cheap guy and protective best friend

[BruinEd03]

<< (almost) never by from the college bk store, online is the way to go, best friend still insists that she' going to airport w/ me, she's helping me move back to college on Sunday so she'll be by myside the whole day >>



Like I said..you can either keep getting ripped or stop. ur call. (and I know u know ur getting ripped)

-Ed

 

[vash]

Why not do dutch? 50/50?

If she is adamant about having a guy pay the entire time, I wouldn't date her at all. Dating should be 50/50 -- you both should be putting in something to both be getting something out. If you just go on the date for a free dinner, cocktails, etc, then that's just wrong (ihmo). Women get away with it easier than guys, but we should all chip in.

Maybe go, pick him up and see if you can get him to pay for at least a portion of what's going down. If you've been out twice and you've paid, then maybe its time for him to pay. If you've been out many times more than that, then there is something up.

vash

 

[Geekbabe]

<< Well, if you pick him up, he should at least pay for parking and maybe treat you to dinner. Your friend needs to calm down and not go along. Just don't offer to pay. If you get to the booth to pay for parking and he doesn't immediately break out some money to pay. Drop him like a bad habit. It's only a sign of things to come and no one needs that. >>




I agree, you are doing this person a major favor by picking him up on a holiday weekend,if he doesn't at least quickly pay for the parking, get rid of him as he's using you.

 

[Yo Ma Ma]

Your (girl) friend has the right idea, but since you seem to realize you're being taken advantage of and still don't mind then she's not going to have much success. Will just be temporarily embarrassing but you'll both get over it.

 

[Ally24k]

if i make more money than he does, is it not so bad that i pay more?

 

[GasX]

<< I think you should continue to be stupid. >>



There are a lot of wise and sage thoughts getting expressed here, but Uber Neuman condensed the entire thing down to one sentence.

If he isn't ponying up for anything then he is either not worth your time or not interested in you. The fact that your friend has to intervene proves Uber Neuman's point...

 

[axelfox]

Damn, if the guy doesn't pay for the parking at LAX, then he is a really cheap bastard (its like $2, just don't stay there too long).

Hey if you need a friend, I go to school in Whittier nudge, nudge.....:0

 

[weezergirl]

you have to wonder why she is your best friend right? she has your best interests in mind so if u really think of her as your best friend i'd suggest you open your eyes a little more and see what everybody else seems to be seeing cept u.

and please, STOP doing his laundry. that's just sad.

 

[BruinEd03]

<< if i make more money than he does, is it not so bad that i pay more? >>



I know, you know, and everyone else on this forum knows you're getting played. If you want to keep it that way, that's ur choice. Just don't cry to us about it. In the wise words of uber neuman: "I think you should continue to be stupid. "

-Ed

 

[darkjester]

<< I'm interested in this guy who can be potentially really cheap and tight with his wallet. My best friend is tired of me paying for him (I really havent paid that much) and she is taking action. This Sunday, when I pick him up from the airport, she is going to come with me and insist that he pays for parking, gas (I drive a SUV and the airport is at least an hr away and this wkd is Labor Day wkd), and possibly even dinner. I think that is a bit unreasonable because I really don't mind paying for him (although I am broke myself also). Now I'm afraid this guy won't be interested in me because he will think that I am cheap. My best friend will not budge, she insists on coming and making him pay. How can I somehow not let him think that I'm am dirt cheap? (and trust me, my best friend is the most stubborn person I have ever met, she INSISTS on coming) >>



Leave without her.

The End.

 

[darkjester]

<< This guy, I'm not sure if he's really cheap or not. [SNIP!] He flirts with me a lot and tells me that I'm cute but he also calls himself a prime time player and slim shady. >>



He call's himself Slim Shady!? LOL!!!

Addendum to my first post:
Leave with out her. And without him.

(Wow, that WINNER! banner is ANNOYING!)

 

[Phunktion]

<< I think you should continue to be stupid. >>


OMG Uber that is pure genius no more need be said

 

[jayshah]

LOL @ Uber.

Anyways, this is how I would approach things. Yes he's probably being cheap, but the one who asks should pay. If he's persuing the relationship, then he should pay, until you get more comfortable with the relationship, then go 50/50 or the richer person pays more. Being in the friend zone confuses things, but whoever is pushing for the friendship to become something more should pay. Course it sounds like he's a player (that whole Slim Shady bit--I mean I like his music, but I don't want to be him. Haha).

As for your friend, she has your best interests in mind, but is going about this the wrong way, and will just embarass both of you, IMO. Tell your friend that you'll handle things, and drop the guy. That's my suggestion.

 

[DDCSpeed]

He should treat you to dinner as a token for your kindness. At least that is what I would do. I would pay for your parking + gas if you allow me to. Else it will just be a nicer restaraunt for u and your friend who came along. however, I know some people extremely stingy.........errr...trust me you dont really want to date somoene who is stingy because he/she will be extremely cheap when it comes to anniversary presents when you guys do go out. My 2 cent.

If you really dont mind paying for him then it is ok but it is at least common courtesy to go dutch if he is poor and cant pay for u.