I'm interested in this guy who can be potentially really cheap and tight with his wallet. My best friend is tired of me paying for him (I really havent paid that much) and she is taking action. This Sunday, when I pick him up from the airport, she is going to come with me and insist that he pays for parking, gas (I drive a SUV and the airport is at least an hr away and this wkd is Labor Day wkd), and possibly even dinner. I think that is a bit unreasonable because I really don't mind paying for him (although I am broke myself also). Now I'm afraid this guy won't be interested in me because he will think that I am cheap. My best friend will not budge, she insists on coming and making him pay. How can I somehow not let him think that I'm am dirt cheap? (and trust me, my best friend is the most stubborn person I have ever met, she INSISTS on coming)
cheap guy and protective best friend
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There is a difference between being cheap and common courtesy.
If I had a friend pick me up from the airport, the least I would do is pay for their parking. I don't think I'd pay for gas, but I would take them to dinner or lunch to thank them.
If you want to avoid all that, just tell him to pick up his baggage, and wait outside. You can meet him in the white zone loading and unloading areas, and therefore not deal with parking.
Though, on a personal note, if I knew a girl was interested in me, it would be a huge plus if she met me at the gate, and I would definitely take her out to dinner.
If I had a friend pick me up from the airport, the least I would do is pay for their parking. I don't think I'd pay for gas, but I would take them to dinner or lunch to thank them.
If you want to avoid all that, just tell him to pick up his baggage, and wait outside. You can meet him in the white zone loading and unloading areas, and therefore not deal with parking.
Though, on a personal note, if I knew a girl was interested in me, it would be a huge plus if she met me at the gate, and I would definitely take her out to dinner.
Does he at least offer to pay? Or split the tab? I know that I wouldn't feel right with the world if I let a girl I was taking out pay for me the first or even the second time we go out. After a while, though, it gets cost prohibitive and usually, she'll figure that and we'll split expenses(exceptions are present of course, anniversaries and whatnot). I don't really know the guy, so I can't speak for him, but if he isn't considerate enough to at least offer to pay, regardless of amount, out of sheer common courtesy, I don't think it's a good thing. Don't force him, let him offer. That way, if he does, you know he's no slouch, and you let him keep his dignity instead of leading him about by the ear.
Well, if you pick him up, he should at least pay for parking and maybe treat you to dinner. Your friend needs to calm down and not go along. Just don't offer to pay. If you get to the booth to pay for parking and he doesn't immediately break out some money to pay. Drop him like a bad habit. It's only a sign of things to come and no one needs that.
It's a relatively simple idea that it is because that this guy that you're interested in is merely thinking of you as a friend... and friends sometimes take the tab for each other... but not always... this basically brings up the principle that he's not so much interested in you if he's not shelling out the cash. It's usually apparent that if somebody is madly interested in (per lack of words to proclaim 
) he would have no problem treating you to dinner... or paying for your parking, gas, whatnot
Which leads to the point of arrival, of the guy. You and your friend should basically act normal... don't drop any hints whatsoever, and see how your boy reacts... If he's contantly offering to repay you back for your debt... then you should definitely go make the move... he's more than likely interested in you. On the other hand... if the guy is merely talking to you in the tongue that he's basically an amigo - then you should just drop the act.
It's definitely going to be weird if you bring your friend along though... you should tell her this... seriously, tell her. The guy is going to wonder why the hell you brought along a friend, and trust me - no excuse in the world is going to work. If you're interested in this guy as much as you are implying, then simply tell your girl that it's important that she doesn't come because it'd be easier for you to "operate" Your best friend can only do you wrong - believe me... best friends are no good when it comes to relationships.
Final note... keep an eye on his actions... this will tell you more than you will need to know... see how he walks around you, see if he makes any hitches or sudden moves... his dialogue should be representative of how he feels as well..
