• We’re currently investigating an issue related to the forum theme and styling that is impacting page layout and visual formatting. The problem has been identified, and we are actively working on a resolution. There is no impact to user data or functionality, this is strictly a front-end display issue. We’ll post an update once the fix has been deployed. Thanks for your patience while we get this sorted.

Can you marry a religious person?

Page 2 - Seeking answers? Join the AnandTech community: where nearly half-a-million members share solutions and discuss the latest tech.
lxskllr said:
Nope. Not Christian anyway. Something like Buddhism I could deal with, but that isn't really a magical thinking kind of religion.
Click to expand...

Actually I find most so-called "Buddhists" to be utterly pathetic. They claim to believe in some romanticized, white washed version of a religion that they think is hip and trendy. Lemmings.
 
Baked said:
As long as she's super hot and does all kinds of nasty/dirty shit behind closed doors, I don't care.
Click to expand...

Reminds me of someone who once said "I'm grateful that I was raised Catholic, since sex will always be dirty for me."
 
No i would not marry someone that religious. But mostly for her sake, not mine. To me those types of people deserve others who share the same crazy devotion.
 
only if they kept it to themselves and didn't mind that I'm a-religious.

I mostly life my life with Christian values (turn the other cheek and all that), but I have no interest in attending church or being an active member of a religious community.
 
Zeze said:
...Attends church every sunday
Click to expand...

Sure, I could deal with that as long as she doesn't make me go or scold me for not going. A little alone time is good for a relationship.

Zeze said:
...Gives tithe of all her earnings and encourages you so
Click to expand...

Deal breaker. With how expensive everything is these days, it just wouldn't work. It's simply not possible to pay the bills, save for retirement, tuck a little away in personal savings, and at the same time save a little money for your kid's college education while also tithing away a percent of your income, unless you are rich. It's basically throwing away a huge amount of money. I am fine with donating to charity if you can afford it but a constant parasitic drain on your finances is just too much. It's financially irresponsible and just stupid, and the church doesn't need 10% of everyone's income.

Zeze said:
...Interprets the world and life events as from god
Click to expand...

Whatever, I dumped that stupid bitch for tithing.
 
How big are this hypothetical person's breastages?

The size of the breastages are inversely proportional to how much I give a shit.
 
Won't matter anyway.

Once Romney get elected and legalizes polygamy, all the rich guys will have at least 10 wives each, which will leave no women, religious or not, for poor guys like me.
 
Umm... ... :hmm:

I think I'd have to know the whole package first. Then weigh the consequences. I might date and go for the notion of tearing a sweet fruit from limb of the crazy tree. Anything is possible.

Never say never! Consider it a test of logic and reason.
 
loki8481 said:
I mostly life my life with Christian values (turn the other cheek and all that), but I have no interest in attending church or being an active member of a religious community.
Click to expand...

I consider a lot of those "Christian values" to simply be good moral values. I try and keep myself of good moral fiber, and I don't consider myself any more religious in the slight bit because of it. Of course, it makes more sense if you subscribe to the "belief" that the point of religion is to enforce moral behavior on the malleable masses.
 
Yes, if they are respectful and accepting of other beliefs, cultures, and religions that differ from their own.

No, if are extremely rigid and believe that their way is the only way and that everyone else is doomed to hell.
 
Aikouka said:
No. My rule for dating anyone religious would be that they have to respect my lack of belief as I would respect their right to believe. I would also outright refuse to indoctrinate any children, which would probably never sit right with them. Last thing they would want is their little one potentially going to the Lake of Fire™.
Click to expand...

This is the problem with non-religious dating the religious. They are incapable of respecting any one else's beliefs. It is a part of nearly all religions that if you are not of their religion you are wrong and must be shown the right way, with violence if necessary.

As my ex-girlfriend told me when she left me: Why should I stay with you when I know you are going to go to hell and I'll never see you again. Why spend my life with someone that I won't spend my eternity with?

This is their truth. This life is just a waiting room for the real life. It is why they can do so many horrible things, this life is not the important one to them.
 
loki8481 said:
only if they kept it to themselves and didn't mind that I'm a-religious.

I mostly life my life with Christian values (turn the other cheek and all that), but I have no interest in attending church or being an active member of a religious community.
Click to expand...


The "golden rule" is WAY older that christinaty...don't buy into their lie about it's origins...as so much else christians say: It's a lie.
 
SMOGZINN said:
This is the problem with non-religious dating the religious. They are incapable of respecting any one else's beliefs. It is a part of nearly all religions that if you are not of their religion you are wrong and must be shown the right way, with violence if necessary.

As my ex-girlfriend told me when she left me: Why should I stay with you when I know you are going to go to hell and I'll never see you again. Why spend my life with someone that I won't spend my eternity with?

This is their truth. This life is just a waiting room for the real life. It is why they can do so many horrible things, this life is not the important one to them.
Click to expand...

I have as much respect for "gods" as I have for any fairytales...don't try and make superstion special...just because it's called "religion"...it's still lies.
 
Zeze said:
I don't mean casual religious, but not an extremist cuckoo either.

Someone who...

...Attends church every sunday
...Gives tithe of all her earnings and encourages you so
...Interprets the world and life events as from god
...etc etc.
Click to expand...

Would you marry a caricature of a religious person? That's all that's defined by the above -- a picture of someone following a picture of some religious convention. If that convention was strong enough to engulf your community, the answer would be obvious -- of course you would, as that'd be the convention. In a broader society however, we recognize that that caricature and convention alone are not sufficient. So then the question of whether or not you would subscribe to a caricature answers itself. You wouldn't.

But if we're to try to ask a deeper question -- whether or not you would marry someone with deeply held spiritual beliefs, I think we come back to the question of what are your own spiritual beliefs and to what degree are the respective beliefs mutually compatible. Then again, I think it's most fruitful to consider it from your own perspective, and not some imagined other perspective -- i.e. instead of asking you how much "otherness" you would tolerate in a perspective spouse, the better question is how much of your own sort of spirituality you would want in your spouse.

The answer in this thread from my perspective is "quite a lot" -- that the atheist would want a spouse who's quite compatible with atheism. Generalized across the spectrum, I think that this is the right answer, but the difficulty is in how the spectrum is conceptually organized.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.

TRENDING THREADS

Back
Top