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Can you be happy without a mate?

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Happy is kind of a funny word. I was sailing down a country road the other day in a big old truck with an open door. It took be back to similar long rides on my motorcycle in spring time through the hills of Berkeley and other places. Everywhere the hills are green and flowers bloom in orchards. There one is in all that beauty swaying side to side to meet the curves lost in a moving impression. Look, a sign. Did it say Berkeley school for the blind?

It seems there are two sides to life, two experiences that are mutually exclusive and can't share consciousness, one deep and one light and airy and to contain them both is to burst. I was talking to linuxboy today and mentioned to him a moment out of Blade Runner when the android in the last few moments of his life speaks of having seen things you can't imagine out among the stars, things the memory of which is about to disappear forever.

How deep is this desire to share the mystery of our souls with another, with the beloved. What an ache is separation. What an utter mystery our consciousness.

Back and forth we travel swinging from side to side on this our magic ride, to weep and leap for joy, singly and together.
 


<< If you need someone to make you happy, you are missing something. However, finding someone special that ADDS to you life is truly magical - work at keeping that relationship. >>

That's the most interesting thing I've heard in a while. Sounds so true.
 
For myself, the answer would be no. I derive more pleasure in caring for others - one other - than I do from anything else. That's my role in life.

Viper GTS
 

yes i can be happy without a mate.

but i know i am generally happier with one.

i enjoy the time with my friends a lot but i find myself loging for the idea of my ex for example. not really for her, but for the idea of waking up next to her/someone.

generally i am too busy having a blast with friends or enjoying everything going on around, but there are still moments when i miss sharing them with someone.


moonbeam: nice post as always. 🙂
 
I'm single and I'm really, really, really happy.
I'm estatic, really.

Honestly, I'm really happy.




Really.








Ok, I'm not happy. It sucks right now, especially since it has been raining and gloomy all week. I go home to an empty house and I don't feel like cooking, even though I love to cook. It sucks when I fall asleep on the couch in the living room and wake up cold and in clothes I wore that day. Thank heavens there is still Tanqueray, Castle Wolfenstein, and DSL.

But ask in a month or two when I have someone and I'll tell you I want to be single again.
😱
 
I can't be happy without. Or perhaps that needs to be analyzed from a different perspective? Maybe it's just thinking about that constantly is depressing, and I can in fact be happy without, but longing for it makes loneliness all the more worse? Damn my uncontrollable conscience and emotions!

Something to note... When I'm occupied, either doing something and my mind is set on it, or just with casual friends or something of the sort - it's a lot easier to not 'think about it', and just be happy. However, when there is masses of "alone time", depression is a much more bastardly opponent.

Sorry I can't speak quite so eloquently as some here, but I'm on low sleep and haven't eaten a meal yet today. 😕
 
I'm married now but in my bachelor days I never thought I would ever get married. In those days I was always happy without a mate as long as I always knew I would be frequently "mating".
 
The grass always seems to be greener on the other side of the fence. When I was married I wanted to be single, now that I'm single again I want someone to share my life with.
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Can you be happy without a mate?

Yes, at least I can. IMO, people are annoying. A scant few individuals are interesting, but people are annoying.

My idea of "social interaction" is going to a public place for a ~20minutes and then leaving.


Lethal
 
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