I really must jet to my Philosophy class - I hear those blonde chicks are still waiting for me (GoPunk, and damn you GB I will bring my camera this time)
Good luck on it, Liz
)(GG)
) he would have no problem treating you to dinner... or paying for your parking, gas, whatnotWhich leads to the point of arrival, of the guy. You and your friend should basically act normal... don't drop any hints whatsoever, and see how your boy reacts... If he's contantly offering to repay you back for your debt... then you should definitely go make the move... he's more than likely interested in you. On the other hand... if the guy is merely talking to you in the tongue that he's basically an amigo - then you should just drop the act.
It's definitely going to be weird if you bring your friend along though... you should tell her this... seriously, tell her. The guy is going to wonder why the hell you brought along a friend, and trust me - no excuse in the world is going to work. If you're interested in this guy as much as you are implying, then simply tell your girl that it's important that she doesn't come because it'd be easier for you to "operate"
Your best friend can only do you wrong - believe me... best friends are no good when it comes to relationships. Final note... keep an eye on his actions... this will tell you more than you will need to know... see how he walks around you, see if he makes any hitches or sudden moves... his dialogue should be representative of how he feels as well..
I really must jet to my Philosophy class - I hear those blonde chicks are still waiting for me (GoPunk, and damn you GB I will bring my camera this time)
Good luck on it, Liz
)(GG)
Don't take her with you. Leave without her. Be prepared to go at a moment's notice, so when she goes to the bathroom or anything, jump into the car and take off. Or, if she makes it out to the vehicle with you, get in and pretend you will unlock her door from inside, then just take off.
On the other hand, you should make it perfectly clear to the guy that you are broke and need help paying for things. Don't let him take advantage of you.
On the other hand, you should make it perfectly clear to the guy that you are broke and need help paying for things. Don't let him take advantage of you.
Sounds like a pretty lame scenario across the board. How awkward is it going to be with your friend along yelling at this guy about the parking fee out of nowhere. You need to tell her to mind her own business and learn to not let this guy walk all over you. You also need to ask yourself if the tightwad aspect of this guy's personality is the tip of the iceberg, if you get my drift. Tight with money = tight with emotions in my experience. And do you think so little of yourself that you'll let him fleece you solely based on doubts that he may lose interest if you actually make him pay for something? If that turns out to be the case, then he's a shallow SOB and you're better off without him.
Fausto
Fausto
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It's a relatively simple idea that it is because that this guy that you're interested in is merely thinking of you as a friend... and friends sometimes take the tab for each other... but not always... this basically brings up the principle that he's not so much interested in you if he's not shelling out the cash. It's usually apparent that if somebody is madly interested in (per lack of words to proclaim ) he would have no problem treating you to dinner... or paying for your parking, gas, whatnot
Which leads to the point of arrival, of the guy. You and your friend should basically act normal... don't drop any hints whatsoever, and see how your boy reacts... If he's contantly offering to repay you back for your debt... then you should definitely go make the move... he's more than likely interested in you. On the other hand... if the guy is merely talking to you in the tongue that he's basically an amigo - then you should just drop the act.
It's definitely going to be weird if you bring your friend along though... you should tell her this... seriously, tell her. The guy is going to wonder why the hell you brought along a friend, and trust me - no excuse in the world is going to work. If you're interested in this guy as much as you are implying, then simply tell your girl that it's important that she doesn't come because it'd be easier for you to "operate" Your best friend can only do you wrong - believe me... best friends are no good when it comes to relationships.
Final note... keep an eye on his actions... this will tell you more than you will need to know... see how he walks around you, see if he makes any hitches or sudden moves... his dialogue should be representative of how he feels as well..
