Carolina Beach restaurant to parents: "Screaming children will not be tolerated."

[NFS4]

Some parents also feel that if a child is throwing a temper tantrum, the best thing to do is ignore them. That's fine -- AT HOME. Not in a public place. If I pulled half the stuff I see these little brats pulling today, my mom or dad would've taken me to the bathroom or the car for a "talk." And by "talk," I mean an ass whipping.

Hell no it's not fine at home. You let them get away with that shit at home and guess what... they're gonna do it in public too

 

[Whisper]

Yes, because disciplining a screaming toddler will make them stop screaming. 🙄

It won't necessarily immediately stop them from screaming, but proper and consistent disciplining will generally decrease the overall likelihood of the activity occurring again, as the child learns that the behavior will not result in obtaining the desired reward.

 

[BornStar]

However, I must recognize my awesome blood. My sister's kid, a handful of months old, she says she often takes out to restaurants and he just sits there and typically sleeps. When she flew out here to visit, she brought the baby to the sports bar with us. He just stared out, loved looking at the lights, and for the 2 hours or so we were there, had absolutely zero problem sitting there quietly.

Will that continue when he is a year old, two? Who knows... but for now, he's apparently one of those rare good babies. 😀

My daughter also either slept or looked around contently until about seven or eight months old and then she found out that she could scream and it would get a really fun reaction from mommy and daddy. The screaming wasn't an upset scream, she would just scream and then look to us for a reaction. Once we realized she was setting us up we stopped reacting and she stopped screaming for the most part.

 

[Sho'Nuff]

I don't see anything "wrong" with this poolicy per se. But it is strange for a business to have a posted policy that will legitimately deter paying customers. In my view, it would be better from a business standpoint if the restaurant simply made it a policy for the manager to address the situation on a personal level shoud a chilkd have a screaming fit.

And for the record, I have an 18 month old. My wife and I take him out to eat with us sometimes, but we always bring plenty of stuff to entertain him. If he starts to get fussy, we take him outside or get the meal to go.

 

[NFS4]

I don't see anything "wrong" with this poolicy per se. But it is strange for a business to have a posted policy that will legitimately deter paying customers. In my view, it would be better from a business standpoint if the restaurant simply made it a policy for the manager to address the situation on a personal level shoud a chilkd have a screaming fit.

And for the record, I have an 18 month old. My wife and I take him out to eat with us sometimes, but we always bring plenty of stuff to entertain him. If he starts to get fussy, we take him outside or get the meal to go.

As the article said, her customers were upset over unruly kids. In addition, the policy has helped, more than hurt business.

The policy is upfront and in the open, so it's a win-win IMHO.

 

[Bateluer]

Good for the restaurant, definitely going to get a lot of business for this.

 

[Tobolo]

I don't have kids but I am sick and tired of parents letting their kids act like little tyrants, and when I say something, and I do, I just don't understand.

I do understand, parent are too lazy to discipline their kids and they blame it on everyone else.

 

[JulesMaximus]

Meh, kids scream sometimes. I just hate it when parents let the kids scream and don't do anything about it.

 

[mrCide]

I HATE being at a restaurant and seeing kids running up and down and playing and the parents just sitting there. This happened at a more expensive restaurant a few weeks ago which pissed me off even more. Stupid fucking parents.

 

[IndyColtsFan]

Hell no it's not fine at home. You let them get away with that shit at home and guess what... they're gonna do it in public too

My point is, I don't give a crap how they handle their kids at home. It isn't my place (or yours) to tell them how to raise their kids in the privacy of their own home. If it affects me in public however, I do care.

 

[ElFenix]

there's a legendary oyster bar here in houston that doesn't allow children at all.

 

[slag]

So you just let them do what they want and dont instill discipline in them? Way to set them up to fail.

Playing devil's advocate, how are you going to discipline a 2 year old? Can't spank them as that's child abuse in a public place
Can't put them in time out as they are too young to understand
Can't duct tape their mouth shut (legally)
Can't reason with them as they are too young to understand
All you can do is take them outside which really isn't discipline

 

[IndyColtsFan]

Playing devil's advocate, how are you going to discipline a 2 year old? Can't spank them as that's child abuse in a public place
Can't put them in time out as they are too young to understand
Can't duct tape their mouth shut (legally)
Can't reason with them as they are too young to understand
All you can do is take them outside which really isn't discipline

Quite frankly, I personally don't give a crap how people discipline their kids. That's their problem to figure out. It becomes MY problem, however, when kids are unruly at restaurants, theaters, etc. and the lazy ass parents just sit there and do nothing or act like it is "cute" or "what kids do." When it gets to that point, they just need to take the kids and leave if they can't discipline them in such a way to prevent further obnoxious behavior.

