Can Guys go out alone ?? Would you ?

[Draknor]

I've gone out alone before - it was kind of fun. First I hit a bar w/ a dance floor, didn't find anything exciting so I went down to techno dance club. I wasn't really going out to meet anyone, but I did have a pretty good time. It was my first time out "alone", so I wasn't exactly social; that, and I already have a gf, so I wasn't about to go hitting on girls.

But I think going out and playing some darts or pool would be kinda fun - keeps you from getting bored, but not too hard to do. Biggest thing - just relax & have fun. Smile, laugh, act like you're not nervous

 

[polm]

Originally posted by: pyonir

Originally posted by: polm

Any suggestions on how to pick the right bar ? Trial and error I assume. I am in Memphis, TN and there are a TON of bars.

i tend to stay away from the 'college' bars myself, hmmm maybe that is the problem, but anyway, go to a bar where you are the most attractive dude there. If i can find a bar like that, chances are you can.

but seriously, depends on what you like. I like conversation more, so i tend to head to Irish pubs. Some people like dancing more, so they hit up a club/bar. Some people, like Beau, are more into just hanging out playing pool or something. depends on what you are looking for.

Well, I am only 23 so I probably need to hang out at the College bars. But I have, and it seems like college age women are very group oriented. They hang out with their cirle of friends, and only date guys who are in that group too. I am too young looking to date women much older than me.

 

[rbhawcroft]

Originally posted by: polm
If you moved to a new city, and you didn't have an opportunity to meet the women at work, plus you don't know ANYONE who lives in this new city....would you venture out alone to meet girls ?? I am unfortunately in this situation and it SUX !!! I am kinda embarrased to go out to bars alone. What should I do ?

how ol dare you, not that old by the sounds of it, you shouldnt have too much trouble striking up a convo with a chick.

i finished uni a year ago, and although i wont go into details i came home, and didnt have many friends locally so quite often ive gone out clubbing, but not really to bars. Its quite easy to meet women you just have to be reciprocal if they try and talk to you, and not be drunk. If you can chat to them its only a matter of time before youre screwing one of them, trust me. =)
Its better if they eye you are look like people you would like to talk with generally as well.
You could do latin dancing as well, that is so easy to meet women though, you could dance with a different girl each week and when i did it at least half of them got wet.

 

[Garet Jax]

Originally posted by: vi_edit
Get a dog, take it for walks, especially at dog parks if they have them.

EASY way to meet women.

Right, but the wrong reason to get a dog.

 

[pyonir]

Originally posted by: polm

Well, I am only 23 so I probably need to hang out at the College bars. But I have, and it seems like college age women are very group oriented. They hang out with their cirle of friends, and only date guys who are in that group too. I am too young looking to date women much older than me.

yeah, i'm 24. but most of the college bars have the people in them that are 21-22 and annoying as hell, to me anyway. i would prefer sitting in a local bar 100 times before i meet a woman, than sitting in a college atmosphere bar 10 times. but that is me. You just gotta go out and find a place that suits you. trial and error my friend.

 

[brtspears2]

Its definatly cheaper to go alone...but the price of being alone is a hard one to swallow.

 

[polm]

Originally posted by: pyonir

Originally posted by: polm

Well, I am only 23 so I probably need to hang out at the College bars. But I have, and it seems like college age women are very group oriented. They hang out with their cirle of friends, and only date guys who are in that group too. I am too young looking to date women much older than me.

yeah, i'm 24. but most of the college bars have the people in them that are 21-22 and annoying as hell, to me anyway. i would prefer sitting in a local bar 100 times before i meet a woman, than sitting in a college atmosphere bar 10 times. but that is me. You just gotta go out and find a place that suits you. trial and error my friend.

I completely agree with you on the college bar scene. I never went to college and I have been in the work world since high school. This typically gets in the way of meeting chicks my age, because our schedules and lifestyles in general are quite different. Unfortunately, like I said before, I am very young looking, and I only stand a chance with younger looking girls.

