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Christmas Dilemma - Poll added

D1gger

D1gger

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I just got a message from my wife that my Dad called her to say that he, my mom and my sister would not be able to come over for Christmas dinner as we had planned. The reasons were that my Mom isn?t feeling great (bad back), and we have had an abnormal amount of snow and my Dad has reached the point in his life where he is no longer is willing to drive in the snow.

So now my choice is:

1) - do I offer to go drive for an hour each way to pick them up in my SUV to bring them back to my house, and then drive them back home after the dinner is over,

2) ? do I offer to postpone our Christmas dinner until sometime later next week or maybe New Years Day and hope that they will be willing to come then,

3) ? do I take this as the opportunity to have a quiet Christmas with my wife and kids and forget about trying to get together with my folks.

My choice would definitely be (3) as I have very little in common with my parents, and have some deep resentments for the way I was treated as a child, but I have been trying to get past that and re-establish a relationship with them, especially my Dad who wasn?t as difficult to deal with as my mother.

I know that I should choose 1 or 2, but that would not be the Christmas I would enjoy most.

Cliffs

Do I go out of the way to have Christmas dinner with my parents or do I have the Christmas that I want?

UPDATE

I called my Dad this morning and offered to come and get them if the snow was the only thing holding them back. He confirmed that my mom didn't want to be in the car that long, even if the roads are fine and then I extended an invitation for sometime in January when she is feeling up to it. Seems like a win win for me.
 
3) Your parents gracefully bowed out of dinner. Go with that. Offering to get them creates an awkward situation if they really don't feel like coming and you really don't feel like having them anyway.
 
Do 3 for now but put the invitation out there that if they want to come over for the weekend of next week, that they still could.

1 is out of the question unless you take everything with you and have the dinner at their place so you just drive there and back once.
 
Go get them. They're your parents. They did plenty of sh!t for you when you were younger.

Be thankful your parents are still around to spend time with you. You probably are, so don't take this the wrong way. Just go out and get them. You'll feel better about it later.
 
Originally posted by: RKS
can't you do 3 and then 2?
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This is probably what I will end up doing, but we bought a fresh free range turkey that I want to cook tomorrow as I would be nervous about keeping it in the fridge much longer than that.


So I guess I will plan a somewhat simpler meal for next weekend. My son and daughter were planning a snow board trip, so it may be down to just my parents, my wife and I.
 
Originally posted by: oiprocs
Go get them. They're your parents. They did plenty of sh!t for you when you were younger.

Be thankful your parents are still around to spend time with you. You probably are, so don't take this the wrong way. Just go out and get them. You'll feel better about it later.
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Sorry, you don't know the situation. They didn't do shit for me when I was younger and I have a hard time being civil to my mother when I do see them.

I have lots of guilt about not feeling grateful to them, but I don't have any real emotional attachment to them.
 
can't you have dinner at their place instead?
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Nope, they don't have a big enough kitchen or dining space for us to comfortably be in, and my mother would have a fit if I tried to actually cook anything in her pristine kitchen.
 
Originally posted by: ironwing
3) Your parents gracefully bowed out of dinner. Go with that. Offering to get them creates an awkward situation if they really don't feel like coming and you really don't feel like having them anyway.
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This is a good point....
 
To those who said 1, mom has a bad back and probably doesn't want an hour car ride twice the same day. Don't do 1.

Go with 2. Worst case scenario is that they accept and you get a little of the Christmas you want and you get some face time with the folks.
 
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