something for my lady. My loss of sensation was maybe 5-10% (if you could measure it haaha) And she gained about 50% more from it.

I know what I said made it seem like I'm almost against condoms, I am not. I don't use them with my lady because she is fixed and uhhh even after over 15 years of having sex, I still seem to be unable to put them on correctly, so usually a couple go to waste.

Also nothing kills the mood more than having your woman all hot and ready, and she has to wait 2 minutes while you're (me) ignorant ass can't not put the condom on inside out.

A good pointer to bring up to the OP regarding sex, a lot of females are not like most men, where a man can pretty much make himself be in the mood instantly A woman can loose interest very easy, and once that happens you're probably gonna be in the bathroom doing the deed solo because she no longer wants sex 🙂

 

[QueBert]

Originally posted by: Exterous
To add to #5 - my wife and I haven't found a condom yet that doesn't hurt her after about 20-25 minutes and thats after using lube. Just something about they way she is built. Fortunately we believe in the no-baby-pill so I rarely have to wrap it anymore

20-25 minutes, Jesus what are you a machine!? To the OP - this is not typical I don't care what any man says. I'm NOT calling Exterous a liar, there are men who can perform for a long time. But please OP understand he's not the norm 😉

I will be honest there have been times where I went 20, 30, even 45 minutes. It's not easy, I usually try counting from 0-100 then back down and keep doing it. Keeps my mind off sex somewhat and gives me a goal.

 

[50cent1228]

Originally posted by: Fmr12B
1. Does it reduce pleasure? Hell Yes, by a huge amount

2. If it does, is it noticeable? See Above

3. If it really does, is it bad enough to *really* desire not to wear one? I have no desire to ever wear one but I'd rather not die from AIDS or knock some chick up

4. Is the pull-out method really as ineffective as people say it is? (I'm guessing so since it's criticized so much) Yes, it's called pre-cum

5. Is the rumor true that it is more painful for a virgin female if the male has a condom on? Not real sure on this one but my opinion would be yes as condoms are rather dry and friction is more thank skin on skin. Plenty of lube should solve that problem but I doubt a virgin female wants some Astro Glide on her cooch the first time she gets plowed

looks about rite

 

[NogginBoink]

To echo the other replies...

1. Yes
2. Yes
3. Yes
4. Yes... don't even try this!
5. No (at least not if you're male)

Condoms do reduce the pleasure of sex, and given the choice, I'd prefer no condom by a WIDE margin.

However, the risks of not using a condom are great enough that, were I in that situation again (I'm married and won't find myself there again), I'd absolutely wear a condom.