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Do you see anything wrong with having your fiancee move in with you? Is it "bad thing to do" in this day and age?

I'll give a little background, my fiancee and I have been engaged a few months and she's a couple months away from graduation. Her parents have put her on a financial chokehold because she doesn't have to pay a penny for anything, however, they won't let her move in with me due to it being "not Christian". Now I'm certainly not an angel but I do go to church semi regularly and I'm even converting so we can get married in her church. So she cannot move in due to her parents being "old fashioned Italians" meanwhile her dad hasn't gone to Church in a decade and he moved in with his fiancee back in the day.

Hypocrisy? I think so.
 
It's frowned upon just like sex before marriage.

Does anyone practice it? Hardly anyone I know. Times have changed.
 
My girlfriend and her family are catholic. Most of her family do not have a problem with the fact that we live together, but her grandmother (strict Catholic) is not to know of the situation. Hell, her grandmother is pissed that her granddaughter is even dating a non-Catholic.
 
i dont recall anything like that as far as the religion, but i do remember seeing a fact about how the percentage for divorces of people who move in BEFORE marriage is alot higher than those that move in AFTER marriage. the article was on the web, so im sure you can find it or someone will post it.
 
Not that I care if she is able to move in or not, I would be able to make use of the space and free time before it's all gone at least 😀 But this does strike a small nerve in the "practice what you preach" department.
 
For hypocrisy..sure sounds like it..heh

As far as the moving in together issue..is it offically 'ok' as far as the Church goes? Probably not -- you may want to ask a priest. I'm not an authority in this subject by any means, though..

For Catholicism, attending mass weekly is mandatory..just so you know.. 😉
 
haha yeah I know, I've been raised to go to church every sunday but since I graduated highschool I've had a ton of other things to do so I wasn't able to go all the time.

I will note that the Catholics seem to be trying to change their image. I used to think the Catholics as being that of an archaic and stoic religion not changing with the times but they seem alright - so far 🙂

Only thing that sucks is that it totally ruins my saturday nights since I have to go to sleep early and all of sunday morning 🙁
 
Originally posted by: purbeast0
i dont recall anything like that as far as the religion, but i do remember seeing a fact about how the percentage for divorces of people who move in BEFORE marriage is alot higher than those that move in AFTER marriage. the article was on the web, so im sure you can find it or someone will post it.
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yeah i remember seeing that, but i don't think the timing of the move in is the cause. i think both are an effect of the type of people who engage in such behavior.
 
I don't think that the priest will really care - just don't make a big deal about it... One of the priests that married us knew we lived together a year before the wedding, and he never said anything to us about it.
 
Times have changed, simply put. I for one think it would be a smart idea for me to live with a girl before marriage simply because I know I can be completely anal about how certain things go. It's almost like a "test drive" of the marriage. I'm sure it is looked down upon by Catholic religion, but I would guess it is looked down upon much less than sex before marriage.
 
We did it, got married in a catholic church, priest never even mentioned it.

I think it's much more acceptible these days and even more so when you're already engaged and just moving in for financial reasons. You could always say: "She stays at my house every night anyway, so why paid 2 rents" and see what reaction you get.
 
well it would be one thing if the couple was not engaged and moved in but if they are then who cares? I don't see the big deal with it. I am not even going to bring this up to her dad since I already expressed how much of a hypocritical fool he is to her (he doesn't want to go to church anymore because too many people died, oy vey)

And she lives with her parents along with her coddled 21 year old brother who makes armor for SCA reenactment events (nerd) 😀

Can't wait to move out of the state to get away from her tardo family.
 
Originally posted by: IHYLN
Do you see anything wrong with having your fiancee move in with you? Is it "bad thing to do" in this day and age?

I'll give a little background, my fiancee and I have been engaged a few months and she's a couple months away from graduation. Her parents have put her on a financial chokehold because she doesn't have to pay a penny for anything, however, they won't let her move in with me due to it being "not Christian". Now I'm certainly not an angel but I do go to church semi regularly and I'm even converting so we can get married in her church. So she cannot move in due to her parents being "old fashioned Italians" meanwhile her dad hasn't gone to Church in a decade and he moved in with his fiancee back in the day.

Hypocrisy? I think so.
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it's fornication. while living (sleeping) with you before marriage she'll be in a state
of mortal sin & won't be able to take communion. the fact that her father hasn't
gone to church & himself was a fornicator is irrelevant.

you don't have to convert to Catholicism in order to be married in a Catholic church.

if you don't believe what the Church teaches, then why are you going through
the pretense of converting?
 
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