GodlessAstronomer
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If your big complaint is that you're getting gifts that you don't have room for then I doubt your year has been particularly bad, comparatively.
Originally posted by: manlymatt83
Something shitty to my mom? She's the one that did something shitty to me - I explicitly told her not to do something, asked nicely, and she did it anyway - WASTING money and time.
So you're saying I should take all of these clothes she just spent hundreds of dollars on and donate them to good will? I think that would be shitty.
EDIT: Donating to good will would not be shitty - but taking all of the clothes she just bought me would
Originally posted by: theblackbox
i think a lot of people have had a lot rougher of a year.
some people don't have parents to spend christmas with, and some people only wish they could get clothes for christmas.
Originally posted by: jagec
Originally posted by: manlymatt83
Something shitty to my mom? She's the one that did something shitty to me - I explicitly told her not to do something, asked nicely, and she did it anyway - WASTING money and time.
So you're saying I should take all of these clothes she just spent hundreds of dollars on and donate them to good will? I think that would be shitty.
EDIT: Donating to good will would not be shitty - but taking all of the clothes she just bought me would
I give up. You're an idiot, and an infant as well.
I agree with you...your mom clearly shouldn't give you so much stuff, as now you're spoiled and self-absorbed.
Originally posted by: manlymatt83
Originally posted by: theblackbox
i think a lot of people have had a lot rougher of a year.
some people don't have parents to spend christmas with, and some people only wish they could get clothes for christmas.
I didn't share why I had a rough year, but it included the death of someone very close to me. Perhaps it isn't a big deal, but relative to me it is by far the hardest thing I have ever had to deal with. Ever.
I'm not trying to say I'm spoiled. I'm not spoiled. I'm self-sufficient, and I work hard for my own money, and I don't like when other people buy me things. I appreciate my mother's thought, but this rant isn't about her buying me gifts, its about buying me clothes when I told her I had enough.
Last year she bought me clothes. The year before that clothes. I have clothes sitting in laundry baskets with price tags on them still from 3 years ago. Yes, I dress like a slob - I usually wear the same 5 shirts or so (I wash them of course) in a round robin rotation. It's who I am. And there's nothing wrong with that.
I love my mother to death. This rant isn't about how fortunate/unfortunate I am. It's about the fact that she feels like, no matter how many times I tell her I don't need clothes and enjoy the way I dress, she feels that she needs to dress me differently.
Quit putting words into my mouth people, and quit assuming.
Originally posted by: Regs
I hold a lot of "content" for my family. My mother always wants to me to feel sorry for her and her choices in life. She is filled with spite and hate. She puts me in a bad mood and does not give two shits if she hurts some ones feelings.
My father was never there for me though now ofcourse he regrets it. My aunt is a raging alcoholic and she married a bigot husband. I do not hate or I do not hold malice for anybody in my family, but I only wish they learned to face their damn problems and realize that they're the only ones that can help themselves.
Originally posted by: kranky
I understand how you feel. It's an awkward situation. People want to give you gifts out of the goodness of their hearts and to show they love you, but all it does is create more stuff that you don't want.
I suggest you tell your parents long before next Christmas that you very much appreciate all they have done for you and the things they have given you, but for this Christmas you would want more than anything for them to make a donation to __________ on your behalf. Explain to them that that is the kind of gift that would be very meaningful to you and you would appreciate greatly. Don't even bring up the fact you don't have room for any more stuff because it's going to make it sound like the donation idea is just a way to divert the money they would use for your gifts into a black hole.
You have to get them to understand that for you, that donation would be exactly what you would want because you believe in the work the organization is doing and you want to support it, and for them to donate on your behalf would be the perfect gift for you.
I am in the same position as you - not wanting any more stuff. This year for our family gift exchange I insisted that for my gift I would like to see a donation to our local food bank and everyone accepted that.
Originally posted by: MagnusTheBrewer
Ok Matt, we get it, it's all about you. Next!
Originally posted by: manlymatt83
I just need to rant.
I have a really hard time spending time with my family. I love them dearly, but Christmas is always hard. Especially this Christmas.
First, I don't like "things". I really hate junk. And all while I was growing up, my parents felt they always needed to buy me something new - and they would buy me junk. Clothes, clothes, clothes, and more clothes. Now, this isn't lack of appreciation. This is the fact that I only have a really small room where I live and I don't even have enough room for the clothes that I do have, and I usually go through them monthly and donate a few pieces I don't wear often to good will. I'm just that kind of person that likes owning only 10 shirts or so and sticking to those 10 shirts.
This Christmas, my mother asked me what I would like, and I politely responded "Nothing, thanks though! Just to spend time with you guys." I emphasized that I did NOT want anything at all - I don't have room for anything. But I EMPHASIZED TO HER verbally that I did not want clothes. Especially not clothes. Anything but clothes.
Today, we open presents, and all I have is boxes and boxes of clothes. I politely thanked my mother but let her know I would appreciate it if she either took the clothes back, or I would gladly donate them to goodwill. She got mad at me and explained that I didn't appreciate things.
I do. I really do. I love my parents a lot. I just hate looking forward to Christmas because I know that I'm going to get more and more boxes of clothes and it's just going to be a hassle to do anything with them.
/rant
Merry Christmas all. Other than that, its a joyous holiday. I had a really rough year. A very very rough year. Some of you know what happened, but unlike the past, I kept it to myself as best I could. Thanks to all that supported me in May with your thoughts and comments. THAT I am truly thankful for.
On to 2009!
Originally posted by: manlymatt83
I love my parents a lot. I just hate looking forward to Christmas because I know that I'm going to get more and more boxes of clothes and it's just going to be a hassle to do anything with them.