Co-worker and friend died this weekend

[IHateMyJob2004]

Originally posted by: Strk
I thoroughly hate open caskets.

They are needed for closure. I didn't believe my dad was dead. I thought it was a big cruel hoax for days. That all ended when I saw him in casket. It sucked, but is needed for closure.

 

[IHateMyJob2004]

I hate to ask, but is there an artcile anywhere that says what exactly happened? Or could you expand upon it?

 

[EmperorIQ]

do what i right, i remember when my gf's mom passed away. It was pretty hard for me, and I still am very sad about it. I didn't want to see her in her coffin at all, but i forced myself to do it and don't regret it. I did cry a lot harder afterwards, but I'm glad I got to see her one last time.

 

[BrunoPuntzJones]

Originally posted by: IHateMyJob2004

Originally posted by: pinion9
A friend of mine died this weekend along with her 2 year old daughter. It was in a boating accident. They got stuck under the boat and drowned while her husband was trying to rescue the other children.

I wasn't very close to her (we were work friends) but I liked her very much and have taken this particularly badly. Our whole department is grieving. I want to remember her the way she was, not in a coffin. She is going to be buried holding her daughter, and I don't want to see that.

Is it wrong to skip the funeral and pay my respects at her grave?

That is downright creepy. Go to the funeral. There is no rule that says you have to go to the casket (unless you need closure).

That's what I'm thought, seems way creepy...but if that's what they want.