 

[rbhawcroft]

Originally posted by: polm

Originally posted by: pyonir

Originally posted by: polmAny suggestions on how to pick the right bar ? Trial and error I assume. I am in Memphis, TN and there are a TON of bars.

i tend to stay away from the 'college' bars myself, hmmm maybe that is the problem, but anyway, go to a bar where you are the most attractive dude there. If i can find a bar like that, chances are you can. but seriously, depends on what you like. I like conversation more, so i tend to head to Irish pubs. Some people like dancing more, so they hit up a club/bar. Some people, like Beau, are more into just hanging out playing pool or something. depends on what you are looking for.

Well, I am only 23 so I probably need to hang out at the College bars. But I have, and it seems like college age women are very group oriented. They hang out with their cirle of friends, and only date guys who are in that group too. I am too young looking to date women much older than me.

youre not that old, when i was nineteen i could pull women in their late thirties.
like i said aplace of mutual interest is good, so latin or dance clubs for me, or some bars as well i guess.
im only 23 now.

 

[polm]

Originally posted by: rbhawcroft

Originally posted by: polm

Originally posted by: pyonir

Originally posted by: polmAny suggestions on how to pick the right bar ? Trial and error I assume. I am in Memphis, TN and there are a TON of bars.

i tend to stay away from the 'college' bars myself, hmmm maybe that is the problem, but anyway, go to a bar where you are the most attractive dude there. If i can find a bar like that, chances are you can. but seriously, depends on what you like. I like conversation more, so i tend to head to Irish pubs. Some people like dancing more, so they hit up a club/bar. Some people, like Beau, are more into just hanging out playing pool or something. depends on what you are looking for.

Well, I am only 23 so I probably need to hang out at the College bars. But I have, and it seems like college age women are very group oriented. They hang out with their cirle of friends, and only date guys who are in that group too. I am too young looking to date women much older than me.

youre not that old, when i was nineteen i could pull women in their late thirties.
like i said aplace of mutual interest is good, so latin or dance clubs for me, or some bars as well i guess.
im only 23 now.

You probably look older than you are. I look younger than I am....I still get carded for cigarretes.

 

[pyonir]

Originally posted by: polm

You probably look older than you are. I look younger than I am....I still get carded for cigarretes.

dude, when i shave my goatee, i get carded for R rated movies...

 

[MrDingleDangle]

ive done it since moving to Houston sometimes, one thing i found is try to go early or to a not too crowded bar...it sux going into a really crowded bar getting a drink and just standing there...if u go early before its too crowded u can usually find someone to talk to as the crowd rolls in

 

[tontod]

polm: Sounds like my situation almost. I recently got a new job and moved into this area that I've never been before. Form work, they sponsored something called "singled out" which was something designed to get singles to meet each other - it was a bbq party basically. I talked to a few women, that was about it. Then I went to a happy hour last Friday, met a girl there that I had met at this "singled out" event. I got lucky, found some of her traits are similar to mine, asked her out to dinner on Friday, and she agreed. So I would not worry about it, just go out with friends/co-workers to bars, social events, etc.

Edit: To add, I'm not a social person at all, dont like going out to bars. I just went to a couple of bars to meet people, not necessarily because I like going to them. Just go up to a girl and start talking, that requires a lot of courage. The more you do it, the easier it gets.

 

[Shelly21]

Originally posted by: weezergirl

Originally posted by: vi_edit
Get a dog, take it for walks, especially at dog parks if they have them.

EASY way to meet women.

As a female, I'd just like to say this works!

YMMV, I don't like dogs that much.

If can can walk a cat.... I'd definately stop and talk to you......

 

[polm]

Originally posted by: tontod
polm: Sounds like my situation almost. I recently got a new job and moved into this area that I've never been before. Form work, they sponsored something called "singled out" which was something designed to get singles to meet each other - it was a bbq party basically. I talked to a few women, that was about it. Then I went to a happy hour last Friday, met a girl there that I had met at this "singled out" event. I got lucky, found some of her traits are similar to mine, asked her out to dinner on Friday, and she agreed. So I would not worry about it, just go out with friends/co-workers to bars, social events, etc.

Edit: To add, I'm not a social person at all, dont like going out to bars. I just went to a couple of bars to meet people, not necessarily because I like going to them. Just go up to a girl and start talking, that requires a lot of courage. The more you do it, the easier it gets.