I really must jet to my Philosophy class - I hear those blonde chicks are still waiting for me (GoPunk, and damn you GB I will bring my camera this time)
Good luck on it, Liz
)(GG)[/i] >>
GG knows what he's talking about when it comes to relationships - take his advice, he's helped many people! The Love Guru
It's a relatively simple idea that it is because that this guy that you're interested in is merely thinking of you as a friend... and friends sometimes take the tab for each other... but not always... this basically brings up the principle that he's not so much interested in you if he's not shelling out the cash. It's usually apparent that if somebody is madly interested in (per lack of words to proclaim ) he would have no problem treating you to dinner... or paying for your parking, gas, whatnot
Which leads to the point of arrival, of the guy. You and your friend should basically act normal... don't drop any hints whatsoever, and see how your boy reacts... If he's contantly offering to repay you back for your debt... then you should definitely go make the move... he's more than likely interested in you. On the other hand... if the guy is merely talking to you in the tongue that he's basically an amigo - then you should just drop the act.
It's definitely going to be weird if you bring your friend along though... you should tell her this... seriously, tell her. The guy is going to wonder why the hell you brought along a friend, and trust me - no excuse in the world is going to work. If you're interested in this guy as much as you are implying, then simply tell your girl that it's important that she doesn't come because it'd be easier for you to "operate" Your best friend can only do you wrong - believe me... best friends are no good when it comes to relationships.
Final note... keep an eye on his actions... this will tell you more than you will need to know... see how he walks around you, see if he makes any hitches or sudden moves... his dialogue should be representative of how he feels as well..
I really must jet to my Philosophy class - I hear those blonde chicks are still waiting for me (GoPunk, and damn you GB I will bring my camera this time)
Good luck on it, Liz
)(GG)[/i] >>
GG knows what he's talking about when it comes to relationships - take his advice, he's helped many people! The Love Guru
<< Sounds like a pretty lame scenario across the board. How awkward is it going to be with your friend along yelling at this guy about the parking fee out of nowhere. You need to tell her to mind her own business and learn to not let this guy walk all over you. You also need to ask yourself if the tightwad aspect of this guy's personality is the tip of the iceberg, if you get my drift. Tight with money = tight with emotions in my experience. And do you think so little of yourself that you'll let him fleece you solely based on doubts that he may lose interest if you actually make him pay for something? If that turns out to be the case, then he's a shallow SOB and you're better off without him.
Fausto >>
Or better yet, don't pick up your friend... what's she gonna do? Drive out to LAX herself?? And deal w/ the LABOR DAY weeked? Trust me on this... it'll be worth it w/o your friend there trying to run your life for you.
When you come back, and she's yellin' at you, just simply smile and say, "Sorry - please forgive me"
That'll work... SHOULD work rather
)(GG)
This guy, I'm not sure if he's really cheap or not. All I know that is whatever we do, we either split even or I end up paying extra. I also do a lot of things for him like drive him places, do his laundry, and take care of his stuff over the summer. I do all this because 1) I really like him and 2) he's one of my best friends. I really don't mind. Is that so wrong of me? I realize that maybe he just thinks of me as a friend. That is why he tries to save every penny with me, like ask me to call him (he's in WA and I'm in CA) and find parking outside of the airport and walk to get him. So is this a lost cause? I'm not sure. He flirts with me a lot and tells me that I'm cute but he also calls himself a prime time player and slim shady.
<< This guy, I'm not sure if he's really cheap or not. All I know that is whatever we do, we either split even or I end up paying extra. I also do a lot of things for him like drive him places, do his laundry, and take care of his stuff over the summer. I do all this because 1) I really like him and 2) he's one of my best friends. I really don't mind. Is that so wrong of me? I realize that maybe he just thinks of me as a friend. That is why he tries to save every penny with me, like ask me to call him (he's in WA and I'm in CA) and find parking outside of the airport and walk to get him. So is this a lost cause? I'm not sure. He flirts with me a lot and tells me that I'm cute but he also calls himself a prime time player and slim shady. >>
It sounds to me like he's taking advantage of you. Don't put up with that crap.
You do his f*cking laundry? AND pay for everything? AND drive him around??!?
