My mother and I have never exactly seen eye to eye. She is an obsessive-compulsive control-freak, who places more emphasis on her pets than she does on her children, needs to control every one and everything around her, and cannot admit when she is wrong. She and I especially disagreed when it came to college. I wanted to attend SUNY Fredonia which has a cool 3+2 plan; you spend three years at FRedonia studying a Computer Science path, then transfer to an engineering school, like RIT, for a 2 year degree in computer engineering. She wanted me to to attend a local community college and live at home. I really wouldn't mind attending a community college, except for the fact that I would still be under her rule. And I can't take much more of this... It will be a struggle just to get through this summer without it erupting into a huge fued, I am sure. I am just so fed up with her constant need to control everyone around her, and her refusal to admit it when she's wrong, and her omnipresent feminist man-hating comments... I mean, I'm all for equality of the sexes, but if women want to be treated equally, they should have equal responsibilities. But my mother goes overboard. She is a man-hating, "women are vastly superior" bigot.
Anyway, I have found out that Fredonia may not be the best choice. They are refusing to give me any financial aid at all, even though I maintained a 90 average throughout high school and scored a 1390 on my SATs. Anywhere else, I could almost go there for free, as I know from talking to my friends who are already in college.
However, when I was applying to colleges, I didnt think my credentials were all that impressive. A 90 average is not hard to get, and while my SAT scores are pretty good, I'm still only 27th in a class of 128. So I never applied to any other colleges, because I didnt think I would get accepted. But now I see that I should have. I was wrong. I admit it.
Now of course mom has to capitalize on this issue, and spends all her time nagging me about it. She takes every opportunity to inform me of how bad a choice Fredonia is and how I'm so stupid to not have applied to other colleges. And of course, every comment is peppered with phrases such as "like a typical male," and "typical adolescant," and other stereotypical statements that she is so fond of. Of course, since she is a woman and knows everything, she cant have ever made mistakes in her life.... She is really pissing me off. I am afraid that I'll do something drastic one of these days and start swearing and screaming at her. I am just so fed up.
But anyways, I am seriously considering attending MVCC, the communty college, for one year, just to see if I can find a better college plan, or convince Fredonia to give me more money (no, scratch that, ANY money). This makes the best financial sense, but it means I'd have to spend one more year at home. I simply cannot take anymore of this tyranny. I am afraid I'll do something drastic and blow up or something. This is more than just a typical adolescent "I hate my parents" rant. My father is quite cool. I couldnt ask for a better father. But my mother is just so aggravating. Even most of my friend's parents are shocked at her abrasiveness and controlling demeanor. We are truly opposing forces in this house. We've already had arguments where she's threatened to disown me, and I have gotten so pissed off before I've punched through walls.
So I have a dilemma. Attend SUNY Fredonia but recieve no financial aid, and pay a hell of a lot more, or attend MVCC, live at home, save money, and put up with the control freak. I'm thinking maybe if I just work a lot, and spend the rest of m time at my gf's or at friend's house, I could pull off living at home without ever really being home. But I dont know if thats really feasible.
Ack.
Anyway, I have found out that Fredonia may not be the best choice. They are refusing to give me any financial aid at all, even though I maintained a 90 average throughout high school and scored a 1390 on my SATs. Anywhere else, I could almost go there for free, as I know from talking to my friends who are already in college.
However, when I was applying to colleges, I didnt think my credentials were all that impressive. A 90 average is not hard to get, and while my SAT scores are pretty good, I'm still only 27th in a class of 128. So I never applied to any other colleges, because I didnt think I would get accepted. But now I see that I should have. I was wrong. I admit it.
Now of course mom has to capitalize on this issue, and spends all her time nagging me about it. She takes every opportunity to inform me of how bad a choice Fredonia is and how I'm so stupid to not have applied to other colleges. And of course, every comment is peppered with phrases such as "like a typical male," and "typical adolescant," and other stereotypical statements that she is so fond of. Of course, since she is a woman and knows everything, she cant have ever made mistakes in her life.... She is really pissing me off. I am afraid that I'll do something drastic one of these days and start swearing and screaming at her. I am just so fed up.
But anyways, I am seriously considering attending MVCC, the communty college, for one year, just to see if I can find a better college plan, or convince Fredonia to give me more money (no, scratch that, ANY money). This makes the best financial sense, but it means I'd have to spend one more year at home. I simply cannot take anymore of this tyranny. I am afraid I'll do something drastic and blow up or something. This is more than just a typical adolescent "I hate my parents" rant. My father is quite cool. I couldnt ask for a better father. But my mother is just so aggravating. Even most of my friend's parents are shocked at her abrasiveness and controlling demeanor. We are truly opposing forces in this house. We've already had arguments where she's threatened to disown me, and I have gotten so pissed off before I've punched through walls.
So I have a dilemma. Attend SUNY Fredonia but recieve no financial aid, and pay a hell of a lot more, or attend MVCC, live at home, save money, and put up with the control freak. I'm thinking maybe if I just work a lot, and spend the rest of m time at my gf's or at friend's house, I could pull off living at home without ever really being home. But I dont know if thats really feasible.
Ack.