Thats just it...I don't have any frineds here...and my work does not setup any "singles" events...

 

[tontod]

Originally posted by: polm

Originally posted by: tontod
polm: Sounds like my situation almost. I recently got a new job and moved into this area that I've never been before. Form work, they sponsored something called "singled out" which was something designed to get singles to meet each other - it was a bbq party basically. I talked to a few women, that was about it. Then I went to a happy hour last Friday, met a girl there that I had met at this "singled out" event. I got lucky, found some of her traits are similar to mine, asked her out to dinner on Friday, and she agreed. So I would not worry about it, just go out with friends/co-workers to bars, social events, etc.

Edit: To add, I'm not a social person at all, dont like going out to bars. I just went to a couple of bars to meet people, not necessarily because I like going to them. Just go up to a girl and start talking, that requires a lot of courage. The more you do it, the easier it gets.

Thats just it...I don't have any frineds here...and my work does not setup any "singles" events...

Try going to a few different bars first. Or, try to join some kind of club or sporting activity where there might be women. Even if you dont meet a woman that's willing to go out with you, you might meet one or two that might be willing to set you up.

 

[Cyberian]

Thats just it...I don't have any frineds here...and my work does not setup any "singles" events...

You might want to just go to a neighborhood bar for a beer after work.
Shoot some pool, throw some darts and BS with the local crowd. You should have fun, learn a little bit about the local scene, and maybe even make a friend or two. It's also a good place to ask about local restaurants, dry cleaners, grocers, etc.

 

[freebee]

And hey, remember if the girl thing don't work out....you always got the dog.....

(and no, i didn't mean it in that way...)

 

[UNCjigga]

Originally posted by: LuNoTiCK
Im not good with meeting girls. But I would just chill around by myself.

You could always try going into a bar with a hooded cloak on, and sitting in the darkest spot all by yourself, sipping a brew and not saying a word...just staring into your mug...Strider-style...

 

[dirtboy]

I'm not into clubbing, I wouldn't go there anyway.

 

[Angrymarshmello]

Nothing wrong with going to a bar by yourself. You're just paranoid and uptight if you care that much about what others think

 

[goog]

Originally posted by: Shelly21

Originally posted by: weezergirl

Originally posted by: vi_edit
Get a dog, take it for walks, especially at dog parks if they have them.

EASY way to meet women.

As a female, I'd just like to say this works!

YMMV, I don't like dogs that much.

If can can walk a cat.... I'd definately stop and talk to you......

LOL, any non-dog guys might have to try that. The dog in the park thing works too.

I'd go out to a bar by myself and mingle, drink, play pool. There are other places to meet women, like the park, school, the grocery store, laundromat, event of some sort.

 

[jonnyjack]

getting a dog requires responsibility. if you don't want to raise one then put out an ad as a dog walker, you'll get paid to walk it and not have to worry about feeding it and taking care of it while getting the benefits of meeting girls when walking the dog idea...haha

 

[djheater]

Originally posted by: Electric Amish
I'm so glad I didn't have to go through this...

Me too.

...I mean... I'm glad I didn't have to go through it.... but I'm glad you didnt' either....

 

[KokomoGST]

You can... it kinda sucks sometimes though, but like others have said, no group mentality to hold you back. I've always hated bars (only attended house/frat/apt parties in college) and similar to polm and others, I look WAY young for my age. I'm still carded all the time despite being 25. Heck, when I went to Taiwan, 19-20yr olds were flirting with me.

My main problem is trying to meet asian american women of my approximate age in my area. I think I need to move... church works if you go to a fairly big one though. Going to a smaller church you'll have to find other ways to meet people in general. One of the reasons why I go racing and crap is because it's easy to meet people since it is a social sport... despite my initial shyness, the common interest factor usually overcomes. I go to the gym a lot and I've seen that as a method of meeting people. Personally, I don't because A) gym time is for the workout no time for socializing B) girls there don't interest me so far.

 

[Noriaki]

I go out alone all the time.

Rarely to bars, cause I don't much like them.

But I go to Movies alone often. I'd say 30-40% of the time when I see a movie, I go alone.

I don't try to pick up women though...not to interested at this point.