Let me spell this out for you: You are being taken advantage of; he will hang with you as it suits him until he finds someone else with money that he wants to bang and then you'll never hear from him. You can do better. Lots of fish out there, throw this one back.
Fausto
Let me spell this out for you: You are being taken advantage of; he will hang with you as it suits him until he finds someone else with money that he wants to bang and then you'll never hear from him. You can do better. Lots of fish out there, throw this one back.
Fausto
It's simple, the girl should never pay for the guy...in most situations. Either the guy pays or you split the tab (on occasions). The girl can only pay for dinner when:
1. It's a special day for him, such as his birthday.
2. It's a sad day for him, such as when a relative dies or he gets fired.
3. You unrelentingly insist that you pay, even threatening to withold certain pleasures.
4. He forgot his wallet, credit card, etc.
5. You're filthy rich.
A friend following certainly won't help. If she starts pointing things out, then he'll believe that you view him as cheap. Also, guys tend to show off when they are in the company of strangers (or not-so-familiar friends); he'll pay everything in front of others. I totally agree with yoda that he should at least offer to pay.
EDITED so I don't contradict myself....I thought about it, that's why "never" changed to "never...in most situations." But I doubt it happens too often or you have to start to wonder how many times he's getting himself fired
<< All I know that is whatever we do, we either split even or I end up paying extra >>
Now that is wrong...and his laundry :disgust: He doesn't seem like a very considerate friend either. If you're interested in him for just his looks (it's certainly not his money), then it doesn't look good. But then again, what do I know about these things... :
1. It's a special day for him, such as his birthday.
2. It's a sad day for him, such as when a relative dies or he gets fired.
3. You unrelentingly insist that you pay, even threatening to withold certain pleasures.
4. He forgot his wallet, credit card, etc.
5. You're filthy rich.
A friend following certainly won't help. If she starts pointing things out, then he'll believe that you view him as cheap. Also, guys tend to show off when they are in the company of strangers (or not-so-familiar friends); he'll pay everything in front of others. I totally agree with yoda that he should at least offer to pay.
EDITED so I don't contradict myself....I thought about it, that's why "never" changed to "never...in most situations." But I doubt it happens too often or you have to start to wonder how many times he's getting himself fired
<< All I know that is whatever we do, we either split even or I end up paying extra >>
Now that is wrong...and his laundry :disgust: He doesn't seem like a very considerate friend either. If you're interested in him for just his looks (it's certainly not his money), then it doesn't look good. But then again, what do I know about these things... :
<< This guy, I'm not sure if he's really cheap or not. All I know that is whatever we do, we either split even or I end up paying extra. I also do a lot of things for him like drive him places, do his laundry, and take care of his stuff over the summer. I do all this because 1) I really like him and 2) he's one of my best friends. I really don't mind. Is that so wrong of me? I realize that maybe he just thinks of me as a friend. That is why he tries to save every penny with me, like ask me to call him (he's in WA and I'm in CA) and find parking outside of the airport and walk to get him. So is this a lost cause? I'm not sure. He flirts with me a lot and tells me that I'm cute but he also calls himself a prime time player and slim shady. >>
Friendship and romantic interest are two things altogether. I usually end up treating my friends whenever we chill because I make considerably more cash than they do and he's gone out of his way to give me rides to places when my pos car refuses to cooperate. I flirt with ALL my female friends, but they know it's all in good fun. You have to let him know what kind of relations you're looking into. He's not going to assume anything. Men are kinda dull that way, but that's just the way we are.