Newsflash to parents: Not everyone thinks your kids are cute or that regardless of how they act, they're "angels." Get off your butts and handle the situation and if you can't handle it, leave.

My BIL and SIL have two kids and they let their daughter run amok at holiday meals. The SIL acts so exhausted, so my MIL is the one who gets stuck with appeasing the little brat. It is really ridiculous and I wish my MIL would say something to them and lecture them on their kids' behavior at holiday meals.

 

[darkxshade]

Theaters should implement this

 

[dainthomas]

However, I must recognize my awesome blood. My sister's kid, a handful of months old, she says she often takes out to restaurants and he just sits there and typically sleeps. When she flew out here to visit, she brought the baby to the sports bar with us. He just stared out, loved looking at the lights, and for the 2 hours or so we were there, had absolutely zero problem sitting there quietly.

Will that continue when he is a year old, two? Who knows... but for now, he's apparently one of those rare good babies. 😀

My four year old was like that when she was a baby. She sure did a 180 when she hit 1.5-2.

 

[NFS4]

My point is, I don't give a crap how they handle their kids at home. It isn't my place (or yours) to tell them how to raise their kids in the privacy of their own home. If it affects me in public however, I do care.

I understand where you're coming from. I'm just saying, if you let your kids get away with bloody murder at home, it should stand to reason that they are going to think that they can do whatever the hell they want in public.

You can't have one without the other -- discipline starts at home. Undisciplined little shits at home turn out to be undisciplined little shits in public.

 

[SunnyD]

Playing devil's advocate, how are you going to discipline a 2 year old? Can't spank them as that's child abuse in a public place
Can't put them in time out as they are too young to understand
Can't duct tape their mouth shut (legally)
Can't reason with them as they are too young to understand
All you can do is take them outside which really isn't discipline

More of a problem of society feeling entitled to stick their nose in everybody else's business.

 

[BurnItDwn]

If you eat at bars, usually there are no screaming children.

That said, drunk people can be even worse!

 

[Jeff7]

:thumbsup: Maybe it just seems this way but I think todays parents are a LOT lazier than parents of my generation (And even then I think they were starting to slip). Neither my friends or I would have gotten away with half the shit I see parents let their kids do now a days

The screwy thing is, if you discipline your kids properly, it should end up requiring less effort in the long run, allowing more time to be lazy and relatively stress-free. But morons generally can't think of anything long-term, short of when the new fall TV lineup begins.

 

[IndyColtsFan]

I understand where you're coming from. I'm just saying, if you let your kids get away with bloody murder at home, it should stand to reason that they are going to think that they can do whatever the hell they want in public.

No argument from me. One of my favorite stories is from my mom. When she was a small child, she threw a temper tantrum. So, my grandma filled a pitcher with cold water, calmly walked over to her, and dumped it on her. There were no more temper tantrums after that.

Today, that would probably be considered "abuse."

 

[NFS4]

No argument from me. One of my favorite stories is from my mom. When she was a small child, she threw a temper tantrum. So, my grandma filled a pitcher with cold water, calmly walked over to her, and dumped it on her. There were no more temper tantrums after that.

Today, that would probably be considered "abuse."

LOL, that's fucking awesome! :biggrin: And she only needed to do it once.

 

[KDOG]

Love this idea. Needs to be instituted absolutely EVERYWHERE.

 

[shortylickens]

Yes, because disciplining a screaming toddler will make them stop screaming. 🙄

Actually it does, but ignorant people dont know that.
Talk to your parents.
Or, on the assumption your parents were probably not good at their job, talk to your grandparents.

 

[alkemyst]

THIS x eleventy billion!

The thought process is:

1) my kid is just being a kid

2) I'd be inconvenienced to take them outside

3) we are more important than you.

 

[Leros]

I hate when some little toddler peeks over into my booth during the meal. My girlfriend loves it and talks to the kid, completely ignoring me. Grrr, damn kids.