Cremation incident in restaurant – Over Reacted?

[Raizinman]

We went last night to Applebee’s restaurant. In the booth next to us there was a group of 4 people. They were talking about the urn they brought into the restaurant with them sitting on the table, which was the remains of their mother. My wife and I got quiet and started listening carefully after we overheard that. Seems their mother just died and they were taking her, in the urn to some of her favorite places before the internment. My wife and I found the idea of a cremated body in the next booth both ghoulish and a violation of the health code. We called the manager over and asked him to enquire about it. He did, and they were very forthright and said exactly what we overheard that they were taking their cremated mother who recently died out to some of her favorite places. The manager told them that they could not bring cremated ashes into an eating establishment as it violates health code rules. The group left, with the urn. We met another couple for dinner and debated most the night about this issue. Does anyone else have an issue with eating next to a dead body in an urn or do people regularly take their cremated ashes with them to restaurants?

 

[SlickSnake]

Gross, and I hope not. I don't want to dine with the dead unless I'm a zombie.

I also hate it when people dump them into rivers and lakes people might drink from. The ocean is one thing, but you better not do that in MY water supply. Good thing I drink well water.

 

[Jimmah]

That was a douche move on you and your wife's part, you just had to fuck things up for those folks.

If I were the manager I would've told you uptight assholes to leave.

 

[novasatori]

obviously you over reacted

 

[GregGreen]

I would go with overreacting. Yes, it is a bit weird but it's not like they were going to sprinkle the ashes in your cocktails or over your food.

Also, you shouldn't eavesdrop. *scolds*

 

[chalmers]

I think you overreacted a bit. I can see both sides of that situation though. I wouldn't have said anything.

 

[SlickSnake]

I don't think he overreacted at all, frankly. If they sat there and ate and shut up about the urn, most likely nobody would have noticed it at all. But they instead chose to involve all the nearby diners in the ghoulish ritual they were observing, which was pretty inconsiderate to begin with. I'm sure they were going on and on about their dead mom, so overhearing them talking about it and getting sick of hearing about it wasn't too hard to imagine, either. This is OBVIOUSLY not appropriate dinner talk, but some stupid and inconsiderate people will literally talk about anything in a restaurant, with no concerns at all about others grossing out or overhearing their comments.

And they had no rational reason to lug the urn in there in the first place. Sounds like something 18 year old Emo Goths would do just to piss people off and record it for LOL on youtube.

 

[Punter]

People are everywhere with cremains in their jewelery these days. You better just stay home to be safe.

 

[Newbian]

Maybe they were going to mix it in with the milk.

 

[Anubis]

That was a douche move on you and your wife's part, you just had to fuck things up for those folks.

If I were the manager I would've told you uptight assholes to leave.

i agree with this one

 

[ch33zw1z]

Sheesh, it's just ashes.

 

[SlickSnake]

That was a douche move on you and your wife's part, you just had to fuck things up for those folks.

If I were the manager I would've told you uptight assholes to leave.

Nice way to empty out your restaurant, Mr. Manager. I'm sure others nearby would have left if you said that, too. But then, that's why they don't allow 12 year olds to manage a restaurant.

 

[Inspector Jihad]

Gross, and I hope not. I don't want to dine with the dead unless I'm a zombie.

I also hate it when people dump them into rivers and lakes people might drink from. The ocean is one thing, but you better not do that in MY water supply. Good thing I drink well water.

its a pile of ash...no different than some dirt people drag in with their shoes. they weren't gonna start throwing it around. it was definitely a dick move.

 

[Arcadio]

That was a douche move on you and your wife's part, you just had to fuck things up for those folks.

If I were the manager I would've told you uptight assholes to leave.

This. Definitely.

 

[PottedMeat]

srs post?

Gross, and I hope not. I don't want to dine with the dead unless I'm a zombie.

I also hate it when people dump them into rivers and lakes people might drink from. The ocean is one thing, but you better not do that in MY water supply. Good thing I drink well water.

yes because everyone knows tap water comes to a home directly from a pipe stuck in a lake

 

[SlickSnake]

People are everywhere with cremains in their jewelery these days. You better just stay home to be safe.

Naive response. If it was done in jewelry, the novelty would have already worn off, and the difference is a giant gold urn sitting in the center of the table with people gawking and talking about it.

 

[SlickSnake]

This. Definitely.

Really? And calculus makes you horny? Another failed restaurant manager for sure.

 

[lxskllr]

its a pile of ash...no different than some dirt people drag in with their shoes. they weren't gonna start throwing it around. it was definitely a dick move.

No shit. A bunch of fuckin' pansy boys here. I'd eat a spoonful of the ashes if you bought me dinner there. It's fuckin' ashes. Guess what geniuses? It's made from the exact same shit your food is. If fact, you eat dead things every day. Yea, even you vegans. You've all eaten dead people.

Christ, people can't think anymore. No wonder our country's going to shit :^S

 

[wwswimming]

The group left, with the urn. We met another couple for dinner and debated most the night about this issue. Does anyone else have an issue with eating next to a dead body in an urn or do people regularly take their cremated ashes with them to restaurants?

i can see that it would seem un-appealing, but it is not much different chemically than a bag of sand. a human body subjected to a natural gas fire until only ashes are left ?

besides being a big WASTE OF ENERGY (separate subject), there is ZERO health risk from the ashes.

but, i can see it would "seem gross".

personally, i would have let them mourn their mother, without interfering.

as far as dumping ashes in the ocean - again, it's fertilizer quality ash. the algae like it. no bacteria survive the cremation. there is no legit sanitary concern.

on the other hand, what are you going to do with the ashes of a loved one ? keep it on the mantle ? take it to the movies ?

The Closer did an episode on the subject. actually made it funny too.

 

[Cuda1447]

I agree with overreacting. It's really not that gross. It was covered and not going to contaminate anything. Hell the germs on your hands or on the money put on the table are probably more of a health risk than these ashes.

It's also not a 'ghoulish ritual' as one person mentioned. Its fairly normal. You may not agree with it, but I find it hard to believe anyone would be grossed out by it to the point they couldn't eat. It's not exactly disgusting and frankly, I don't find talking about their dead mother over dinner to be inappropriate at all. They are remembering her. It's not like they were talking about giant vaginas or something.


Some people are extremely uptight.

 

[SlickSnake]

 

[PottedMeat]

I'd eat a spoonful of the ashes if you bought me dinner there.

but would you snort them if offered? maybe mixed with a little cocaine to ease it in?

 

[tfinch2]

Link that shows it is a violation of health code?

There is less bacteria in the ashes than the shitty Applebee's food you were eating.

 

[lxskllr]

but would you snort them if offered? maybe mixed with a little cocaine to ease it in?

I'd snort a small amount. That's even easier than eating; no coke though. Coke's a lame assed cheesball drug. :^D

 

[Number1]

You're a douche bag.

As if the ashes were somehow going to end up in your food..

Common sense wasn't invented when you were born wast it?