<< It's simple, the girl never pays for the guy. Either the guy pays or you split the tab (on occasions). The girl can only pay for dinner when:
1. It's a special day for him, such as his birthday.
2. It's a sad day for him, such as when a relative dies or he gets fired.
3. You unrelentingly insist that you pay, even threatening to withold certain pleasures.
4. He forgot his wallet, credit card, etc.
5. She's filthy rich.
A friend following certainly won't help. If she starts pointing things out, then he'll believe that you view him as cheap. Also, guys tend to show off when they are in the company of strangers (or not-so-familiar friends); he'll pay everything in front of others. I totally agree with yoda that he should at least offer to pay. >>
Those things happen a lot more than you may think GhostM - seriously - they're just friends, from what she has supplied to us - they're friends, buddies, good friends at that... you know how damn hard it is to take a good friendship to the next level? So many factors are implemented when a couple tries to do so... really, it is
"the girl never pays for the guy" - note the key word, NEVER - hehe, then you go ahead and list a few easy guidelines to follow
- there are a lot of rich girls out there... seriously, also a lot of rich guys... but they usually lose their wallets << He flirts with me a lot and tells me that I'm cute but he also calls himself a prime time player and slim shady. >>
He calls himself Slim Shady? Wow, hehe, wow - not to say that Marshall Mathers isn't a good looking guy... but when one makes an allusion to a rap artist who has sold label after label of ill-responded sources... you have to think... why he wouldn't chose, maybe, BEN AFFLACK or one of the *NSYNC guys ( I personally wouldn't mind it if I were a JC Chasez
)(GG)
Ally: u live in cerritos? hehe my roommate's from there In any case ur being played...pure and simple. But u can keep letting it happen if i want...ur call.
-Ed
In any case ur being played...pure and simple. But u can keep letting it happen if i want...ur call.-Ed
<< Ally: u live in cerritos? hehe my roommate's from there
In any case ur being played...pure and simple. But u can keep letting it happen if i want...ur call.-Ed >>
Psh, what would BruinED know? He goes to UCLA... the only girls he encounters there are chimpanzees
USC on the other hand... we have first class - Mmmm.... (GG drools - cannot complete phrase)
)(GG)
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<< Ally: u live in cerritos? hehe my roommate's from there
In any case ur being played...pure and simple. But u can keep letting it happen if i want...ur call.-Ed >>
Psh, what would BruinED know? He goes to UCLA... the only girls he encounters there are chimpanzees
USC on the other hand... we have first class - Mmmm.... (GG drools - cannot complete phrase)
)(GG) >>
Haha UCLA sux0rs:frown:
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<< Ally: u live in cerritos? hehe my roommate's from there
In any case ur being played...pure and simple. But u can keep letting it happen if i want...ur call.-Ed >>
Psh, what would BruinED know? He goes to UCLA... the only girls he encounters there are chimpanzees
USC on the other hand... we have first class - Mmmm.... (GG drools - cannot complete phrase)
)(GG) >>
Haha UCLA sux0rs:frown: >>
Goldenguppy: eh...I wouldn't say michelle kwan's a chimp...or alyssa beckerman...or jamie dantzcher. Eh...just spend $40 and u can have a go at that Trojan girl ur droolin' at
DAWeinG: Another disgruntled Trojan who couldn't get into UCLA?
-Ed
<< Goldenguppy: eh...I wouldn't say michelle kwan's a chimp...or alyssa beckerman...or jamie dantzcher. Eh...just spend $40 and u can have a go at that Trojan girl ur droolin' at >>
Trojan GIRL?! There's two of them - and I, no way in hell have 80 dollars to spend after all that money on books! Damn Aides development alone cost me a good 100 or so :|
)(GG)
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<< Goldenguppy: eh...I wouldn't say michelle kwan's a chimp...or alyssa beckerman...or jamie dantzcher. Eh...just spend $40 and u can have a go at that Trojan girl ur droolin' at >>
Trojan GIRL?! There's two of them - and I, no way in hell have 80 dollars to spend after all that money on books! Damn Aides development alone cost me a good 100 or so :|
)(GG) >>
Buy used books....instead of 100 -> 80, multiply the savings by the books...and voila...u've got the required moola...
-Ed
(almost) never by from the college bk store, online is the way to go, best friend still insists that she' going to airport w/ me, she's helping me move back to college on Sunday so she'll be by myside the whole day
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