So this has become a complete cluster f...
... is why I never let anyone touch my vehicles. No matter how *simple* something
should be, the ability to screw up is still present.
But ... my damn coolant still has a milky consistent to it when I open the radiator cap and look at it in there. I saw it doing this when I was at JL and they showed it to me. They were saying possibly I need to get it flushed multiple times to get rid of it completely.
No. They were supposed to flush it until none of that remained, not do a half-flush. If all they were doing is no more effective than draining old coolant you could do that in your driveway with a bucket for free (plus coolant cost). I would go back and insist on either a refund or for them to do it over
but only if I am allowed to watch them do it.
I am assuming you mean the coolant itself, not just some sludge on the cap gasket which they forgot to wipe off, and that it's really mixed into the fluid, not just a light film residue floating on top.
I also checked the tranny fluid and when I rubbed the dipstick on a paper towel, it had a pinkish color to it. It wasn't red like the other transmission fluid I had seen before, but it wasn't milky either. I'm pretty sure they used synthetic transmission fluid too based on the receipt so maybe it's just that color? It wasn't milky at all though, which it was prior.
Ask them exactly what they put in it then look up the specs for that.
Oh yeah also at JL when they showed me the milky coolant coming out of the radiator, they were saying maybe my mechanic put the hoses backwards on the radiator
This is a sign you were talking to an idiot. Not only is putting them on backwards impossible, even if it were possible with some freakish aftermarket bulk long length of tubing bent in crazy directions, it would be impossible for that to make a difference, to cause contamination [that they should have flushed out].
Your mechanic should have been able to do the coolant flush himself. Even a shade tree mechanic which doesn't have or want to put on a flushing tee, could just fill the system with water, operate engine to open the thermostat, turn on the heater, drive it around a bit, drain the coolant, let engine cool, refill and repeat, then when drained water is clean, fill with a rich antifreeze mix allowing for an amount of water left behind (use a coolant temperature tester). That's not as effective as a pressurized flush, but it would be just as (more than) effective as what you ended up with. He probably just didn't want to be bothered as that's a bit of waiting around for the thermal cycling of the engine.