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Clubbing, etc. (my first time )

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Alphathree33

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Some of my friends at school... both girls and guys... want me to come clubbing with them this Friday. I just turned 19 a few weeks ago.

Alcohol is nothing new to me, but then again it is in a way. I've always had wine with dinner or split a beer with my dad. But I've never been drunk, and I don't have a high tolerance for a lot of alcohol. (Nor do I care to be drunk or develop a tolerance, for that matter.)

The old me would have said no to clubbing as an instinctive, self preservation, geekism reaction. The new me (i.e. I am forcing myself to be more social) was dumb enough to consider it. I still came to the same conclusion -- I don't want to go.

But I've been talking with another one of my female friends and she says I will have fun no matter what, despite my protests that I won't dance and I'd only have a few drinks.

Seeing as I've never been clubbing, the entire basis for my decision is what my friends tell me thrown together with some imagery from movies ;-)

Before everyone goes blabbling "oh cmon you should go blah blah blah"... you should know a bit about me. For one, like I said, I absolutely don't dance. I'm very reserved. The most exciting thing you'll see me do is a Kramer entrance into a room. Beyond that, the sky's the limit for my introvertedness. At best, girls might say Im cute, but Im also tall and skinny and generally unimpressive. My normal social life consists of school, work, badminton and computer games, probably in ascending order of priority. I have the highest average in my soon-to-graduate class and I generally enjoy math and science -- hopefully I'll be studying engineering at waterloo.

Anyway that's way too much information, I suppose. I need advice!
 
believe me, people do alot of things they wouldnt normally do while drunk. Dont get drunk though, get buzzed enough to become more social.
 
I dislike drinking, but going to the bar is fun, get a bit buzzed and it's a LOT more fun that way.. hell, it's even fun when you aren't buzzed if other people are.. even if they aren't, it's a great place to go to chat and talk to people, and meet more people... it's a must do at least every once in a while if you ask me..
i prefer pubbin' over clubbin' though cause i love to sit and chat with people, or stand and chat, at the bar with a beer.. i hate the loud music and dance floor dominated area in a club.. Pubs forever!!! 😀
 


<< believe me, people do alot of things they wouldnt normally do while drunk. Dont get drunk though, get buzzed enough to become more social. >>



I agree, dont overdo it... Just have a good time 😀
 


<< The old me would have said no to clubbing as an instinctive, self preservation, geekism reaction. >>

Good to see you're past that.
 


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<< believe me, people do alot of things they wouldnt normally do while drunk. Dont get drunk though, get buzzed enough to become more social. >>



I agree, dont overdo it... Just have a good time 😀 >>



Not only that, but don't read more into this than there really is. Just relax and don't worry too much about it. It's just a night out with friends...
 


<< I won't dance... >>


Your next step, then, is to drop this negative "can't do it" attitude. Seriously.
There's a big difference between "I can't dance" and "I won't dance."
I can't dance. I suck at it. Actually, I'm pretty damn good at REAL dancing (read: ballet, celtic, jazz, tap, softshoe, ballroom, etc) but I'm horrendous at what the average pop/techno/house/rave/hiphop/trance junkie considers dancing.
But I WILL dance. None of your friends are going to care. If you refuse to have fun, you won't.
If you allow yourself to have fun, you may still not have fun, but at least you aren't guaranteed not to.

And bring earplugs....the pounding bass will make you insane after 3 hours.
 
I'm usually can-do when it comes to school and work (name of a canadian nuclear reactor... actually it's CANDU... nevermind) but you have to understand I've been anti-social for my whole life. There isn't a switch I can just flick on. I WON'T dance becaecause I CAN'T dance which means I am SELF AWARE of whatever Im doing, which would, no doubt, be something that doesn't even qualify as dancing.

Also I tend to be really cynical unless I'm having a particularly good day. Negative is part of the job description, I can't help it 🙂
 
Grrr pounding base...

I was at a bowling alley for Rock and Bowl a few weeks ago... omagosh, I can't believe people actually like to go bowling in the dark with lights swirling around and music so loud it gives you a headache. Lol
 


<< Also I tend to be really cynical unless I'm having a particularly good day. Negative is part of the job description, I can't help it 🙂 >>


It sounds like you made up your mind already to not have any fun. Why bother posting about it here?
 
first thing you do

go buy earplugs

trust me on this one 😉


eh don't drink too much, just drink enough to get the edge off, and then you'll have fun
 


<< I WON'T dance becaecause I CAN'T dance which means I am SELF AWARE of whatever Im doing, which would, no doubt, be something that doesn't even qualify as dancing. >>


The catch is this:
Have you seen these assclowns dancing? You have two options: Move your body around wildly, maybe in time with the music, or grind your hips against some girl (preferably someone you know who doesn't think you're a sleazeball for doing it).
Everyone looks like a moron. The ones who "can dance" are simply the ones that everyone else tries to emulate in achieving their own moronicness.
Everyone looks stupid, and with all the flashing lights and moving bodies, not to mention potential drunkeness and other forms of intoxication, there's nothing to be self-conscious of....

