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could use some general girl "shoots you down" advice

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Originally posted by: warpigeon
" I'm not ready to date anyone at this point". Or something like that (referring to a messy breakup she recently had). Christ, this girl sent me all types of messages that she was interested (although not blatant ones). Anyway time to move on, right?

Would love to get her out of my mind.
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playboy magazines never say "no"
 
This might not be the most popular advice, but in general be much more aggressive.

Random examples.

Example A: "Want to go have a drink, pretty please with sugar on top.....come on....."
Example B: "You know what, I'd love to have some drinks with you tonight, 9pm good for you?...I'll pick you up, it'll be fun"

In example "A", you are asking a question and putting her on the spot to make the decision....heck, you're almost begging her to give you the time of day. In example "B" by contrast you are telling her, therefore she is not 'on the spot' to make a decision. Of course at the same time you should try to exhibit confident body langauge.....for example dont cross your arms, dont look down when you ask, dont rub your hands together and make any nervous gestures.....in short try not to look timid or nervous.....just be very confident, even if you are nervous as heck inside (and we've all been in this position) at least give the illusion of confidence. Also you could try to have some body contact when you ask, like your hand on her arm above her elbow (this generally makes a person feel more at ease).

When it comes to this girl, she was looking for you to be 'in charge', and when you didnt she took a timid uncomfortable lead. She should never have been in that position, imo....as it was an awkward one for her. When you didnt respond she likely went through an entire line of thinking "what am I doing here with this guy"....and she probably told all her friends about what happened and they analyzed it from here to kingdom come. Bad move for you......dont give her time to think and analyze everything, hold her tight and carry her off and show her a good time. Being timid is not an attractive quality in a male.

Ok, I realize this may be unpopular advice, being that it is not entirely 'politically correct' in this day and age where everyone seems to be walking on egg shells to give the pretense of gender equality.....never-the-less, I stand by it. Good luck.

 
Originally posted by: IeraseU
Ok, I realize this may be unpopular advice, being that it is not entirely 'politically correct' in this day and age where everyone seems to be walking on egg shells to give the pretense of gender equality.....never-the-less, I stand by it. Good luck.
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Screw being popular. It is the straight up truth. They want to be lead.
 
1) she gave you three "I want you to fvck me" signals..
2) you pussed out each and everytime
3) she said "fvck this loser..I need a man that wants to f***"
 
dude your a dumbass seriously........she was blatantly looking for a rebound hook up wit hno strings and you had to go and get all emotional about it.........just give her what she wants next time.
 
Originally posted by: warpigeon
Originally posted by: Tig Ol Bitties
Sounds to me that she is attention hungry, since she no longer gets it from that ex, she looks for it somewhere else and it turned out to be you. Its kind of like a reminder to herself that she is wanted somehow, so yea...she probably got issues that you probably wont want to deal with...move on and away from the mess
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Sorry to bring this up again but this point may be right on the mark. Why am i tempted to save face by using this nugget? Why do i feel the need to save face at all? I should just let it all go, more fish in the sea etc.... right? I admire guys that can be shot down and get up, unscathed, to go after the next one.
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Your tempted because you're angry that she led you on, only to shut you down with that whole ex-bf stuff. Its like building up your emotions to the point where you're quite happy, and then all of sudden you're slapped in the face bringing you down to a low point and you don't want to admit that you've been "had". I can tell that you're a romantic type and would want a relationship, as I am myself. Not that there's anything wrong with the responses in here telling to "tap that ass" or go fvck something else, but that doesnt seem your personality.

Personally, you should scratch any thought that she ever was relationship material because she's not going to be for a while. Doing anything with her right now would make her feel like she can confide in you afterwards and bombard you with her problems you don't want to hear about, unless you really do want her to confide in you, but even so, these are issues she needs to sort out herself. She may have just wanted to be your "fvck buddy" for the night, but no good comes from it AFTERWARDS because her feelings and state of mind probably wont change and yours probably will build from it only to be shot down again when she brings up her ex-bf again.

If you want that emotional rollercoater then by all means follow everyones advice and screw her. But you can't fvck this other person out of her life contrary to what people may think. Forums are a perfect place to whack off the e-penis and have everyone believe that you would "tap that ass" and be the "super sperm" that no woman could resist just because you can say it hiding behind the computer. Here's an advice, dont expect sh1t from her and date other people, preferably someone with a "clean slate" if you really do want a relationship. By the time shes over that other guy and IF you two happen to come to find each other again later on down the road and liking each other, then hey, maybe it worked out for the better. But you should pull her off the radar right now if you're looking for a relationship no matter what. If you do chose to tap that ass, just know theres a difference between a clear minded fvck buddy and one with these kinds of problems in her life. The difference is shes probably gonna bring up these problems again and its whether you wanna deal with it or not.
 
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