changing small habits for your s/o...

[thomsbrain]

what the hell is the point of brushing before breakfast? that's like flushing and washing your hands before you take a dump.

the point is to clean the FOOD out of your teeth and get the NASTY out of your breath. and if you just go eat right after you do it, you'll accomplish neither.

 

[Philippine Mango]

Originally posted by: dullard
The best thing is to do whatever you can that is small. But never do any of the big things. If you have to completely change your life, then she isn't for you. When you do make a change, make it better for both of you. Lets look at brushing your teeth as an example.

Brushing when you first get up has 2 problems: (1) the paste taste often ruins the breakfast taste and (2) after eating breakfast you have bad breath again for the rest of the day. Of course, there is one benefit: no one notices your morning breath. So make a compromise. If you are going to eat breakfast right away, brush after breakfast. If you are going out in public for breakfast, brush before so that the waitress doesn't faint from you awful breath.

My wife and I had a similar problem at first. I like to squeeze the toothpaste tube from the bottom so I get every last drop in the correct proportion. She likes to squeeze from the middle/top so that over half goes to waste and she tosses it in the trash. Solution? Two tubes. One for me, one for her.

That is what relationships are about. Doing something to make BOTH people happier.

You know, I could learn something from you. I suffer from the same problem you SO does and it pisses me off that it happens each time (too much tooth paste).

 

[notfred]

The only habits that have changed around here because of me or my fiancee are because they're things we both do. For instance, I always used to pile dirty dishes next to the sink until I got around to washing them. She always piled them inside the sink. Now that we live together, they generally go inside the sink.

She used to eat fast food fairly often. I never ate fast food. Since we usually eat together, we almost never have fast food now.

We both still have whatever grooming habits we prefer for ourselves.

 

[Merlyn3D]

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[0roo0roo]

as long as the reward is getting to put it in the dare not speak its name hole its all good.

 

[PingSpike]

Originally posted by: notfred
The only habits that have changed around here because of me or my fiancee are because they're things we both do. For instance, I always used to pile dirty dishes next to the sink until I got around to washing them. She always piled them inside the sink. Now that we live together, they generally go inside the sink.

Yeah, this one is one of our little things. But WHY put them in the sink...when you're just going to have to take them back out again anyway to fill it up to wash them?

 

[Ilmater]

Women get into relationships expecting their men to change, but they never do.
Guys get into relationships expecting their women to stay the same, but they change.

These are irrefuatble facts of life that you must understand when getting into a relationship. That is all.

 

[jjones]

I wouldn't change any habits unless she pointed out a bad habit I was prone to making, I realized she was right, and then changed the habit for the betterment of my health and/or sanity. Another circumstance would be if changing one of my habits would lead to a betterment of our living experience. But to just change habits such as you describe because she wanted me to, not a chance in hell.