Bollocks back at you!

The engine is indeed at the very edge of operating: there is a single sensor on most cars, but the intake and exhaust system are not designed nor are they tested for the best balance at such a low power setting. This means that the balance between individual cylinders won't be as good as it is at the normal operating range.
Think about any car you have left idle for a long while. It will have a slight stutter or 'clearing of its throat' when you throttle up or go. I can't think of any car I have driven that does not load up just a little bit when left idling too long.
This is wrong.
Not sure what you are talking about by "edge of operating" and "balance between individual cylinders"... but:
The AFR on a standard fuel injected engine (no direct injection required) can reach 16:1 and higher and 40+ deg spark advance on an idling engine with no load, making it much more efficient than it would be under load or cruise in the 9:1 to 12:1 range, regardless of any other tuning parameters. Engines are extremely efficient at idle.
The stumble when you make a sudden throttle transition is called a transient and it is accommodated for via the throttle position sensor and an accelerator shot. Additionally there is another factor called wall film compensation for fuel that accumulates in the ports which suddenly breaks free off the port walls when the airflow is suddenly increased. No properly tuned and maintained EFI engine should stumble at all when throttling up from idle regardless how long it sits idling.
When an engine reaches operating temperature, it stays there. You have a thermostat and automatic fans that will maintain an absolute max coolant temperature of around 200 deg. It will maintain this indefinitely regardless if the car is moving or not. You will not exceed this temperature idling. Nor will you fall far below this temperature driving, as the fans will stay off and the thermostat will close in an attempt to KEEP this temperature.
Mechanical wear and tear is negligible idling compared to WOT and starting. And other theories such as oil/fuel contamination are also bogus. Cylinder pressure is lowest when idling with no load resulting in minimal blow by, and, as described above, the mixture at idle is so lean that there is minimal fuel in the combustion chamber TO blow by or cause bore wash.
There is no logical reason against idling a car other than wasting gas and creating unnecessary emissions.
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