Just close your eyes and let go.
I hate clubbing, I'm pretty antisocial, but I can still allow myself to have fun on the rare occasion I go. And so can you 🙂



<< I can't believe people actually like to go bowling in the dark with lights swirling around and music so loud it gives you a headache. Lol >>


OTOH, clubbing might not be your bag.
At all 🙂
 
I myself debated this a while ago. A bunch of my friends were going to a club in Des Moines, and I didn't want to. I thought the exact same way about it that you are. I don't consider myself anti-social, but I used to only like hanging out with a few friends, not huge crowds.

But I went, and I had fun. I only drank a little bit, but I had a lot of fun. I didn't want to dance at first, but I went out and just started trying. I probably looked like an idiot, but I didn't care, it was actually fun 😉

Look, you might think you're not the kind of person that likes clubs, but you never know until you try. You might actually like it, and it's fun to meet all the new (usually drunk) people. Give it a try, if you don't like it, don't go back. But have an open mind, you're young, got to try new stuff 😉
 


<< Get drunk, it's heaps better 🙂 >>


Yep...clubbing while drinking is like pizza

When it's good, it's real* good
When it's bad, it's still pretty good 😉
 
Basically Rainsford has it down pat. While I'm a totaly club-goin', drinking, dancing type of person, I know people that are quite anti-club.

To me, going to a club is primarily about being with friends. Whether you like to drink or not, you will likely enjoy most of the music playing. The music may just make you want to move your body, or at the least, start singing with your drunk friends. Hell, if anything, you can play the game of "See how stupid my friends act when drunk." 🙂

Have a good time.
 
Secret is act liek you know what you're doing...my roommate can't dance for crap..hes terrible..everyone makes fun of him...everyone else isn't that much better...they just act like they know what they're doing and don't seem awkward doing it...its all about just doing it...

The second thing is go up to girls and dance w/ them cuase if everyone else you went w/ is dancin w/ a girl and you're just wandering around in the crowd you're not gonna like it either...basically just find some girl and start grindin w/ her and seh wont' deny you and in most cases you'll get a #...

I've seen people that couldn't dance but acted liek they knew what they were doing who were fine and girls were all about htem...I've seen peopel that could dance that felt all awkward and girls weren't about it...
 
Based on what you guys have said here and my independent conclusion, several other times, that clubbing is not for me...

I don't think I'm going to go.

I enjoy isolation and solitude. Clubbing just ain't gonna happen! (And that's perfectly fine for me)

Actually, though, "pubbing" as you call it doesn't sound so bad. Without the dancing and loud music, that seems very comfortable to me. And I really don't mind a few drinks. That would probably be a fun thing to do.
 


<< Pubs forever!!! >>

Yep, pubs are definitely the way to go. There's nothing like sitting back and relaxing with some friends and a cool, dark pint of Guiness. 😎
 


<< Based on what you guys have said here and my independent conclusion, several other times, that clubbing is not for me...

I don't think I'm going to go.

I enjoy isolation and solitude. Clubbing just ain't gonna happen! (And that's perfectly fine for me)

Actually, though, "pubbing" as you call it doesn't sound so bad. Without the dancing and loud music, that seems very comfortable to me. And I really don't mind a few drinks. That would probably be a fun thing to do. >>



awww come on man. you really should at least try it one time. i'm not the social kind at all either. but with a few drinks in me and a good dj, i'm a dance machine.
 
Whereas we might not share the whole badminton thing, you sound like how I used to be, and let me tell you this:

I don't dance. I can't dance. But the few times I've been drunk enough to not care, you'd be amazed at what passes for "dancing". 🙂 Seriously, nobody cares, and you'll feel great when you give it a shot and a good looking girl comes up and dances with you. Don't try to hard, tho I have a feeling that you wouldn't do that, but just do what you feel in the music. You'll think that everyone's looking at you, but they aren't. really. ^_^

You really should try it at least once, I never thought I'd dance (hell, it's my g/f's senior Prom this Saturday and I'm still deciding on if I'm going to be seen on the dancefloor. Dancing when drunk with college students is one thing, but dancing with your girl.......whoa.), but it really will be fun. Maybe you'll even want to go back.

Whatever the situation is, just go and have fun. One last thing, that imagery from the movies? Not true. Most guys look like complete dorks when "dancing". 🙂
 
I can sort of relate. Some of my friends like to go to clubs or bars every time we get together, and I don't really fit in. I dance like a fish out of water and feel the same way. For me, I'd much rather be jamming in a band or playing ball, stuff where I'm participating. In a club I'm just standing there most of the time, looking like a hardcore geek. Not really because of social avoidance but the atmosphere throws me off. I feel like I can't just be my usual self, I have to win people's attention with charisma. For introverts like myself this is more of a challenge than fun.

But despite all that I would still go anyway, just for the first time experience. It's only one night, and you might enjoy yourself. Also when you get to college, clubbing and going to bars is pretty much the main way to socialize for a lot (maybe most) people. It's pretty hard to avoid them then.
 
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